Weekly Chat October 9 through October 15 :) - Page 2 « Back to Group Discussions

[hollyann]

Originally Posted by hollyann 

Name: Hollyann

Weeks/Days along: 7w 4d

Appointments: OB Appointment on Friday 9/14, also starting to look into Birthing Center and midwife options. Also thinking about going to the New Parents Expo in NYC this weekend, but I feel a little silly as I don't even have a bump yet :P

Symptoms: SICK, SICK, SICK Nauseous in the morning, evening, off and on all day, This morning was my first time actually throwing up, I felt a little relief, but mostly just weak afterward.

Food: 5 bites of tortellini last night, whole grain waffles in the morning, I'm barely able to eat anything besides saltines without feeling sick!

Exercise: None yet, Planning to start at the 2nd trimester.

Body changes and other milestones: I got some maternity leggings at H&M, I don't totally need them, but I'm sick of tight waist bands sticking into my  belly!

Thoughts: Starting to not believe that the morning sickness will ever end! Its so tiring being sick and tired all the time!

Also feeling a little crampy the last few days, I hope thats normal!

[katroshka]

7 weeks tomorrow. I'm really wondering where the nausea is... don't shoot me, everyone that is suffering from it! All my other pregnancies I had pretty bad, but not the worst, nausea. Last pregnancy it kicked in halfway through my 6th week, my other pregnancies were so long ago that I don't remember, I seem to think that with #2 it wasn't as bad and maybe started later, but that's about it. So far I've only had a few brief spells of mild queasiness, especially after I take my Omega/DHA supplement. It may be that I've been taking care of myself better and stopped drinking wine/ beer earlier, since I knew so early that I was pregnant. But it kind of freaks me out that I'm not feeling worse! Maybe I'm having a boy this time? I don't know, but I'll be glad to get to my first appointment and hear or see a heartbeat.

Who knows when that will happen, still having insurance issues.

I am super hungry all the time, I've been eating a ton. My youngest is also eating a ton suddenly, she's just had a major growth spurt. I have a friend whose baby is 1 week older than mine and always bigger, we saw them about a week and a half ago and she looked giant next to my baby, absolutely huge and you'd never believe they were the same age. Saw them Saturday night and my baby was just a hair taller than her! I don't know how they can grow so fast, it's just crazy. She started truly crawling and standing in the last few days, so now I'm really in trouble!

[KM84]

I know what you mean about being 27 and the only one with kids. I'm almost 27, and I have three, but most of my pre-motherhood friends are still childless. My high school reunion is being planned, and a bunch of people have children now. Some of them were talking about having something family-friendly for the reunion (there is a fb group), and the class .president made some comment about so many of us having families ALREADY at our age. Apparently, she lives in a different universe than I do!

I live in the universe as your class president - absolutely none of my friends who are under 30 are anywhere near thinking about having kids. I'm 27, and while my friends are supportive, I feel kind of uncomfortable talking about my pregnancy with them. Every time I mention not feeling well I get a response of "oh that sounds SO TERRIBLE," like they really can't understand why I would do this to myself (I'm not going to lie - some days I wonder too...). 

I dunno. I told my two closest friends because I could tell they were getting suspicious - and one was becoming very concerned for my health, but I really don't feel like telling any of my other friends who don't have kids. I can't wait to tell the extended family though, I think they were almost a little disappointed we weren't pregnant at our wedding.

I did tell one friend who is also trying to conceive, but then I felt bad because I know it's been slow going for them. They're still well within the realm of normal, I don't think it's even been 6 months yet, but I wish I'd just kept my big mouth shut. 

[Towgirl]

Name: Christa

Weeks/Days along: 7w 5d

Appointments: Midwife appt tomorrow 10/11

Symptoms: Nauseous in the morning, evening, off and on all day, And suddenly hungry. Like I'll just be sitting there and suddenly, without warning, I'm starving to death and ready to vomit. So weird! My boobs still hurt too :(

Food: PB & J Sandwiches and Veggie Burgers..... That's about it!

