Hmmm, I'd like to find out this time, but don't know if we will...DH doesn't want to so much. It doesn't matter for clothes or anything, I've got lots of neutral newborn, we've had two girls, and my sister has a boy and another one coming (TOMORROW!) and we share our baby/kids clothes when we can. I think mostly I'd just like to know because it makes it seem more personal to me. I'd love to be able to pick out a name and call the baby that! With the first two we didn't find out and I didn't even want to. We'll see. I suggested I could find out myself and not him, but he doubted my ability to keep the secret :)Hmph.
are you finding out the gender. why/why not? - Page 2
No, just one of them took, thankfully! We really, really, really didn't want to put in two embryos but the second one wouldn't have survived freezing and thawing so we threw it in anyway. So we have one little boy in there. We have had our baby names picked out for years but won't start to call them by it until much, much later in the pregnancy. If something happens we don't want to have been calling the baby by its name because we then won't feel right using the name again in another pregnancy.
Even though we know it is a boy, we will probably go with a lot of gender neutral, brightly colored clothes. I hate pastels. Turns out babies really don't care for them either so it works out.
We're not finding out and did not find out the first time. Though I am sorely tempted (clothing is so much easier!). I'm afraid if we knew the gender we would spend 20 weeks creating an image/hopes of who our little girll(or boy) might be. We want to see the baby for who s/he is, not for who want them to be. For us, the best way to do that is to know nothing concrete about the baby before we look into those beautiful eyes and hear that sweet cry for the first time.
We'll be finding out. With the first two, I didn't know until they were born, which was great. With my third, we found out because I wanted to get rid of the baby clothes that wouldn't be in use. This time, I'd like to find out just so I can buy clothes if it's a girl and if it's a boy, come up with some names.
I like the idea of having the gender written down on a piece of paper and opening it at a special time. I'm thinking, dinner with our really good friends and my mom...
we have 3 girls and this is our last. )sorry, sick sleeping baby on...typos)....we had decided not to find out. I am struggling with it . DH wants to wait. mostly i am a planner and want to cycle out some girl clothes before baby comes, if it is a boy. i am trying to talk myself into waiting, just because it is our last chance to :)
We're torn...DH really wants to know, DD has been waffling both ways, I would *like* to know but I would more *love* to not get an U/S. I think the big problem for me is that I know deep down, I want another girl--want DD to have a sister (because this will be our last) and she really wants a girl on some level too, though we'd all be more than fine with a boy, of course. I think that knowing ahead of time if it were a boy would be really good to help with all our bonding. I pointed out to DD that I think we should just assume it IS a boy, and plan for a boy (name-wise at least) so if it is, we'll say --yay, just what we thought!!--and if it's not, we'll really be surprised. Surprises aren't always a good thing around here though...guess I have about 4 more weeks to figure this out!! We NEVER tell anyone else, though, what we're hoping for or whether we're going to find out--this is a family only discussion as far as we're concerned, and lovely anonymous supporters on MDC too ;-) I think hoping for a specific gender is often a touchy subject and I understand why--I wish I could feel like I didn't care one way or another...maybe because of how much I adore DD it's hard to imagine anything else but another girl (who would of course, be a completely different child regardless)!
We will be finding out for sure. My husband super wants to know and I think that it will help our son to think about the baby in a more concrete way knowing whether he will be having a sister or brother. I really am strongly feeling girl to the point where I think it is almost unnecessary to check. I felt as strongly that our son was a boy last time, so I am feeling pretty confident. We will definitely be surprised if it goes the other way, but I would be so happy for our son to have a brother and we have a great boy name on the back burner. :)
Rasa, I feel exactly the same way about hoping for another girl. That and it would avoid the circumcision "discussion" entirely.
With DD, I KNEW she was a girl, almost from the beginning, but didn't feel confident enough to say it. With this one, I feel strongly that its a girl, but not as strongly as with DD. Maybe its because I really would prefer a girl? Or because I know DH would prefer a boy, and I don't want to set him up for disappointment.
We're heavily leaning toward not finding out and waiting for the surprise. I really feel boy; as does my Aunt and MW who are known for their extreme accuracy in their intuition of predicting genders. DH says girl but also admits he feels empty when he calls baby our girl name but feels full using our boy's name, hmmm. We might not have an US though, so that plays a role too ;0) I know US's aren't pleasant for babe's sound wise and disturbs cell formation and this one has let it be known he hates even the use of the doppler; we feel a need to respect that. We both kind of suspect twins (have even had 3rd eye visions of having a twin surprise home waterbirth in the past) and to be really honest, I would rather that be a surprise because of the excessive amount of scans that would be done. My intuition tells me all would be fine.
so i guess i've relented and we will find out the sex, mostly because dh wants to. Also, as this is likely our last, it would be nice to know sooner rather than later (ie before i have 2 kids to contend with) whether or not i need the attic full of girl clothes i currently have! So, if it's a boy, then i can clear out and start hunting for boy bargains! if it's a girl, then i can cross a big "to do" off my list!
AiryFairy, I read a wonderful birth story a while back--I think on here--of a surprise triplet home birth. Mom and midwife had an inkling that there were two, from what I remember, but were totally surprised by the 3rd! And from what I remember mom was in her 40's.... I'll link it if I can find it.