So, I waited until today because it seems weird to start a new thread during the weekend instead of Monday. This weekend went well for me. DH took care of DS all day Saturday and I got to just read and run errands that I didn't want to do with DS. It was a good weekend and nice to not feel as bad. Still get the whole gagging heaving thing along with incredibly overwhelming fatigue but not all day, I will take it! Oh and I am so happy for everyone that got to hear heartbeats! So sweet!
weekly chat Oct 10-17
Yay for heartbeats! I still have until the 24th!! I keep having this insane thought that I'm not really pregnant, but then I feel my lower belly and it's all hard and defined w/ a bump, and I know I am. Weird.
I'm suddenly gagging when I brush my teeth. I thought I was actually going to get away w/out any sickness, lol.
Work has been interesting lately. I am of a different religeous view than my boss and coworkers, and lately they have really been harping on how right they are about their views, and how their views are superior. I'll probably post in the religeon forum about it. I want the talk to stop, but I don't want to offend my boss. She is easily offendible and flies off the handle.
flavorfull: Thanks for the new thread! Glad to hear you are starting to feel better too!
I missed my midwife appointment last week since I was sick. Feeling better now but I can't seem to sleep at night. I have insomnia sometimes and it looks like I might have to talk to the doc about meds so that I can get enough sleep to function during the day. I am also going to start going to the chiropractor and getting a monthly massage now that I am in the 2nd trimester. Hopefully, this will help with the sleep problems and keep this pregnancy running smoothly. If anyone has any suggestions I am open to advice!
they didn't approve me for pregnancy medicaid, it doesn't really make sense. I'm calling tomorrow to see if maybe there was a mistake in their paperwork or something. If I am not approved not really sure what we will do. Unassisted? who knows. I am going to try not to worry about it until after I talk to medicaid. cross your fingers for me.
I have started to feel the baby move more consistently.
religion at work should just not be talked about, uber unprofessional.
good luck on the sleep thing, mine has been intermittent and I end up needing to lay down during the day, unfortunately I have no advice.
Adoremybabe - Thanks! I already posted in TAO, and so far, no one has moved it or locked it, lol.
Courtney - I had a friend that got denied b/c the worker glossed over the section that asks if you are pregnant and what your due date is. It was a big hassle for them to get approved again b/c he tried to blame them for the error, and they couldn't get another worker to look at it. When I turned in my app, I put it in a 10x13 envelope and wrote my name, "Medicaid Application" and "Pregnant - Due 04/18/12" on the front. I got my approval w/in a week. Hopefully that's all that happened and it won't be a huge headache to get things started/fixed for you. If not, can you check into MW's in your area that might barter? Good luck!
I know it is still way late but it is a huge improvement for me.
Best of luck!
Hmm, got to love the insomnia. I have an hour or two every night when I wake up and just cannot fall asleep. I am so tired it seems ridiculous. I am hoping that maybe with a little more activity and moving into the second trimester will help. I never had this at all with DS.
I agree, religious talk in the work place is not professional. Sorry you have to figure out how to handle it.
We are going through our own insurance stuff too. It is so annoying. The larger insurance company will cover homebirth midwives in our state but the specific plan that my husband's work has in place has a specific part that says it will not cover homebirth. So, we can't appeal but we are going to talk to HR to see if we get an exception or what to do. It feels like a long shot. I just keep hoping that we will have moved back to NC anyway which is not helping my mood or motivation about the situation. We are waiting to see if DH gets a call back for an interview and will know in the next couple of days. Really hard to not get my hopes up!
belacsmsage- a monthly massage....I am going to have to see what I can do to get that in! I get to go to the chiro which is really helpful but a massage sounds even better!
So wondering if anyone else ever gets this....if I stand up for a long time or walk around a lot (like miles) then my cervix/vagina start to ache? I feel better if I sit for a minute. Is it just a matter of needing to do more kegels? is my hoo ha really that out of shape or is this a pg thing?
Pain in the "hoo ha" - I might suspect that it's a pregnancy/exertion thing. That happens to me sometimes too. Maybe it is a clue for more kegels. I never felt it before #1 was born. Hmmmmm, that was a lot of help wasn't it? Well, more kegels never hurt anyone!
Insurance makes life interesting doesn't it? We don't have an individual deductable just a family. It's 4k! We had planned to get pregnant and have this babe all in one year but that isn't going to happen. So I talked to my doctor and he is willing to wait until the first of the year when I will be just over 26 weeks to do the "20 week" ultrasound. I am very pleased with that as it will help us out a bit. Hopefully this little babe stays healthy and we can stick to this plan.
I actually managed to get a bathroom cleaned today before I hit my wall of exhaustion. I can tell that DH is getting a bit frustrated. So am I but I had a good talk with him (hopefully!) and told him that I need his support more than ever now and that I realize that I'm going on about how hard it is for me to do things being so tired. This pregnancy thing can be so tuff!
YAY! My uterus is at my belly button and baby is big enough to feel a "lump" in whatever part of it they are in. Funny the little things that comfort you and make you finally feel pregnant, but apparently for me, these two are working. With each day I get less and less nervous (or I guess more accurately less certain I'm not going to make it to the end). Now that my cold is getting over I'm even starting to get more energy. I may get to enjoy this pregnancy yet LOL
Thursday Girl: Sorry they're making things so complicated. I don't have insurance, but feel lucky that this time around I don't have to worry about it too much. My midwife charges between $2000 and $3000 for the whole pregnancy and labor, and said that she'll take payments and accept whatever we can afford, so if we can't even come up with the $2000 she'll be fine. I don't know if shes always like that, or is making an exception due to our circumstance, but I'll be grateful either way. Are you doing a home birth or hospital? Maybe you can work something out with homebirth, and with hospital birth they have to take you if you come in during labor, they just bill you big and you have to try to either make payment arrangements or work out some sort of cash discount. Either way, I think there may be ways around it (not as ideal as having insurance probably, but still less stressful than it might otherwise be).