Exercise: None yet, Planning to start at the 2nd trimester.

Body changes and other milestones: I got some leggings from Old Navy.... I can't stand tight waistbands!

Thoughts: We had our first ultrasound today and saw the heartbeat! SO was in tears and is carrying his copy of the picture everywhere he goes <3

[katroshka]

Originally Posted by Towgirl 

Name: Christa

Weeks/Days along: 7w 5d

Appointments: Midwife appt tomorrow 10/11

Symptoms: Nauseous in the morning, evening, off and on all day, And suddenly hungry. Like I'll just be sitting there and suddenly, without warning, I'm starving to death and ready to vomit. So weird! My boobs still hurt too :(

Food: PB & J Sandwiches and Veggie Burgers..... That's about it!

Exercise: None yet, Planning to start at the 2nd trimester.

Body changes and other milestones: I got some leggings from Old Navy.... I can't stand tight waistbands!

Thoughts: We had our first ultrasound today and saw the heartbeat! SO was in tears and is carrying his copy of the picture everywhere he goes <3

That's so cute!

As for friends not having kids, I know what you mean. I had my daughter when I was 19, and of course no one I knew was having kids, so I started making friends that were a few years to a decade or more older than me who had kids the same age as mine. My best friend is only 3 years older than me, but a lot of my friends now are more like 10- 15 years older than me. Almost all my friends I made through parenting circles- the park, the school, etc. DH's friends are all successful professionals, a couple are married, two are getting married this year, but none have kids, except for one that is pregnant right now (yay, finally). All his college friends back in Chicago were so flipped out to hear that we were expecting last year, and they all were like, but we are all so young! This cracked me up since they are all in their early thirties. DH said he always feels too young, also, but that he thought about it and realized his parents were his age when they had him (the youngest of 4), and he feels like they are so old now! That sobered them up pretty quickly, they also all felt like their parents were ancient. It will be interesting to see when they get around to having kids, I hope it's soon because DH feels like the odd one out.

[BubbleMa]

Name: Sarah

Weeks/Days along: 10 weeks today!

Appointments: Oct. 26th

Symptoms: constant hunger, moodiness, sore boobs (still!), super sonic sniffer, gagging/throwing up

Food: Most things sound good now, which is a huge relief.

Exercise: Walking

Body changes and other milestones: Bump is getting bigger!  People at work know!

Thoughts:  I'm having a sad/mad day.  :(  WARNING: RANT AHEAD: We were supposed to leave for Maui today.  SO is going for work, and we have been saving up SkyMiles for several months so I could go with him.  My sister and niece moved here in August, and she was supposed to care for DD while were gone.  Well, about 2 weeks ago she decided to move back to KC.  She decided a good day to go back would be Saturday (the 8th).  Knowing full well we were supposed to be leaving for Maui today (the 10th).  She could have easily stayed another week.  She has no job.  She doesn't even have a place to live there...she'll be staying with my mom.  OH, and did I mention she lived with us rent/utility free for over 2 months??  That's about 2 months longer than it was supposed to be.  Originally she said, "a few days".  Yeah.  THEN, last week my mom asked me about the trip and I told her I couldn't go, and why.  She offered to come down and watch DD so I could go.  Of course, that didn't happen.  I knew it wouldn't, but it still hurts.  So, SO just left for Hawaii without me and he's going to be gone for a week.  I'm not very happy.  More than just being upset that I can't go, I'm hurt that I can't even count on my own family.  It's not like it was an emergency or anything, but still.  We've been planning this trip for a long time.  This is not a trip we can easily afford (which is why we planned it this way).  And now that I'm pregnant, this was really our last chance to take a trip together before the baby.  Well, almost.  We still have the points, and we could go somewhere over Christmas (DD goes to her dad's). I'm SOO tempted to tell them we won't be coming for Christmas because we're going to (insert fabulous vacation spot) instead.   

