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Weekly Chat - 10/11 - 10/18

post #1 of 89
Thread Starter 

Here ya go! 

 

I've got a question, when do the boobs leak less? I've been leaking more lately it seems. Going through nursing pads more than I thought, and I don't want to buy more of them if I can avoid it. (And that includes reusable ones, even though I know they'll be a one time expense.)

 

 

How's everybody doing? Any plans for the week?

post #2 of 89

Hmm.  I still leak out the other boob when he's nursing, or if it's been awhile and I think about nursing.  I'm 8 weeks out.  I think typically around 3 months or so, things level out but it really depends on the individual.  If DH even touches my boobs jokingly, my milk lets down. Thats really super fun.  eyesroll.gif

 

I have my postpartum visit today, and am taking Finn for his well baby visit and re-check on thurs.  Other than that, nm planned!

post #3 of 89

Thanks for starting a new chat thread, Kylaskye.

 

I haven't really had leaking problems for a few weeks, so I can't help you there. But strangely enough, my boobs are bigger this week than they have been ever... even after my milk first came in. I didn't realize that our boobs would still be changing so much this far pp.

 

So today is day 2 at work, and even though I feel overwhelmed with all the work that's waiting for me, I still find myself here on MDC. hide.gif Maybe because it is such a treat to type with two hands!

 

Yesterday I came home to find that DS had eaten 2 oz of milk from the bottle, so it's good to know that he is able to eat, but it's still so hard for me to be at work.  I dream of being a SAHM, but DH reminded me that we talked about this before getting pregnant. He wanted to wait a little while longer before TTC until money wasn't an issue, but I said, when isn't it going to be an issue?  We've been together for over 8 years and I've been so ready to be a mom for a while now, so we just jumped right in.  So for now, I am the breadwinner while DH finishes school.

 

 

post #4 of 89

2.5 months here and still leaking. it is less, I'm thinking in another month I should be without the bull's eye around my nipple that I always seem to have because I forget nursing nursing pads. 

 

My big plans for the week are to go through kid clothes, again. I've already done this once since he was born sand it seems like everyone shot up. My girls have a 4 day weekend off from school. DH is saying that he is going to take 1-2 days off work and have some family time, we shall see. 

post #5 of 89

Still leaking like crazy here too and after searching around on MDC, learned it may never stop irked.gif.  One momma leaked the entire 2 years she breast fed.  I hope that doesn't happen to me.  I'm going through nursing pads like crazy lately so I just broke down and bought the milkies I was reading about here in one of the threads.  Mise well be collecting the stuff that leaks.  I just wish I had done it sooner so my freezer stash would be bigger.  Last night for kicks I held up a container to my opposite boob while nursing DS.  I collected 2oz just from the leaking drips. 

 

DH & DS had their first full day without momma.  DS did really well drinking from the bottle.  Took all 8 oz over the 8 hours I was gone.  I was so glad to get home and have him nurse.  Trying to time that last expressing to time of getting home is going to be tricky.  DS went to bed at 6 and slept the whole night minus his half conscious nursing sessions.  He was one pooped out boy.  I hope DH can find a way to get him to nap better. 

post #6 of 89

I just went through DS's clothes and was amazed how how much he has grown! I guess I didn't really notice since I see him so often, but all the stuff from the "too big" section fits him perfectly now and my "too small" bag is overflowing!

post #7 of 89

I just had my MIL come pick me up to take me to medemerge to have my wound checked and rebandaged like they said to.  There was an hour or longer wait so I said screw it, we'll go back later.  Hopefully later is better and not worse, I have a bad feeling it's going to screw up Finn's night.  Ugh this stupid finger!!

post #8 of 89
Thread Starter 

Sorry about your finger, Carrie. 

 

My leaking seems to be getting worse with time. I didn't use to leak through my pads, now it's pretty  much a daily thing. I found pushing on the nipple minimizes how much comes out, for you ladies who are having a lot more of it than I am.

post #9 of 89
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I just went through DS's clothes and was amazed how how much he has grown! I guess I didn't really notice since I see him so often, but all the stuff from the "too big" section fits him perfectly now and my "too small" bag is overflowing!


It's amazing isn't it! It doesn't seem like Magnolia has grown that much either- until I sat her in her the swing the other day. She doesn't get in it much, and as a newborn she was just a teeny tiny little thing in the middle of it, now she practically fills it up.
post #10 of 89

Charlie is in a growth spurt, I think. Yesterday it was like he was underwater and my boobs were his only source of air, I swear. And he's barely been awake, today. Nurse and sleep, nurse and sleep. His 6-9mth clothes are getting snug. Sheesh. I'm actually about to have to buy clothes for him - that's something I've never done! Certainly not going to bother buying much.

 

I had a funny realization today. I was nursing him, thinking about you guys who talk about leaking. I've always read those posts thinking that sounded unpleasant and I'm glad I don't have that problem.

And suddenly I realized that I do. I vaguely recall knowing this before, but it's been awhile. I leak every day. I just don't think about it. It just means it's time for him to wake up and eat. I don't wear a bra or even change after, my shirts dry and I continue on. Ah, my brain :)

 

He's sleeping so much today that I was able to sit and get my baby blog up to date. Went through all my FB posts and LJ posts and posted what I thought was worth mentioning and pictures. From here on out, it'll be more detailed and all, as I'm doing it on purpose.

