My 6.5 yo is morphing into a kid I don't recognize these days. That's a slight exaggeration, of course, but he has recently (as in the last 6 months) become more disrespectful in how he talks to me and DH, his brothers, even his music teacher. He seems WAY more into his friends and what they think and just, well, has become kind of brat at home.
For some backstory - he has always been this very thoughtful, well-spoken little boy and has never, ever, given us any trouble in this department. So he's caught us off guard and I'm not sure how to deal with it.
Is it a "normal" developmental milestone or something? I know he is becoming more independent and maybe wants to flex those muscles a bit. But, obviously, he can't go around saying "whatever" and rolling his eyes when I tell him he needs to pick his backpack up off the floor, for example. My response up to this point has been to say "Excuse me? That was disrespectful and we don't talk that way." Which is usually followed by him saying something like "Jeez, I was getting it!"
He sounds like a surly preteen and he's only in the 1st grade!
I've also heard him bossing/being rude to his 5 yo brother. They play together a lot and I hear "No, don't do it THAT way!!! Look, you ruined it. If you could learn how to do something right then this wouldn't have happened!" I mean, seriously, he's brow beating his little brother! And, no, we don't talk to him or his brothers like that at home.
He's also taking music lessons and while he used to be able to sit still, participate, be a good, helpful student, he is suddenly doing rude and disruptive things like leaning back in his chair and loudly yawning or repeatedly asking the teacher when the lesson is over.
I've tried talking to him about how he'd feel if someone treated him like that and he tends to express remorse and say he's sorry and he wouldn't like it, etc. But in the moment he just responds however he wants.
Anyone have experience with this? I'm trying to figure out how best to get him on track with respectful talk and don't know what to do besides talk to him about it. There don't seem to be any natural consequences for being rude (well, eventually there are, but at this point his 5yo brother still wants to play with him even though he talks to him rudely).