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Poll Results: Are you going to get a flu shot?

 
  • 31% (14)
    Yes
  • 59% (26)
    No
  • 9% (4)
    Undecided
44 Total Votes  
post #41 of 125


Ouch. No, I don't think you are on the wrong board at all. Vaccinating (as well as circ) is always one of those really hot topics where there is so much at stake (on both sides) and so much passion, sometimes its really easy to let a crocodile mouth over ride a hummingbird butt. LOL - Especially when we are all horomonal.

Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeek.

We don't vax, I'm on the same fence as 1more. If it was MMR, and Polio and that was it - hey, I could accept it. No problem. I am NOT so confident of my choice for my family that I would ever lecture any one who chooses different.

 

God forbid communication becomes an echo chamber.

Anyways, All this to say. We all need to do what feels like the right decision as we are the only one who will have to answer for it.

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Originally Posted by janellody View Post

Is it so wrong to care about others as well as yourself and not be quite as "selfish", as you call it?  And I am glad that we can all share our opinion here without anyone "thinking less of" our choices, but come on, saying that I am going to "vaccinate my child and subject him/her to the side effects and range of dangers" just shows that maybe you DO think less of those who make that choice. But hey, that is OK, we all get to make our own decisions.  I am just hoping that even those with less popular decisions on here don't get crucified for sharing their opinions.  If we are on this board just to get talked down to for vaccinating and getting flu shots and not homebirthing or using a midwife, etc. then I guess I stumbled upon the wrong board....

 



 

post #42 of 125

I haven't yet gotten the impression that this community is overwhelmingly and unconditionally against allopathic medicine. I DO get the impression that most women want to be as educated as possible when it comes to their family's well-being and health, and sometimes well-meaning help can (I believe completely unintentionally) come across as preaching. People are passionate about taking care of their families - this is evolutionarily selected for - so of course we have strong opinions. I just haven't seem evidence beyond isolated cases that this is an intolerant place in general. And I actually see nothing on this thread that makes me feel threatened, and I'm not completely anti-vax.

post #43 of 125

I'm not getting it, but really, don't anyone feel bad about being here because of what you choose. I used (USED) to be hard core against most vaccines. Now I still don't vaccinate, but I'm much more open to the idea. I've found that usually people are most judgmental when they have one kid and their kid is young. You grow out of that as you have more kids and/or your kid(s) get older. I did. :) I don't even like to think about how worked up I used to get about this topic. I've actually considered even starting a new account and abandoning this one because of it. The only reason I haven't is just because I don't want to be new all over again, and there are people I run into every now and then on here that I really like, even though I've really only been here for my DDC's the last few years. Anyway, don't worry about whether or not you fit in.

post #44 of 125


it sure sounds like you have not done much research from this comment you posted. actually the freshly vaccinated person puts the non vaxes person at risk because of the live virus they are shedding. by all means vaccinate if you want to but please make sure your statement backs up your beliefs.

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Originally Posted by janellody View Post


As for vaccines, I just think that the people who aren't getting vaccines are putting the rest in danger... but of course it's everyone's personal choice that they get to make.  I will just get ours and hope there are no complications.  There can be with anything, but to me it's the right thing to do.

post #45 of 125

One persons research is anothers' biased blitherings. I present Dr. Amy and Alex Jones as two people with 'solid research' on complete different sides of the pendulum. What conclusions would you come to if you listened solely to one over the other? Which one would be the truth?

We don't know all that we don't know.


however, we should know (as mothers of the next generation!)

 

Kindness is never wasted, right?

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Originally Posted by polishprinsezz View Post

it sure sounds like you have not done much research from this comment you posted. actually the freshly vaccinated person puts the non vaxes person at risk because of the live virus they are shedding. by all means vaccinate if you want to but please make sure your statement backs up your beliefs.



 

post #46 of 125
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Originally Posted by polishprinsezz View Post

it sure sounds like you have not done much research from this comment you posted. actually the freshly vaccinated person puts the non vaxes person at risk because of the live virus they are shedding. by all means vaccinate if you want to but please make sure your statement backs up your beliefs.


No.  I don't need to prove to you or anyone else that my opinion is justified.  If you disagree, fine.  I am not telling you to go vaccinate your children and I hope you won't force your beliefs on me. 

 

Can't we all just have our own opinions?  Are we making topics about these things just so all like-minded people can get together and pat each other on the back?  How boring is the world when everyone agrees?  I am not looking to stir the pot, just thought I was doing what everyone else was doing: answering the question and adding my opinion.  Mine just happens to differ from the majority. 

 

Can we just move on and go back to discussing morning sickness and acne again?

