Chat Thread: 10/9-10/15 - Page 6

[not_telling]

Ugh.  I recognize that doctor's name.  She makes comments on various blog posts at babble.com...usually VERY defensive about traditional western medicine and condescending towards bloggers who cite research to back-up their decisions (since the bloggers are not scientists/doctors and can't possibly understand what they're reading).

[StephandOwen]

Amy May- Thanks for the thoughts! I'm getting ready to call up the doctors office right now and discuss a few more things with them (including whether there are other options than just tomorrow or next Thursday). Yes, I'm still doing kick counts and Sunburst is as active as ever

Maybe I should go buy some peanuts.... LOL! I have been considering trying the castor oil, but I know that there are some risks with that as well.

[tank]

That article:  wow.  I can't believe that the sceptical ob took an emotional  post partum moms words like that to make a point.  That seems really unethical to me.  I am too glad that at least the comments are positive.  I didn't read them all because I really hate reading comments because something always seems to upset me (even if it shouldn't, I know full well that people suck)

cosleeping:  I am a little nervous about it.  We have a pillowtop mattress and I am debating on whether to switch it out with the firm at least at first.  I am waiting for a railing to come in the mail.  I am thinking he will sleep between me and the railing or between me and DP.  Not sure yet.  I would really like one of those things Katico linked but I really don't think we will fit in our bed with one.  I originally wanted to sidecar the crib but our bed is so high up I can't figure it out so I gave up on that idea.  His crib is now in our room so at least if he will settle down in there he will be nearby but we do plan on cosleeping for the most part, just keeping the options open. Any opinions on my situation?

I am the one who mentioned my babe being really high and low at the same time.  It is completely possible he is long.  I am pretty short as well and have a short torso.  My partner is tall and he is the shortest of his family so chances are this guy is going to be tall as well. 

[Amy May]

I know, I'm totally curious about the peanut thing!  And Steph, again, just want to encourage you for the way your approaching this and getting info.  Yay for informed consent!

(Dr. Amy would hate you for it though). 

[Katico]

It makes me absolutely *ILL* that that woman spends her time trolling through MDC, looking for mamas to exploit for her own soapbox.

Hateful.  Ignorant.  Hurtful.  Disgusting.  How dare she?!  

Of course the internet is public and this is a public forum, but taking a mother's trauma and using it like that??  It's one thing if she wants to discuss a topic she has read about in very general terms, but to copy the mother's own words and use her baby's name??

[ThreeCats]

Originally Posted by Katico 

Yeah.

[RosemaryS-F]

I thought we could make our social group private...

[penguintattoo]

I've seen different posts this "doctor" has taken off of MDC before, if I remember correctly she isn't even a practicing doctor nor has she been for quite some time. Either way she is a B.

[StephandOwen]

Originally Posted by RosemaryS-F 

I thought we could make our social group private...

It's private in the sense that only people we accept can post in it, but anybody can read it. I don't think there's a way to make it completely private (so nobody else can read it).

[starling&diesel]

What a horrid, despicable troll.  What pleasure can she gain from poking the fresh, painful wounds of new mamas?  A pox on her. 

[Leiahs]

I can half-way sorta understand copy/pasting someone's exact thoughts, even if I think it's despicable, but to go and use the baby's name is BEYOND okay.  I'm absolutely disgusted and upset.  The one good thing about possibly posting future stories on the social group, I think, is that it's much harder to find.  So far I haven't been able to track it down without a direct link or bookmark to our actual DDC Social Group.

AFM: Today I'm on my own (13 days pp), aside from my oldest 2 kids being taken to/from school.  I have to say I'm a little bit proud that I not only showered, but also got dinner in the crock pot.  DS3 is a bit bored today, but at least he's not being crazy or anything.  I did overdo things a bit yesterday, though.  Knowing that DH was going to be working his 12-hr shifts (plus 2hrs of total commute time) for the rest of the week, I was paranoid about the house being in poor condition.  So I turned into a total nag about getting things cleaned up, and when things still weren't up to my expectations by the late afternoon, I started pitching in.  Not only did I make my own breakfast and lunch, I also picked up the floor here and there, washed a few dishes, folded 4 baskets of laundry, and eventually lost my cool when I was in charge of bedtime (DH had duties elsewhere) and was trying to get the kids to clean their room, too.  Sigh.  I'm really pretty tired today, and think I'll definitely be taking a nap.

Malcom's poor face looks like it belongs on some unfortunate teenager.  :(  I hate this stage.  I don't even want to take pictures, it looks so awful.   (And the picker in me has a very difficult time being hands-off as I'm staring at him all day long...)

[puente]

Thanks emmaegbert!   This was super helpful advice for me.

Originally Posted by emmaegbert 

I had to deal with this sort of thing with my last baby- "shadow care". Unfortunately they did know exactly who I was so it was a little more uncomfortable for them b/c I felt like I had to lie by omission the whole time (that in California too... maybe its how the insurance works there? I had to go through my PPO providers to get free testing, etc, otherwise I would have to pay full price for everything. Meanwhile I just paid out of pocket for the MWs). I ended up doing a biophysical (which was fine) at 36 weeks and then I scheduled a NST to make them get off my back and happened to go into labor that day. I called in that morning and canceled. So.... my advice would be try calling and scheduling a NST for a date that your MWs agree is reasonable, and go from there. If they really perssure you, yes, just let them "schedule" the induction and you can cancel. Or just politely say, "I am not going to schedule that right now". Or, "I need to sleep on it for a night" or "I need to check with my partner before I can schedule it, who should I call?" Oh I also waited for the last minute to schedule the NSTs and they were booked up so they couldn't get me in as early as they wanted ;)

Good luck. Its hard to try and navigate the health care system that makes it hard to get preventative care without all the over-medicalization and panic mode. Its crazy.

