Next week I'm going back to work part-time to start (full time later).
I'll be out of the house from 2-7 everyday. During that time, DS (4 months) usually wants for a long snooze. He's not on a strict schedule, he just naturally seems to get tired in that window and needs to nap. If he doesn't, he's difficult to put down for the night, and he nurses and fusses most of the night.
Here's the problem. DH will be with DS during that time. Which is awesome. Except that DS won't nap with anyone but me. Usually for a nap, I nurse him and he drifts off, and sleeps on my lap for a couple hours. Or, I bounce on the yoga ball with with him, he drifts off, then he sleeps on me. He will typically root a couple times during his nap. I offer him my breast and he drifts back into that deep sleep state.
For sleeping at nighttime, we bedshare, and I nurse him down to sleep, side-lying.
I know, I know. I've created this problem by not helping my kiddo learn that sleep can come from sources other than my boob. *sigh...
But now that I'm here, what can I do? My DH has tried everything- wearing my son in a carrier, bouncing on the yoga ball, giving him a bottle. Nothing seems to work. He can maybe get DS down for about 15-20 minutes if he's lucky? But even then, the nap is way way too short and DS wakes up crying because he needs to sleep and can't. DH has tried to slip him a pacifier, and my son wrinkles his face like he just got fed poison, spits it out, and wakes up furious.
What other tactics have non-boobed partners tried to helped their kiddos sleep? Any suggestions would be oh so welcome. DH is at the end of his rope, starting to feel like he's not a good enough parent because he can't get our son to sleep. My heart is breaking for him and DS, and I want so much to help them find a solution!