So anyway, other than that things are good.  I'm glad to finally have my sister and niece out of the house.  I love my niece, but there's no discipline there at all.  Plus, my sister is messy and lazy.  And I just like having my space.  So even though I won't be in Maui with my SO, I'll be enjoying some quiet time at home with DD.  :) 

[MeredithA]

Name: Meredith

Weeks/Days along: 9 weeks

Appointments: Next one is on the 24th

Symptoms: nausea mainly at night (but no throwing up!), sleepy, sore boobs, oh and a giant gut. Seriously, people are surprised when I say I'm only 9 weeks!

Food: my food likes and dislikes change on a daily basis. I'm so unpredictable its near impossible for DH to cook a meal I'll like. One day I'll love broccoli and the next I can't stand to look at it. 

Exercise: exercise? ha! I walk from the couch to the kitchen and then back to the couch in the evenings now. Thats it. 

Body changes and other milestones: bigger belly, everyone at work knows (it's kind of hard to hide it now)

Thoughts: When we were TTC, I was checking cervical position daily in addition to my temperature and everything...but after I got my BFP I stopped because I didn't want to poke the cervix at all because I'm a little nervous about miscarriage. Anyway, I felt it for the first time since August yesterday and perhaps this is TMI, but it was sooo soft. Way softer than I've ever felt it. (I don't remember checking it during my other pregnancies) I am hoping this is normal. No bleeding or other reasons to believe there is a problem...I'm just a worrier :-) Anyone else have experience with this? 

Janelle, I'm sorry you are feeling so sick all the time! Just a few more weeks and you'll be into the 2nd trimester. 

Sarah, I'm sorry you're missing out on your trip! ...but I love your idea of telling your family you can't make it for Christmas because you'll be at some fabulous vacation spot!

Towgirl, I think its adorable that your SO carries the ultrasound around with him. so cute!

[Just1More]

Yes, the cervix feels like mushy lips during pregnancy. Very soft and squishy.

And, tortillini....I must have some tortillini. 

[Astraia]

Janelle, I'm sorry you're feeling so lousy- but at this point, I wouldn't worry too much about feeling fat. Everyone feels fat, it's that bloated/ gassy/slow digestion/ not really a bump yet stage that is the hardest, especially when you throw in feeling sick :( Or maybe it's just me, I DID eat a whole bag of potato chips last night...and maybe the night before, too :oops: A few more weeks of this, then you'll be in the 2nd trimester, hang in there!

Sarah- unreliable family sounds terrible... but I agree with Meredith, I also love the idea of not spending Christmas with them! If they can't be there when it counts for you, why should you be there when it counts for them? Is that petty? Probably, but it's what I'd do.

Friends without kids- I had my first at 23, none of my friends were even done university or dating anyone, let alone getting married or having babies. I live in an area where everyone is also having kids in their mid to late 30's, definitely not early 20's. We tried to stay close but it didn't last, and I made new mom friends from playgroup or the park, etc. Most of them are 10 years older than me, if not more, which is hard in it's own way (like, they've figured out their marriage groove and we're mostly at odds). Its hard to find/keep kidless friends, they just don't understand as well- in my experience, anyway. Tricky.

I am definitely looking very pregnant and needing to undo the top button of my pants in the later afternoon or evening. I look and feel HUGE today, but we just did our Thanksgiving luncheon (Canadian Thanksgiving today!) so I'm still stuffed. Nausea and food aversions are passing. I'm 10 w 2 days now, it's definitely feeling very real. Getting REALLY anxious/excited for my midwife appointment so we can hear a heartbeat, hopefully, but that's not for another 9 days :(

Posted both our cars for sale today (Matrix and Subaru Forester) because we won't be able to fit in a third carseat properly (as in, 3 rearfacing like I want with room for a 110 lb dog) so we can buy a minivan :/ Makes me feel super old..... Oh well!

Oh, and I agree with Just1More- cervix in pregnancy is pretty soft and squishy. Super squishy, so you can't tell where it begins and ends, with an opening larger than your pinky finger is no good, though, from what I'm recalling (I didn't check mine early pregnancy, but after about 30 w I started out of curiosity. We did NFP for a while so I'm very familiar with my cervix. I wash my hands and am very gentle and don't prod too often JIC. I probably don't need this disclaimer here, but I don't want anyone to be like, "BUT THAT'S NOT SAFE!" It is.)

