I don't even want to talk to him anymore. I just want to be done with him. You can tell when someone is not willing to listen. We are not going back. I had been wanting to find a smaller church anyway. This church has grown too large and unfriendly. On a positive note: a family who used to go there has started their own church which we are going to check out. The pastor's wife just sent me a wonderful message of support after hearing about this incident, so I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be harrassed at their church.
I know you said that you dont want to talk to him again, and I think that is totally understandable. However, would you mind if other people wrote/called him to tell him that his behavior is not acceptable? I'm sure there are plenty of ladies here (myself included) that would love to send him a letter