|As for this usually being done only for the deceased, I personally know that a friend I grew up with and her entire family was baptised by proxy without permission.
I can assure you this is not done by the LDS Church, not ever, and especially not now. A person who is alive would NEVER have a proxy perform a baptism on his or her behalf. The thought is, if done for a deceased person, the person (as has been mentioned ad nauseum yet not acknowledged) is basically standing there in heaven or where ever, aware of what has taken place, deciding if he or she would like to accept. If a proxy stood in for a live person, how would the person ever know or be involved in the process? It clearly does not make sense within our belief system. That is not the way we operate.
So there may still be scoffing, and Kama, I appreciate the sincerefulness of your last post. Before that I felt like these beliefs many of us hold very dear were being mocked and kicked around. As I said before, we take our geneology sincerely. We fully believe in keeping records and journals so that our ancestors may learn from our life expereinces. If you truly want to get the word to your future relations, start a journal, spread the word to all your family members and make sure they are clear.
I guess if one beleived there was nothing after this life, it would be very threatening to have someone come in later, whern you were totally dead and gone, and make some sweeping movement that could disrupt the whole way you lived your earthly life. But we believe the spirit never dies, and that earthly death is just a temporary separation of the spirit and the body until the resurrection (whenever that will be). We also believe every person who ever lived will be resurrected, not just those who are LDS -- that it will be a gift to all people regardless of what religion they are, what they did in this life, or anything else.
As an aside, perhaps we are being mixed up with another religious organization, but we do not believe there will be or needs to be a certain number of people in heaven. The reason we believe so strongly in temple work is because we believe families can be togeter forever. My husband and I were married in the temple, and thus we were "sealed." All children who are born to us are then born under that sealing and we believe nothing, not even earthly death, will separate us after this life. So when searching out past generations, we are making a link of family connectedness, if that makes sense.
I am on the verge of wiping my posts away -- I feel like I am not being taken respectfully. Regardless of what I say here, people are going to believe what they want to belive.