[Kamiro]

I have been trying not to throw up all day. If I am not stuffing my face with crackers or yogurt I feel like I will hurl. I have about 20 loaves of pumpkin spice bread to make for Sukkot/Tabernacles (our big holiday!) and ofcourse all the kitchen cleaning that goes along with that. Seriously in need of some energy.

You know even with all the complaining and aches and pains and suckiness, I am thankful to be pregnant and sorrorwful for our friends who are experiencing loss right now or not sure if they are. Lets all keep the good vibes/thoughts/positive wishes and heartfelt prayers going for some of our friends on this board who are struggling.

[Kamiro]

Astria:

Mini vans rock. Yeah you miss the zippiness of a car, but thats very seldom when you can haul kids, animals, groceries, neighbors and every thing else in a mini van...Most the time you are just thankful you have a people hauler!

[janellody]

lol, Onemoreontheway - glad I can amuse you

Poppyseed - wow we are on the same symptom train, aren't we? 

Everyone else - thanks for your kid words :)

Meredith - I haven't been able to find my cervix (I only tried once).  But I think mine is like open.. or something.  Without completely TMIing everyone here, my hubby felt it when we had sex... like... felt like he went in it.....................is this weird??  I plan on asking my doc at my next appointment.

I just got a prescription for an anti-nausea medication and although I am trying desperately not to put any drugs in my body right now, I gave in to this as today for the first time ever I actually THREW UP!!  Things are just getting worse and worse and I am missing work and need to get this under control :(  I get my prescription in an hour and it can't come soon enough!!!  I am 9 weeks today... quick someone chime in and say everything gets better at 9 weeks and 1 day?  Anyone??

[janellody]

It's a great point.  I am really good at complaining right now and really awful at appreciating the ease of getting pregnant and actually being pregnant when others don't get to be.  I do feel for the other mamas out there even though I am completely self-absorbed right now.
 

Originally Posted by Onemoreontheway 

I have been trying not to throw up all day. If I am not stuffing my face with crackers or yogurt I feel like I will hurl. I have about 20 loaves of pumpkin spice bread to make for Sukkot/Tabernacles (our big holiday!) and ofcourse all the kitchen cleaning that goes along with that. Seriously in need of some energy.

You know even with all the complaining and aches and pains and suckiness, I am thankful to be pregnant and sorrorwful for our friends who are experiencing loss right now or not sure if they are. Lets all keep the good vibes/thoughts/positive wishes and heartfelt prayers going for some of our friends on this board who are struggling.

[KM84]

 I get my prescription in an hour and it can't come soon enough!!!  I am 9 weeks today... quick someone chime in and say everything gets better at 9 weeks and 1 day?  Anyone??

I'm starting to consider more drastic measures to deal with nausea. I've only actually thrown up once, when I was exactly 9 weeks actually, but I'm feeling sick all the time and it's causing a real problem with work. I'm a freelancer, so while no one yells at me if I sleep half the day, I also don't get paid for time I don't work. Not good.

[Kamiro]

Oh Janelle *hugs* we are all self absorbed right now, lol and I wasn't trying to make any one feel guilty!!

I have made 3 loaves of pumpkin bread and about 20 muffins. I have ate 2 and decided that they are pretty delicious. I can't wait until tomorrow when the flavors blend. Every one is going to be so jacked I did this. I swear people don't even know who I am except for 'the pumpkin bread girl'. The probably all frowned thinking I wasn't going to bring pumpkin bread this year. lol

We are camping with a camp, and then we will go visit a few others. I have 3 gallon buckets (they had ice cream in them) and plan on filling at least 3 of them (1 for each camp), plus the 20 loaves for neighbors, friends, and family. 

So 3 loaves down, 17 to go...Will I be successful? Who knows.

LOL

I hate going from pukey to starving. It feels very Sybil.  