 

 

 

post #47 of 125
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Originally Posted by janellody View Post

Is it so wrong to care about others as well as yourself and not be quite as "selfish", as you call it?  And I am glad that we can all share our opinion here without anyone "thinking less of" our choices, but come on, saying that I am going to "vaccinate my child and subject him/her to the side effects and range of dangers" just shows that maybe you DO think less of those who make that choice. But hey, that is OK, we all get to make our own decisions.  I am just hoping that even those with less popular decisions on here don't get crucified for sharing their opinions.  If we are on this board just to get talked down to for vaccinating and getting flu shots and not homebirthing or using a midwife, etc. then I guess I stumbled upon the wrong board....

 



I'm sorry, I believe everyone has a right to vax or not vax, but your statements in this thread have been nothing but inflamatory. Do not try to turn it around into you are being picked on. Everyone here has been very diplomatic in their words until your first post. Where you made a comment about people not vaxing being  "wrong". Do not get upset because someone thinks you are putting your child in danger after you said "I just think that the people who aren't getting vaccines are putting the rest in danger" it swings both ways my dear. Your own opinion is fine, but when you crossed over into saying that your opposition is just "wrong" without justification (whether you feel you need to or not) you turned your opinion into hateful words.

 

RE: the change in MDC. I like it. Not the ad changes lol, but I do like the little less crunchie feeling. I pratically abandoned my old account two years ago when I felt the moderation had gone overboard. I like the fact there are opposing opinions here, discussion is wonderful, but at the point someone says I don't need to justify myself, it is officially no longer a discussion.S

 

If I am coming off as mean, so be it. I'm preganant and am at one with my bitchiness.

post #48 of 125

i think your statement is well put tibris.  the only problem i have with the new mdc is it takes forever for my page to load now with all these advertisements.
 

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Originally Posted by tibris View Post

I'm sorry, I believe everyone has a right to vax or not vax, but your statements in this thread have been nothing but inflamatory. Do not try to turn it around into you are being picked on. Everyone here has been very diplomatic in their words until your first post. Where you made a comment about people not vaxing being  "wrong". Do not get upset because someone thinks you are putting your child in danger after you said "I just think that the people who aren't getting vaccines are putting the rest in danger" it swings both ways my dear. Your own opinion is fine, but when you crossed over into saying that your opposition is just "wrong" without justification (whether you feel you need to or not) you turned your opinion into hateful words.

 

RE: the change in MDC. I like it. Not the ad changes lol, but I do like the little less crunchie feeling. I pratically abandoned my old account two years ago when I felt the moderation had gone overboard. I like the fact there are opposing opinions here, discussion is wonderful, but at the point someone says I don't need to justify myself, it is officially no longer a discussion.S

 

If I am coming off as mean, so be it. I'm preganant and am at one with my bitchiness.



 

post #49 of 125

polish - I know!!! half the time I get so tired of waiting I just shut it down and forget it! I wonder if it's a ploy to get more people to subscribe :) I have to admit if I was promised it would get me faster loading time I'd probably sign up :p

post #50 of 125

MDC that was when I started here was never judgmental, in fact wasn't MDC once voted the most tollerant community? I think in the past couple years somewhere along the lines something changed  and that "peace" of the community was lost. I personally I miss the ultra crunchy love peace and hair grease vibe that it had years ago, (6-8 years not a couple)is seems somewhere along the way that was lost. There was no over zealous moderation then. 

 

My Point being being MDC was never a place of judgement or choices it was a place to educate and become educated about alternatives. Members would never tell you that you were wrong for vaxing, they would post evidence and facts to proved that vaccines were wrong. Not opinions.

 

Fact is even on the vaccine insert they say there is no proof that the flu vaccine works. Fact is, vaccine inserts say only vaccinate unless you absolutely need too for pregnancy. With those facts provided by the company, and my personal opinion, I choose not to vax myself.

post #51 of 125


no one here is forcing their beliefs on you but your comment about non-vaxed kids putting vaxed kids at risk sounds like your forcing your belief on me.no one her told you that you should not vaccinate your children. your comment does seem to come off as attacking non-vaxers as you stated that they put your vaxed children at risk.  you are now stating that is merely your opinion and not a proven fact than by all means do what you think is best to protect your family as that is what we all here believe in. just as you dont want to hear that you are wrong for vaxing no one wants to hear they wrong for not vaxing and that is basically what your comment that i disagreed with said.

 

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Originally Posted by janellody View Post

No.  I don't need to prove to you or anyone else that my opinion is justified.  If you disagree, fine.  I am not telling you to go vaccinate your children and I hope you won't force your beliefs on me. 

