I recently had a rather disturbing exchange with my SIL (wife to hubs' brother). She makes joking comments about keeping my 5 mo old baby (they don't have any kids) and I joke back about her not being able to feed him or add in that there is a stash in the freezer if she goes to get it. Recently though, the joking (which is kinda a running joke) seemed to take a turn.
Let me preface this with saying I'm kinda anti-formula unless it's absolutely needed (and I'd rather someone get a script for BM than feed what I consider feeding McDonald's for every meal to your baby).
In any case, my SIL asked what if she wasn't able to make enough and I mentioned that it's not a huge problem and with an IBCLC for a MIL she should be able to work it out (trying to keep the joking tone). She continues to tell me that she had a friend with a supply problem and that a lot of people have supply issues, to which I disagreed and said most of it was a lack of determination or discipline. I then tell her about a friend mom of mine that had major supply issues but was able to get through them with donated BM and lactation aids (to which she was disgusted at using someone else's BM). She also went on to tell me that it's 2011 and there have to be formulas out there that are as good as breastmilk which I of course refused to acknowledge as a valid argument. BTW, my MIL was there and just kinda smirking at this conversation/argument. As an IBCLC she agrees with me but after doing her job for so many years, she has been forced to develop a non-judgmental approach and won't necessarily speak out against someone who is unwilling to give it all she's got, so to speak.
So, you can see where this is going. I have a lactivist mentality, I really do. In many cases, I keep my mouth shut, but it would really upset me if my SIL gave up on BFing when she gets around to having kids. It seems she has been subjected to so many of the "booby traps" that make women think it's normal to have serious/major BFing problems. Is there a way that I can educate her without turning super lactivist and turning her away from BFing? I have all kinds of websites and information about the superiority of breastfeeding and the comparisons of breastmilk to formula, but I feel like passing that info along might be too aggressive and that it may fall on deaf ears. Any suggestions?