It sounds like you feel a bit personally attacked with what's going on given your family's financial situation. I'm sorry for that and I can see how it would be alienating...
I wonder if some of the distaste you feel for the protests has to do with the way they are portrayed in the media?
I've seen a fair bit of American news coverage of the Occupy protests, and in my opinion it's portrayed quite differently from the way I've seen it portrayed on other news networks (from Canada, the UK, the Middle East and other areas of Europe). I think there is a lot of focus on the demonization of people who have higher incomes - when really from what I've read elsewhere the movement is more about the potential for change within the economic system. A lot of the issues at hand are about failed economic policy: not that people who work hard don’t deserve success.
Again, from what I’ve read elsewhere (outside of mainstream US media), the Occupy movement (when it is articulated well) is less about the redistribution of wealth than it is about ensuring a fair chance for people to benefit from their hard work. This seems to be where problems start... people beginning from a sincerely disadvantaged place simply do not have the equality of opportunity that is supposed to be a cornerstone of a just society.
Even if one starts from the same place as most others, if one has worked hard in school and made generally good choices in life, it should follow (again, on this supposed just society) that one has a relatively stable income, housing, medical care etc. It is alright to benefit from your hard work! *But the problem seems to be is that, to an increasing and alarming level, this no longer happens*
It doesn’t happen because of the system within which people are trying to function - and the change that people are calling for is for that system to reflect the values of justice and equity that democratic countries pride themselves on.
I’m behind that.