 



 

post #52 of 125


 

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Originally Posted by pregnova View Post

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I also do not hold with the whole herd mentality of vaxing. I will absolutely not put my child through something (ever) for the betterment of others. It is a selfish thing to do, and I do it because it is my right as a parent to regard the well-being of my child before those of others. We all do. And, if that means that you choose to vaccinate your child because you see the risks of catching one of the diseases to be higher than the risks of vaccinating, then I will not possibly think less of that choice.

 

 


This is directly contradictory to my experience-- I am not saying this to challenge you or your belief, but just share information.

 

The vast majority of my friends do not vaccinate.  When my almost 2 year-old was a tiny 2 month-old baby, some friends call me up to tell me that their daughter very likely has pertussis, and that I should check with my doctor. 

 

The test to determine if it is pertussis often takes several days, and a little baby will likely have to begin treatment (antibiotics) before the results come back from the test. And of course my little guy develops a little cough that day!    So here I am with my 2 month-old baby, having to decide whether to potentially give him antibiotics, or have him potentially get very sick if I don't. 

 

So for me, yes, I would absolutely have my 2 year old get a shot to prevent some other mama from going through that. And if you do live in a high vaccinated population, you absolutely are benefiting from herd immunity, whether you want to believe it or not. 

 

Edit to add: I don't think that non-vaxers are wrong (otherwise they wouldn't be my friends!) but in some cities, these illnesses are real and present andd the consequences are real.

 

 

 


Edited by forestmushroom - 10/7/11 at 8:48am
post #53 of 125
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Originally Posted by Goddess3_2005 View Post

MDC that was when I started here was never judgmental, in fact wasn't MDC once voted the most tollerant community? I think in the past couple years somewhere along the lines something changed  and that "peace" of the community was lost. I personally I miss the ultra crunchy love peace and hair grease vibe that it had years ago, (6-8 years not a couple)is seems somewhere along the way that was lost. There was no over zealous moderation then. 

 

My Point being being MDC was never a place of judgement or choices it was a place to educate and become educated about alternatives. Members would never tell you that you were wrong for vaxing, they would post evidence and facts to proved that vaccines were wrong. Not opinions.

 

 


    This Exactly.  I don't think that there were really many debates about some things in the past because this was a site people chose specifically because alot of their views would have gotten debates from other boards.  If anyone is wondering what Mothering.com is really "about" go to the website (not the forums) and read some articles - you will find that they support freedom of choice but you will find alot of "chrunchy" views being supported with evidence.  Many people used to come to this site after first experiencing Mothering Magazine and finding that the articles and viewpoints presented resonated with them THEN got in the forums.  Now, it seams alot of people are here for the forums and don't even know what mothering stands for.  Diversity of oppinion is great, but I used to be inspired by those "crunchier" than me and now I feel like my views are pretty extreme.

 

post #54 of 125
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Originally Posted by sarahlynne View Post

    This Exactly.  I don't think that there were really many debates about some things in the past because this was a site people chose specifically because alot of their views would have gotten debates from other boards.  If anyone is wondering what Mothering.com is really "about" go to the website (not the forums) and read some articles - you will find that they support freedom of choice but you will find alot of "chrunchy" views being supported with evidence.  Many people used to come to this site after first experiencing Mothering Magazine and finding that the articles and viewpoints presented resonated with them THEN got in the forums.  Now, it seams alot of people are here for the forums and don't even know what mothering stands for.  Diversity of oppinion is great, but I used to be inspired by those "crunchier" than me and now I feel like my views are pretty extreme.

 



I'm going to have to "this exactly" to your comment sarahlynne.  Especially the part about being inspired by the "crunchier" people. This is exactly why I joined MDC.

post #55 of 125

I left and went to BBC and got ridiculed for my crunch factor and came back here only to find the same close minded views creeping in here.

post #56 of 125
Yikes. In my last DDC I posted a thread about my horrible reaction to the flu shot, as a heads up kind of thing. The moderator moved it to the vaccines forum and all hell broke loose. It eventually got closed by mods, but only after much nastiness. I wish this were something people could discuss more politely. We selectively vax, so obviously I can see both sides of the debates and understand that it is a personal decision.

MDC definitely used to be "crunchier", and I was disappointed in my last DDC to be told, after venting a bit in what I considered a safe and appropriate place about formula, that "breastmilk isn't all that magic" and there's nothing wrong with formula feeding.

That being said, I have to disagree that MDC used to not be judgmental... I've been here on and off for more than 10 years and I left for quite a while after getting jumped all over for having a playpen. This was after saying how it was mostly a toy bin, but that it was great to plop dd in when I had to go down to our yucky, mildewy basement to do laundry, clean cat litter, etc. It's not like I was just leaving her in there all day! Or more than a few minutes, even!

