Ugh- my family thinks it's no big deal, too. When I was pregnant with DS1 they brought my niece and nephew over when they both had Staph infections. Awesome, thanks guys!
We had a hand-washing rule with DS1- we had a welcome baby shower when he was just 8 days old, so I was very protective. If i had it to do over I would have had him in the sling the whole time and just let people peek at him, lol! Even then, people want to put their hands all over baby's face, so you could have a rule about "just touching toes", you know? Like don't let people touch or kiss her face or hands.
So at T-giving, if you go, I'd sling the baby and nurse her and just keep her all cuddled up next to you. No "pass the baby". You'll be able to use the "she's sleeping" or "she's hungry" excuse a lot. If she's here by then ;-)
I'm very protective of my babies, too. I thought maybe I was just a little sensitive about it with DS1 because he was my first, but I am going to be just as protective this time.... I don't worry so much about common colds and such but flu? RSV? Bronchitis? Lord only knows what there could be on the plane.... I really don't want to get baby sick with something like that, especially when he's so young that there's nothing we could do to take care of it. I think being exposed to some germs is fine, especially since I'll be nursing, but it's also not so crazy to want to protect baby from influenza and such. They have special warnings about very young children and those diseases for a reason....
Don't use antibacterial soap, though, or purell or anything like that. Just a good soap will do, and purell/hand sanitizers have toxic fumes. Ugh. We do have a natural hand-san for outside the house though when we can't get to a sink. BabyGanics is the brand.
I think I might warn our parents beforehand that if they are sick, they won't be able to cuddle and kiss the baby. And we could try to suggest some preventative measures- emergen-c, airborne, lots of rest, etc. So hopefully they will be able to avoid getting sick in the first place.... we'll see.
Like I said, I was very protective of my first son.... even without the illness factor I just didn't want people holding him the first week or two. I think I was more protective than I thought I would be- the mama bear instincts really kicked in once I saw his face :-) There's all the hormones and such too, so you may actually be MORE protective than you think you'll be ;-)
Originally Posted by birdhappy85
Is it rude to tell everyone who is going to hold the baby to wash their hands first? I hope my mom doesn't make me feel stupid for being so protective of my baby in that regard. I'm liable to snap on her and tell her to just leave if she upsets me.
My bigger concern actually is how to protect my baby during the holiday family functions. My in-laws are already planning a huge family Thanksgiving at their house, and my DH is expecting us to go there even though I'm due the week before. I'm not comfortable having a newborn around that many people at just a week or two old (if she even comes on time). Is that irrational of me? Should I not worry and just bring her around everyone? Christmas is going to be the same way. Both of our families have big get-togethers...
I really hope I end up not being as possessive and protective of my baby as I'm already worrying I'll be in the beginning. Right now, I feel like I'm not going to want anyone but DH and I holding her in the beginning. I feel like I'm not going to trust anyone with her! Did anyone else feel like that before their first baby arrived?