I'm the healthest I've been my whole life, I walk tens of miles a week, often just for the fun of it but also for any household chores or shopping I need to do. I eat well, lots of fresh fruits and veggies and lean meats, all that jazz. I'm fit, but I'm big. I am a big woman who weighs WAY more than I look like I'd weigh. That's just how I am, and how I was made. I went to see an OB locally to get myself set up for this baby. (8 weeks in, I'm glad I started early, I can tell this is going to be a nightmare.)
Aside from being talked over and sped through the exam so fast I couldn't ask any questions, and being invaded by this jerk without enough warning to say 'no' he told me he doesn't want me to gain any weight during my pregnancy. He especially had a good time threatening me that I wouldn't get a VBAC unless my pregnancy was 'perfect.' This is my third pregnancy, it will be my second VBAC. No pregnancy is perfect. I have no other indicators of a problem with having a second vaginal delivery after cesearian, but he's telling me I'm not supposed to gain weight. (Maybe five pounds, he said when I pressed him.) That's such crap I'm glad they did my BP before I talked to him, or they might have tried to hospitalize me immediatly.
I know we're told in this country that 'beggers can't be choosers' and that seems like a lot of crap to me too. So here's the deal.
I need to find, hopefully in Anahiem, (Irvine is really far for me, we don't have a car.)
*Someone (midwife/center/ob) that can deliver V2BAC.
*Someone who will take Medical (I know, I know, I sick for not having better insurance.)
*Someone who isn't going to give me crap about my weight, which is perfectly healthy for me.
Am I demanding too much? Should I just get some tarps and do it myself? Because by God, I'll do that before I let another jerk shove fingers in me without enough warning or come at me with a scalpal when I don't need one. Shaming me about my weight, he's lucky I didn't knock his head off his shoulders.
(May be angrier than I will be later right now. SO OFFENDED.)