We've been doing EC part-time since DS was born...I say part-time, but it's more like full-time half-assed. =) We put him on the potty after every nap, before leaving the house, right before a meal or snack, about 20 mins after he finishes eating, and any other time we think he's cue-ing us. We rarely let him go naked, though, because he was a late crawler and scootched on his belly instead, and our rental house has old hardwood that splinters, so we didn't want him to get splinters in sensitive areas. We were doing really well for a while - by about 6 mos old we were probably 98% for poops (maybe missed 1 every few weeks) and about 50% for pees (he never really cued for pees, but will usually go when he's on the pot - he also goes in his diaper when he needs to go too, though.)
DS is 14 mos now, and it's hard not to be really frustrated. I know that with mobility comes misses, and he only started properly crawling about a month ago, and is now getting ready to walk, so he's VERY impatient with the potty. But we've regressed so horribly it's like we never did EC at all. Here are our issues:
1) He's never been great at cueing, so we've mostly used timing. He used to poop like clockwork, and now there's no consistent time, so we keep leaving him on too long when we think he might poop, and then missing it when he does. We've tried to leave him on for shorter and offer it more, and now I think that the two strategies have created negative associations - he'll be playing, and pause or do something that we think might be a cue, so we'll pop him on the pot, but he SCREAMS like he's being tortured because we're taking him away from his fun. If I ask him if he needs to go, he'll shake his head vigorously and sign Done like his life depended on it. If I can tell he really needs to go (penises make that easier LOL) I might ask him again, and he'll often pee then, but I don't want to force him or make an issue of it, so I take him off. Often, within 5 minutes, he'll poop in his diaper.
2) When we first started being consistent with EC (when he could sit up), potty time was fun time - we'd read books and sing. But as he got older, especially within the last few months, he started very purposefully procrastinating on going because he wanted to look at his books. We tried leaving him on the pot after he went and continuing to read and play with him so he wouldn't think the fun ended when he went, but then that meant sometimes we'd be on there for inordinately long times, like 20 or even 30 minutes. That just seemed way too long, and defeating the purpose since there were no cues or anything going on. So we started doing less fun stuff while he was on there. See above with now he screams bloody murder most of the time when we put him on.
3) Lastly, I don't know why he won't tell us when he needs to go. The one thing we've always been very consistent with since birth was whipping off the dirty diaper as soon as he went so that he never got used to it. As a result, he HATES being in a dirty diaper - we still get up at least once or twice a night to change him because he won't sleep through wetness. But the only cue he gives is to pause in the middle of playing or babbling while he goes - no heads-up for pee at all, maybe a little loud whining right before he poops, but he often whines when he doesn't have to poop (and then we try the pot, and then he cries...). He uses signs like No, Done, and More very well, yet he won't use any sign for potty (I don't care if he uses the one we've been using, he just doesn't tell us at all.)
I know this turned into a novel, but it's just so frustrating to have felt like we were doing so well, and now I'm scraping poop out of diapers at least once a day and trying not to show him how frustrated I am because I don't want to traumatize him or make it a big deal for him. I think I'm extra frustrated because our family has been VERY negative and skeptical about the cloth diapers, the EC, everything, and I think I bragged too much at the beginning to shut them up. Now they're very "See? I told you so" if I accidentally mention anything about a miss. Any tips or advice? We're going to try more naked time, but I hesitate to go the "offer him the potty more often" route since right now he so hates going on it at all.