[Trinket90]

At the grocery store this morning I ran into an acquaintance and the first thing out of her mouth was, "When are you going to drop that load?"

I'm due today. I'm crampy, uncomfortable, huge, and tired. I almost hit her in the face.

[theboysmama]

ok, I have written several posts (from my i-pad) and they won't post. Ugggggg. They were nice and long too.

I don't have much energy for personals but wanted to post what's going with me.

I am having a really hard time. I was sick a few weeks ago and have just never really recovered. I will feel better than the next day I am wiped out again. I have had a cough with it that has continued to get worse. Headed into the clinic yesterday and the dr thinks I have whooping cough. Uggggg. Just what I need right now. I will get the results sometime today (supposedly) and we can go from there. I am taking a z-pak (started last night) so I can be 1 giant yeast factory when the baby comes. After 5 days of the antibiotic I am no longer considered contagious though and that is a plus. I am really really hoping boo stays put till sunday at the very earliest so that I don't risk giving this to her. Ds2 had wc at 5 months and it was awful, I do not want to go through that with a nb.

I am exhausted and have spent most of the day in bed, feeling a bit better now. My abdominal muscles (whatever I have in there) are so sore from all the coughing and the ocassional bh do not help with that.

On top of that my close friend was adopting a baby boy. She has been preparing for months for this lo. He was born on sat and they got to bring him home monday. Monday night the social worker called and the birth mother wanted him back. She posted a pic on fb of her 5 yr in agony holding the baby while the social worker was getting ready to take him away. Her kids are freaked out that they might have to go back (they are adopted also), It is just one big mess. I am so heart broken for her. I want to help but don't know how, especially now that I might not even be able to be around her for a while bcs of the wc.

[AKChix0r]

Just filled my prescription for Zoloft. I've battled depression and bipolar disorder since I was 15, but this is the most miserable I've been in my life. There has not been one SINGLE day that I haven't cried since giving birth four weeks ago.

I'm sorry I haven't been more active, but this is the reason why. I'm exhausted, overwhelmed, and nearly suicidal. Postpartum depression is a terrible, terrible thing.

[Trinket90]

theboysmama- ugh, being sick sucks. I can imagine the discomfort you must be dealing with. I'll be sending "stay put" thoughts your way (exact opposite of what it seems everyone else is looking for!) so that baby will be healthy as can be. Also, my deepest sympathies to your friend. I know how that feels. We did foster care for 10 years and we had some heartbreaking, absolutely devastating losses. And there's nothing that can really make that better. The poor family.

Karli- Don't apologize, mama! You need to take care of yourself above all else, don't worry about anyone else. Do what you need to do for you, and don't put any extra pressure on yourself. Good for you for getting the prescription filled. At the risk of using a massive cliche, acknowledgment is the first step to coping. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

[dollyanna]

Originally Posted by AKChix0r 

Just filled my prescription for Zoloft. I've battled depression and bipolar disorder since I was 15, but this is the most miserable I've been in my life. There has not been one SINGLE day that I haven't cried since giving birth four weeks ago.
I'm sorry I haven't been more active, but this is the reason why. I'm exhausted, overwhelmed, and nearly suicidal. Postpartum depression is a terrible, terrible thing.

Oh, hon, I'm so sorry

As for the "skeptical OB"    I've come across her before.  The whole premise of her post is so disgusting.  It's wrong to be disappointed that you had to have a c-section?  To grieve because you have not been able to take your baby home with you?  I feel very, very lucky to live in a time and place where life-saving medical interventions are available during childbirth, but if I were in the same situation I would absolutely feel the same way.  I am glad so many of the comments on the post are positive. 

[Katico]

Back from the doctor, just had a membrane sweep....I was 1cm, soft and forward....she called it "promising"    It's at least encouraging - My cervix hadn't done a darn thing at 41wk4d when I was induced with DD!

Lots of strong Bh happening....I'm going to walk around the house and climb stairs now...maybe scrub some floors.......find some boxes to lift.........

I need have this baby.

[StephandOwen]

Originally Posted by AKChix0r 

Just filled my prescription for Zoloft. I've battled depression and bipolar disorder since I was 15, but this is the most miserable I've been in my life. There has not been one SINGLE day that I haven't cried since giving birth four weeks ago.
I'm sorry I haven't been more active, but this is the reason why. I'm exhausted, overwhelmed, and nearly suicidal. Postpartum depression is a terrible, terrible thing.

Big big hugs to you, hun. I hope things start looking up after your meds kick in. Please be kind to yourself and make sure you are taking care of yourself (and Ernesto is taking care of you too!).

[puente]

So, so proud of you for taking care of yourself, Karli.  Hang in there-- hope it helps very very soon.

(And please don't put it on you that you "should" do anything, especially, especially be more active here.  You've got plenty to do AND you've been plenty active.) 
 

Originally Posted by AKChix0r 

Just filled my prescription for Zoloft. I've battled depression and bipolar disorder since I was 15, but this is the most miserable I've been in my life. There has not been one SINGLE day that I haven't cried since giving birth four weeks ago.
I'm sorry I haven't been more active, but this is the reason why. I'm exhausted, overwhelmed, and nearly suicidal. Postpartum depression is a terrible, terrible thing.