Christy: I'm so sorry you're having trouble at work. There is just no excuse for that. It seems like you could even cause grief for some sort of harassment, just totally unprofessional and really kind of cruel to imply any beliefs you hold are superior to those of another (who would take their beliefs just as seriously). Sometimes I think this country (heck, mankind for that matter) is not evolving very quickly *sigh*. Hope things get better soon, you don't need the added stress I'm sure.
thursday girl... hopefully it's just a clerical error, but i know either way its a pain to deal with. Should they deny you again, if you choose to go to a hospital you could talk to your provider about just staying 24 hours after the birth rather than 48. My friend did that and it saved for thousands. Also, sometimes a midwife will cut you a break if she is training a new midwife, who would be primary on your case, so that may be an option too. hope it all gets sorted out and keep us posted!
as for me, i'm still dealing with contractions way before i thought i would be. anyone have any suggestions for that one? they're not painful but i worry that they stress out the baby...
and sadly, yes, i get the achy hoo ha too after a long day...the only way i get relief is to just sit for a while...ugh
anyway, i hope everyone's monday went well!
Hello All! Would love to join in the the chat-- finally feeling quite a bit better (knock on wood )-- I'm 13 and 4 days. Really excited to hit the 14 week mark soon! I can feel a little bump about that reaches about 1/2 way to my belly button. I check it a lot during the day . It's starting to sink in a little bit more...
Chiromama~ I've been dealing with bad cramping since the beginning. I'm taking a liquid cal/mag supplement suggested by a couple of midwives I know and that seems to help. I've also been trying to find a cramp bark supplement-- none at my local coop, but I've heard that can be really helpful. And, lots of water.
Thursday~ You can feel the baby moving?!? This is my first baby so I can't feel anything-- I'm so excited to get there though. I have to help my clients with their MA all the time (I'm a public health nurse) and I run into issues all the time. Keep on them-- if you don't have a good caseworker as to speak with their supervisor, that tends to move things along.
damn, lost all my post.
short recap- medicaid straightened out, I'd like to say it's a clerical error but at this point I am cynical and think it's an attempt to cover less people. Luckily I know the tricks, call at 8 am on the dot or you don't get through, listen because the phone picks up and you hear nothing for over a minute, you must wait, eventually they will start talking. listen through all the prompts, follow the right key press pattern and finally they connect you.
adoremy babe- I JUST had a conversation with Hubs last night about how each pregnancy seems to be harder on my body and how I need him to remain helpful. He IS but I think he thinks I am milking it, because I have done this before and sometimes with less complaints and pains then this time. I think what I said made sense and now he won't do things grudgingly at times.
Jessimaca, yep I feel movement daily. I am 15 weeks and change and it's my 4th pregnancy. I did not feel movement this early in my first pregnancy.
I hear ya about the middle of the night insomnia! I didn't have this with my first pregnancy but every morning at about 3am I wake up and stare at the ceiling. It doesn't help that DS is almost always in the bed with us at that point and he likes to be right on top of me!! We only have a queen sized bed so we either need to get a bigger bed before this baby comes or help DS learn to stay in his own bed all night long. I feel like the ms is finally subsiding but the heartburn is creeping in. I went to Earth Fare last week and got some papaya enzymes so hopefully that will be all I need to get over the heartburn. I'm so happy to be in the second trimester!! Woo hoo =)
Courtney - So glad to hear the insurance got sorted through your diligent efforts. I wouldn't be surprised if there is pressure to avoid over-covering in this political and financial climate. :( But hopefully it was indeed just a clerical error.
I want to feel the baby moving!!! I feel stuff going on all the time down there but I can't identify it to save my life. And I definitely don't have any light butterfly flutters. :-/
Rosie, I never had light butterfly flutters. I always had what I imagine it feels like if a hamster were using your uterus as a hamster wheel. This light patter that starts in one place and works it's way to another. Either that or a feeling like there is popcorn popping in your belly. Not light or tickly, just quick gentle little bops. Sometimes if you crunch up (so that your belly is against your thighs), it makes it easier to feel.
Thursday Girl - I'm in your "cynical boat." All the insurance companies (and probably Medicaid/Medicare) are apt to deny people the first go round. Imagine how much money they can save themselves from all the people who give up right away. As annoying as it is to deal with, calling back almost always fixes the problem. Glad you did, it would be a shame to pay out of pocket for something you qualify for.
DH is convinced I'm being over-sensitive and/or milking the baby thing too. He keeps telling me that I'm barely pregnant and should feel fine. Even the dr. saying at every appointment that fatigue is really normal in the 1st trimester doesn't seem to sink in for him. Oh well, I am starting to feel less overwhelmingly fatigued. I at least don't feel like I can only work half a day at work before needing a nap. Not to the point of being able to keep up with housework, but at least making it through work-work.
Now that we got past the first dr. visit, I want to start telling friends, but after knowing for 2 months while keeping it a secret, it almost seems hard to spill the beans now.