I think one of the perils of online communities is that people don't care as much about pissing people off because it's anonymous and we can't see the other people. It's also hard since we have limited abilities to convey/ read people's demeanor without voice and facial expression. We all just have to work really hard to keep our posts respectful.
post #57 of 125
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Originally Posted by forestmushroom View Post

 

This is directly contradictory to my experience-- I am not saying this to challenge you or your belief, but just share information.

 

The vast majority of my friends do not vaccinate.  When my almost 2 year-old was a tiny 2 month-old baby, some friends call me up to tell me that their daughter very likely has pertussis, and that I should check with my doctor. 

 

The test to determine if it is pertussis often takes several days, and a little baby will likely have to begin treatment (antibiotics) before the results come back from the test. And of course my little guy develops a little cough that day!    So here I am with my 2 month-old baby, having to decide whether to potentially give him antibiotics, or have him potentially get very sick if I don't. 

 

So for me, yes, I would absolutely have my 2 year old get a shot to prevent some other mama from going through that. And if you do live in a high vaccinated population, you absolutely are benefiting from herd immunity, whether you want to believe it or not. 

 

Edit to add: I don't think that non-vaxers are wrong (otherwise they wouldn't be my friends!) but in some cities, these illnesses are real and present andd the consequences are real.

 

 

 


This is exactly why Mothering is and should be a place to find alternative information. You are using possibly the one scenario in which herd immunity has not been shown to actually even exist, to promote the idea that we should vaccinate for herd immunity. I do believe in herd immunity for most vaccines. The three exceptions would be tetanus (not a communicable disease), diphtheria (no component in the vaccine to prevent infection - only useful for preventing illness by causing immunity to the toxin), and pertussis (bactericidal activity is so low that study after study has been unable to show that vaccinating children and adults prevents infection in infants).

 

Pertussis is a toxin-mediated disease. This means that infection with the pertussis bacteria is not what makes you sick. What makes you sick is the toxins produced by the bacteria. In the absence of a vaccine, this is a minor and mostly irrelevant point to quibble, but when we have a vaccine that specifically causes immunity to the toxins, rendering them harmless, then it becomes a major point, if the discussion centers around whether or not the vaccine causes herd immunity. This isn't some hippy, anti-vax idea. The CDC says vaccinated children are "silent reservoirs of infection". Silent because they catch and transmit the bacteria without having symptoms.

 

The pertussis vaccine contains a few components. Some are meant to increase bactericidal activity (make your immune system able to recognize and kill the pertussis bacteria) and some are meant to increase your resistance to the pertussis toxins. Unfortunately, the vaccine just doesn't work well at improving the body's ability to recognize and kill the bacteria. And that's not at all strange, considering that serologic studies show that adults are infected about every 3 years (but very rarely have symptomatic illness). This means that even infection can't make us immune, and it is universally recognized that infection is a better way of getting immunity to almost everything than is vaccination (with a few exceptions like tetanus - pertussis isn't one of them). So anyway, the portions of the vaccine that modulate your response to pertussis toxins actually work very well, resulting in a much reduced incidence of symptomatic disease in vaccinated children. That doesn't mean they don't spread infection. In fact, since they seem well, they are MORE likely to be out in the community, spreading pertussis around, than a kid who is clearly ill.

 

On the website for the adult booster that was out a few years ago (the website has been pulled since then or the address changed, I don't know which) there used to be a disclaimer stating that unknown whether immunizing adults and adolescents with this booster would prevent infection in children. Do you realize what that means? It means there is NO EVIDENCE that it does. No drug company on earth would say it was "unknown" if they had even the slightest bit of evidence - even one poorly designed study - to show that their product worked to do what they were marketing it to do (the marketing was centered on the idea that you don't want to give your baby pertussis). If they had proof that being vaccinated for pertussis prevented you from spreading it, they would say so. They would never say they had no evidence. Never.

 

At a World Health Organization meeting a few years ago, one of the biggest pertussis researchers in the world said that, when Japan returned to high vaccination coverage (they had relatively low coverage for quite a few years) there was no effect on the incidence of pertussis in infants under 3 months of age. That means vaccinate everyone else or not, it won't affect the babies who haven't been vaccinated. And pertussis is everywhere. It isn't just in your community or just in mine. It's everywhere. When they do serology studies (basically testing blood to see who has recently been exposed) , everyone is catching it, all over the country. In fact, these very serology studies show that the quoted 25,000 or so cases per year is laughable, since somewhere between 800,000 and 3 MILLION people are catching pertussis every year. It IS in my community. It IS in everyone else's community. You can't go anywhere to escape it.

