Janelle, I'm sorry you're feeling so lousy- but at this point, I wouldn't worry too much about feeling fat. Everyone feels fat, it's that bloated/ gassy/slow digestion/ not really a bump yet stage that is the hardest, especially when you throw in feeling sick :( Or maybe it's just me, I DID eat a whole bag of potato chips last night...and maybe the night before, too :oops: A few more weeks of this, then you'll be in the 2nd trimester, hang in there!
Sarah- unreliable family sounds terrible... but I agree with Meredith, I also love the idea of not spending Christmas with them! If they can't be there when it counts for you, why should you be there when it counts for them? Is that petty? Probably, but it's what I'd do.
Friends without kids- I had my first at 23, none of my friends were even done university or dating anyone, let alone getting married or having babies. I live in an area where everyone is also having kids in their mid to late 30's, definitely not early 20's. We tried to stay close but it didn't last, and I made new mom friends from playgroup or the park, etc. Most of them are 10 years older than me, if not more, which is hard in it's own way (like, they've figured out their marriage groove and we're mostly at odds). Its hard to find/keep kidless friends, they just don't understand as well- in my experience, anyway. Tricky.
I am definitely looking very pregnant and needing to undo the top button of my pants in the later afternoon or evening. I look and feel HUGE today, but we just did our Thanksgiving luncheon (Canadian Thanksgiving today!) so I'm still stuffed. Nausea and food aversions are passing. I'm 10 w 2 days now, it's definitely feeling very real. Getting REALLY anxious/excited for my midwife appointment so we can hear a heartbeat, hopefully, but that's not for another 9 days :(
Posted both our cars for sale today (Matrix and Subaru Forester) because we won't be able to fit in a third carseat properly (as in, 3 rearfacing like I want with room for a 110 lb dog) so we can buy a minivan :/ Makes me feel super old..... Oh well!
Oh, and I agree with Just1More- cervix in pregnancy is pretty soft and squishy. Super squishy, so you can't tell where it begins and ends, with an opening larger than your pinky finger is no good, though, from what I'm recalling (I didn't check mine early pregnancy, but after about 30 w I started out of curiosity. We did NFP for a while so I'm very familiar with my cervix. I wash my hands and am very gentle and don't prod too often JIC. I probably don't need this disclaimer here, but I don't want anyone to be like, "BUT THAT'S NOT SAFE!" It is.)