or Connect
Mothering › Mothering Forums › Mom › Talk Amongst Ourselves › # of people viewing MDC comment
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:

# of people viewing MDC comment - Page 4

post #61 of 145

Honestly, I can't believe they nixed the magazine. The magazine WAS the original Mothering. I read the mag way before I joined MDC. I'm thinking of those beautiful, epic 1970s magazine covers. Mothering mag was how natural-minded mamas connected, learned, and shared wisdom way before the internet. The way in which the magazine was simply cancelled (and not announced, and not discussed) was the biggest indication of something not going right around here. I wish I could have been behind the scenes to see what master plan all the Mothering head honchos said. But I think I know. It coincided with the new format, the cheap-fake-food ads, the increased Facebook activity. It's called selling out, and of course it will water down, go more mainstream, etc. get boring! It's just not the same, which I'm totally sad about, because I really craved the knowledge and wisdom that I learned from the "veteran" mamas on MDC, and now the posts are just bland...shrug.gif

post #62 of 145

I still think for me, it is a  to a certain extent the 'stage of mothering' im entering into. When you have a baby the first time, its all new. The attachment parenting paradigm is inspiring,  full of interesting facts, theories and controversies.  I even  got a sense of good self esteem, feeling i was doing a good job at mothering, and i felt confident in myself. 

 

But  now my kids are older, 3 and 6, and im entering a stage where  issues become more complex and individualized.  I cant always find the answers here or even similar dilemmas.I feel like as parents we face issues that are so different. Yes, children  exhibit similar tendencies at certain ages, but even there, i find temperament, and position in the family, to be bigger factors. 

post #63 of 145
Quote:
Originally Posted by contactmaya View Post

I still think for me, it is a  to a certain extent the 'stage of mothering' im entering into. When you have a baby the first time, its all new. The attachment parenting paradigm is inspiring,  full of interesting facts, theories and controversies.  I even  got a sense of good self esteem, feeling i was doing a good job at mothering, and i felt confident in myself. 

 

But  now my kids are older, 3 and 6, and im entering a stage where  issues become more complex and individualized.  I cant always find the answers here or even similar dilemmas.I feel like as parents we face issues that are so different. Yes, children  exhibit similar tendencies at certain ages, but even there, i find temperament, and position in the family, to be bigger factors. 



While it is true that there are far fewer simple answers as your kid gets older (mine is 11! ) I also really loved the magazine for being one of the few parenting magazines out there that didn't behave as though kids vanished when they turned 3.  When I read the print mag I was always so interested in the articles about older kids.. and of course that is gone now.

post #64 of 145
Quote:
Originally Posted by Adaline'sMama View Post

so, ssh, what made you come back to see this thread?


I saw it mentioned on TWWS too. Also I look around once in awhile, I just don't post. I thought since the question was asked, people might want to know. Some of us left because MDC became morally offensive.

post #65 of 145
Quote:
Originally Posted by D_McG View Post

For me it's totally the format.  I've said over and over that they need to roll back to vbulliten.  I have to assume there is some contract that stops that because it's such an obvious step in the right direction, IMO.

Even right click to correct a spelling doesn't work here!  When the site changed I googled the people who did it and sure enough there are a ton of complaints from other forum owners.  The reply box sucks etc (ya think?).  


You know, I think this, above the deception issues with closing the magazine, the questionable ads, etc. is the main reason there aren't more members.  The platform they chose is the worst I've ever seen on a forum. 

post #66 of 145

No, no. WorldCrossing was the worst platform-host I've ever encountered. And the Harry Potter Lexicon forum was there for more than nine years. And it was just dreadful. Until WorldCrossing closed shop. Whew!  Now the Lex forum is on phpBB and it's at least sane. 

 

Anyway.

post #67 of 145

I used to be on a lot, several times a day.  I hate the new format with all the ads; I finally asked DH to fix it for me, so he blocked flash, which effectively removes most of the ads from my screen.  Still, it's irritating.  I miss the magazine; I also really liked reading the articles pertaining to older children.  I felt like Mothering gave me a perspective that I don't get anywhere else.  I really really miss that.  My oldest is now 13, and there just aren't many resources for parenting  teen in a kinder, gentler way.  I think it's very sad that MDC has moved so far from their original, stated ideals; I realize that keeping up with changing society and technology is difficult, but I don't think it's necessary to compromise so severely.  

 

 

What is TWWS?  

 

 

post #68 of 145

Trolls with Wooden Spoons

post #69 of 145


 

Quote:
Originally Posted by contactmaya View Post

I still think for me, it is a  to a certain extent the 'stage of mothering' im entering into. When you have a baby the first time, its all new. The attachment parenting paradigm is inspiring,  full of interesting facts, theories and controversies.  I even  got a sense of good self esteem, feeling i was doing a good job at mothering, and i felt confident in myself. 

 

But  now my kids are older, 3 and 6, and im entering a stage where  issues become more complex and individualized.  I cant always find the answers here or even similar dilemmas.I feel like as parents we face issues that are so different. Yes, children  exhibit similar tendencies at certain ages, but even there, i find temperament, and position in the family, to be bigger factors. 