 

Generally speaking, I hate linking to vax sites, but I'm too old and tired to have these discussions and link to 10 different studies. If you care about the facts, you can read the links here: http://insidevaccines.com/wordpress/vaccine-efficacy-how-often-do-vaccines-work/dtap/pertussis-vaccine-and-transmission/ It isn't a bunch of opinions at that direct link. It is just links to actual studies and things like that. Read it or don't, but MDC is where you WILL find this information, like it or not.

 

 

post #58 of 125

I just wanted to rephrase what I said about a less crunchie MDC. I'm glad to see the militant crunchieness is gone. I too am surprised at how many mainstream people are here now, but I think it's a good thing that those mainstreamers get the chance to learn about alternatives that you can't find in other online communities.

 

Kat - that is the reason I left two years ago, I had one particular mod that disagreed with one thing I posted regarding a vicious dog that tried to attack my daughter, so she made it her personal project to delete my posts and gave me warnings any time I posted anything suggesting MDC was not a "perfect community". Back then you could be kicked for dissing the site in any way, it doesn't appear to be that way now or most posts in this thread wouldn't be here :p

 

I have to admit I feel bad for coming off mean in my previous post, but I felt I should stand up for those being attacked for what they believe in. Perhaps that is not the way janell ment to come off, but as Kat says that is the curse of reading posts, it also has to do with the mind frame of the reader and I have been in a hormonal rage for a few days and am thus prone to shooting off my mouth (or fingers). I mean no ill will, but felt the need to speak up since I could see why the nonvaxers got up in arms after janell's first post. The wording (whether on purpose or not) was insulting.

post #59 of 125

no I understand that petussis vaccine is only 70 percent effective and this example is completely anecdotal. but still it happened to me and that is more real then linking and and preaching or anything on MDC.  There are consequences to all choices, and my experience overides you telling me what to think.

 

If Janell's post is upsetting, Plummeting's post is .... ???  She makes gross assumptions about my level of research and knowledge of all vaccines based on a single post in response to a single instance.  That is overtly condescending.

post #60 of 125
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Originally Posted by forestmushroom View Post

 

This is directly contradictory to my experience-- I am not saying this to challenge you or your belief, but just share information.

 

The vast majority of my friends do not vaccinate.  When my almost 2 year-old was a tiny 2 month-old baby, some friends call me up to tell me that their daughter very likely has pertussis, and that I should check with my doctor. 

 

The test to determine if it is pertussis often takes several days, and a little baby will likely have to begin treatment (antibiotics) before the results come back from the test. And of course my little guy develops a little cough that day!    So here I am with my 2 month-old baby, having to decide whether to potentially give him antibiotics, or have him potentially get very sick if I don't. 

 

So for me, yes, I would absolutely have my 2 year old get a shot to prevent some other mama from going through that. And if you do live in a high vaccinated population, you absolutely are benefiting from herd immunity, whether you want to believe it or not. 

 

Edit to add: I don't think that non-vaxers are wrong (otherwise they wouldn't be my friends!) but in some cities, these illnesses are real and present andd the consequences are real.

 

 

 


I'm sorry for the other mother's experiences...and, obviously in this example, your own worries. I can totally see how that is a stressful thing to go through if you are on the other end. However, I don't think it makes logical sense as a mother (IF you think, as I do, that the vaccines themselves hold worse risks than the diseases themselves) to vaccinate your child so that other mothers and their children will be saved from that worry and concern. I hope this isn't coming across mean, I really don't mean to inflame this thread anymore than it already is!!! But, I personally think that the vaccines are dangerous and not worth the risk. So, I'm absolutely never going to vaccinate my child for the betterment of society. I guess for me, it's such a cut and dry thing. Either you see vaccines as a risk, or you see the diseases as a risk...I don't really see the middle ground. So, vaccinating to protect the herd just doesn't make sense..(to me!!)..because you're either avoiding vaccination because you think it's dangerous or your vaccinating YOUR child because you think the diseases are dangerous...not because you're particularly thinking of others before your own child...

 

I hope that doesn't come across mean!

 

As to the protection I gain from the majority of the 'herd' vaccinating. Well, it's a nice benefit right now of society. I'll readily admit that. However, I'm honestly not that worried over the majority of the diseases that we vaccinate for. I'm not sure that my choice would be any different if we lived elsewhere. I think there are some benefits from childhood diseases and I think (as I said before) that the chances of dying from these illnesses are slim in present society. 

 

 

 

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