[BubbleMa]

Meredith and Astraia, I've always been the peacekeeper and I hate confrontation, but I'm over it.  I think I'm going to be petty for once.  :)

Astraia, we have a minivan.  I mostly hate it.  I do like the roominess though, and you become invisible to the police in a minivan.  Especially if it's tan.  lol  Not that I make a habit of speeding, but there have been a few times where I thought for sure I'd get pulled over, but nope!

Onemoreontheway, so true!  Thanks for putting that in perspective. 
 

janellody, I hope it works for you.  My cousin had severe nausea with both of her pregnancies.  She ended up in the hospital for dehydration with her oldest because she threw up everything she ate or drank.  :(  If the drugs help you avoid that, then they're a good thing!

PS, Pumpkin bread sounds amazing right now! 

[Kamiro]

Ick. Well these are all the things I have heard through the years for morning sickness. I am not advocating any one thing, just passing on information:

Crackers

Ginger

Marijuana (read about it in Mothering magazines archives)

Rx

Sea-band on the wrist

Dramamine

Originally Posted by KM84 

I'm starting to consider more drastic measures to deal with nausea. I've only actually thrown up once, when I was exactly 9 weeks actually, but I'm feeling sick all the time and it's causing a real problem with work. I'm a freelancer, so while no one yells at me if I sleep half the day, I also don't get paid for time I don't work. Not good.

[Kamiro]

lol - you know I never thought about that but it is true...Police do pretty much ignore mini vans. LOL
 

Originally Posted by BubbleMa 

Meredith and Astraia, I've always been the peacekeeper and I hate confrontation, but I'm over it.  I think I'm going to be petty for once.  :)

Astraia, we have a minivan.  I mostly hate it.  I do like the roominess though, and you become invisible to the police in a minivan.  Especially if it's tan.  lol  Not that I make a habit of speeding, but there have been a few times where I thought for sure I'd get pulled over, but nope!

Onemoreontheway, so true!  Thanks for putting that in perspective.  

janellody, I hope it works for you.  My cousin had severe nausea with both of her pregnancies.  She ended up in the hospital for dehydration with her oldest because she threw up everything she ate or drank.  :(  If the drugs help you avoid that, then they're a good thing!

PS, Pumpkin bread sounds amazing right now! 

[janellody]

Ia m totally craving the pumpkin bread now!!!!!!!!!!!  Hahah!!  And no I don't feel guilty, just feel that maybe there are more people in this world besides me right now hahah!

I took my first pill.. I will let you know how it goes..

[Ruby2]

Name: Ruby

Weeks along: 9

Appointments: I just scheduled an ultrasound for next week...I am freaking out that I'm having twins. I really have mixed feelings about ultrasounds, but I'm a planner and if I really am I need to KNOW. If not, I'd really appreciate being able to stop FREAKING OUT! First appointment with the mw is next month and we're really looking forward to it.

Symptoms: The constant nausea is starting to subside...I think. It's been manageable for a few days at least. I want to fall asleep every day at about 3 still though. I know that protein helps and I need to get better at making myself eat in the afternoons. It's easier in the morning and at dinner for some reason, but not so much after lunch.

Exercise: nah.

Body changes: I am SO HUGE. I had to break down and buy some maternity pants this weekend. I was miserable sitting down at work all day in unzipped pants. I seriously look like I'm at least 12 weeks, if not more. I'm not ready to tell work yet; I've been in a new job for a little less than a year and no one there is very warm. I really don't want to share if I miscarry. It's getting pretty hard to hide though! I can only wear cardigan sweaters so many days in a row...

Thoughts: I really expected the worst with a toddler to chase after for this pregnancy. My friends and I would sit around and wonder how anyone ever did it. It can be done...so far! It's amazing how your body can power through the hardest days. I have used a few sick days to stay home and relax, which I highly recommend! I feel pretty horrible for bringing dd to the sitter and going home and getting in bed, but it's the best thing I've done for our family so far...I just need a nap once in a while, you know?