That is one of the reasons that my kid was not the primary topic of conversation for me here. She is 21 now, and was around 10 when I first came to the forums. I did appreciate that the magazine, which I started reading when she was a baby, was not limited to just pregnancy and young children. 

post #70 of 145
Quote:
Originally Posted by Viola View Post

Trolls with Wooden Spoons


is this the one that makes fun of MDC threads?

 

post #71 of 145
It isn't just MDC that has slowed down. Many online forums, especially parenting forums, have slowed waaay down in recent years. Several have closed due to lack of activity. That being said, some of the recent changes don't help. The social group thing? I still have no clue how new members are supposed to find those and join. I haven't joined my own DDC's group yet.
post #72 of 145

I still come here now and again, but have really stopped because of the trolls and lack of moderation. I now post on a local closed natural parenting forum.

post #73 of 145
Quote:
Originally Posted by cameragirl View Post

It isn't just MDC that has slowed down. Many online forums, especially parenting forums, have slowed waaay down in recent years. Several have closed due to lack of activity. That being said, some of the recent changes don't help. The social group thing? I still have no clue how new members are supposed to find those and join. I haven't joined my own DDC's group yet.


I found this rather...silly, myself.  I think they should be linked on the main forum page if people are really supposed to find them. 

post #74 of 145
Quote:
Originally Posted by Mulvah View Post

I found this rather...silly, myself.  I think they should be linked on the main forum page if people are really supposed to find them. 


The other thing that stinks about them? It appears that you can't DDCC to add your advice, comments, story, etc.
post #75 of 145
Quote:
Originally Posted by meemee View Post

is this the one that makes fun of MDC threads?

 



There's much more there than the one small subforum of snark.  Everyone here was OMG they only exist to bash MDC and just no.   Go over and look around with an open mind.

post #76 of 145

I have never heard of TWWS.  Will have to check them out.  

 

The one thing I *really* appreciated about Mothering mag (and MDC way back when) was that yes, you could get stage-oriented parenting ideas, but it wasn't limited to that.  It was more about a lifestyle than just being a mom.  I liked that it supported those who parent outside that mainstream.  It was always such a gentle encouragement to me with each issue, well-researched, and supportive of choices outside the "norm".  I liked that the old forums challenged me to think about things differently, and even when I disagreed, I was not run into the ground for it.  Gosh, I miss the mag SO much!  I miss the old comfortable friend feeling I got when I pulled it out of the mailbox.

 

I guess what I miss the most is encouragement to follow my child's needs, to listen to what is really needed in the moment, to focus on what is really important, to slow down and just "be" with my child.  There really aren't very many places to get that sort of advice.  

post #77 of 145

I used to love MDC.  It was my parenting home.  I joined in 2001 when my son was born and posted here for many years.  It is nothing like it used to be at all.  For me one of the biggest reasons I rarely post is the moderators.  We used to be able to have discusssions and call people on their crap if need be.  Now you can't say anything without someone smacking you on the hand for it.  They killed their own board.  It is sad. 

post #78 of 145
Quote:
Originally Posted by Heavenly View Post

I used to love MDC.  It was my parenting home.  I joined in 2001 when my son was born and posted here for many years.  It is nothing like it used to be at all.  For me one of the biggest reasons I rarely post is the moderators.  We used to be able to have discusssions and call people on their crap if need be.  Now you can't say anything without someone smacking you on the hand for it.  They killed their own board.  It is sad. 



I see people saying this, but I don't entirely get it.

 

I joined in 2006 and I vaguely remember a few heated discussions in the beginning.  Maybe this lack of moderation you refer to is before this?

 

Really, though, over the last several years (I would guess 2007 or 2008 onwards) it was heavily moderated.  It flirted somewhat briefly with no almost no moderation for a couple of months last Spring, and is now back to modding, although moderately, IMHO.

 

There were oodles and oodles of people on during 2007-2010 when it was heavily moderated.  Yes, I am sure MDC lost a few, but nothing like the leeching of members that has happened over the past year.

 

 

 

 

 

post #79 of 145

I dont get the due date group thing either. I didnt sign up for the group. Im happy to stay where i am. Whats the point of it?

 

As for other online groups slowing down, ive gotta say, this is absolutely true for me too. All my usual online groups are withering away. It could be that technological changes are partly behind this. Its a pity.

post #80 of 145
Quote:
Originally Posted by kathymuggle View Post

There were oodles and oodles of people on during 2007-2010 when it was heavily moderated.  Yes, I am sure MDC lost a few, but nothing like the leeching of members that has happened over the past year.

 

 

 

 

 


That pretty much supports the "it's the blatantly commercial, horribly executed redesign" theory, doesn't it?
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:
  Return Home
  Back to Forum: Talk Amongst Ourselves
Mothering › Mothering Forums › Mom › Talk Amongst Ourselves › # of people viewing MDC comment