 

I can't put him down, he wakes up within 10 or 20 minutes, so I'm just stuck here under a giant cute baby. Might as well be productive :)

 

Also discovered that, no matter how many you eat, a tortilla chip cannot fill a hamburger craving. Sigh.

post #11 of 89

Becky - You might be able to find a good batch of clothes on craigslist! That's what I did looking for Mal's newborn clothes. Since he never fit in them I'm glad I didn't spend too much.

 

Bree - I had mastitis last week and it kicked my butt. I had no idea what you were going through, mama. I'm so amazed by you! Elliot is such a lucky little guy.

 

Carrie - I am so sorry about your finger! That's just awful. I hope it heals quickly for you.

 

AFM - Malcolm is such a wonderful little guy. He's so calm and sweet and smiley. Until we leave the house! He seems to hate being anywhere else. Is anyone else's baby like that? We go to my mom's, dad's, inlaws, the store, and if he isn't asleep he gets really squally. Poor guy. Usually I'm wearing him in his moby-style carrier or just holding him.

post #12 of 89

Regarding leaking, I haven't been at all. It's so weird because I leaked like crazy last time. I guess having a heavily nursing toddler around helps a great deal.

 

It's amazing how fast they grow. I second buying used clothes for babes. I've been fortunate to receive hand-me-downs, handed down further to DS2, but I can't imagine buying baby clothes new when they will be outgrown so soon. Gabriel barely wore any of his 0-3 month clothes and is quickly outgrowing his 3-6 month clothes.

 

Carrie, I don't think I would have waited an hour and a half, either. I hope you were able to go back and get it checked, though.

 

It is officially my 3 year anniversary. In some ways it doesn't seem nearly that long and in some ways it seems so much longer. LOL

 

I've been struggling to be patient with DS1. He's only 20 months. I think I'm just tired and a little stressed trying to prepare for MIL's visit in a couple of weeks. The beginning of the week has been the hardest for me because DH works all day, goes to class in the evening and doesn't get home until 8:30 at night both Monday and Tuesday. Anyway, I printed a verse from Corinthians, the one beginning "Love is patient, love is kind..." and I try to recite it when I find myself lacking in patience. DS1 is so sweet and deserves a much more mellow and loving mama than I've been lately. mecry.gifI actually feel shame when I think of my mothering. I want to be happy, patient, etc. I know that perfection doesn't exist, but I just long to be more calm than I have been, to do a better, gentler job. I want to apply Sark's poem more often. https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=251651538213902&set=o.139782679378764&type=1&theater

 

 

 

 

 

post #13 of 89
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Malcolm is such a wonderful little guy. He's so calm and sweet and smiley. Until we leave the house! He seems to hate being anywhere else. Is anyone else's baby like that? We go to my mom's, dad's, inlaws, the store, and if he isn't asleep he gets really squally. Poor guy. Usually I'm wearing him in his moby-style carrier or just holding him.


Magnolia is the complete opposite. She LOVES being anywhere but home. At home, she's a pretty good baby but if she's awake she wants to be entertained and seems to get bored with things after a couple mins. If we are out, she is just the most chill baby in the world. Last week we were away from home almost 12 hrs straight and she didn't make a peep the entire time. Today I took her to the grocery store in the stroller- I was a bit worried she's get overstimulated since normally she's in the wrap, but she loved it. Just sat and looked around the entire time.
post #14 of 89
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Regarding leaking, I haven't been at all. It's so weird because I leaked like crazy last time. I guess having a heavily nursing toddler around helps a great deal.

 

Carrie, I don't think I would have waited an hour and a half, either. I hope you were able to go back and get it checked, though.

 

It is officially my 3 year anniversary. In some ways it doesn't seem nearly that long and in some ways it seems so much longer. LOL

 

I've been struggling to be patient with DS1. He's only 20 months. I think I'm just tired and a little stressed trying to prepare for MIL's visit in a couple of weeks. The beginning of the week has been the hardest for me because DH works all day, goes to class in the evening and doesn't get home until 8:30 at night both Monday and Tuesday. Anyway, I printed a verse from Corinthians, the one beginning "Love is patient, love is kind..." and I try to recite it when I find myself lacking in patience. DS1 is so sweet and deserves a much more mellow and loving mama than I've been lately. mecry.gifI actually feel shame when I think of my mothering. I want to be happy, patient, etc. I know that perfection doesn't exist, but I just long to be more calm than I have been, to do a better, gentler job. I want to apply Sark's poem more often. https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=251651538213902&set=o.139782679378764&type=1&theater

 

 

 

 

 


I think that sitting down and telling him is good. Tell him that you are not happy with your behavior, you love him and are doing your best.
The last time I got to be with my favorite kids, I was in a lot of pain and very short with them. I explained it and we moved on. Still regret it, but eh. Life is life. It gets better and you'll get closer and closer to what you want to be :)

 

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I've been struggling to be patient with DS1. He's only 20 months. I think I'm just tired and a little stressed trying to prepare for MIL's visit in a couple of weeks. The beginning of the week has been the hardest for me because DH works all day, goes to class in the evening and doesn't get home until 8:30 at night both Monday and Tuesday. Anyway, I printed a verse from Corinthians, the one beginning "Love is patient, love is kind..." and I try to recite it when I find myself lacking in patience. DS1 is so sweet and deserves a much more mellow and loving mama than I've been lately. mecry.gifI actually feel shame when I think of my mothering. I want to be happy, patient, etc. I know that perfection doesn't exist, but I just long to be more calm than I have been, to do a better, gentler job. I want to apply Sark's poem more often. https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=251651538213902&set=o.139782679378764&type=1&theater

 

 

 

 

 


I totally get where you're coming from PL.

 

I often find myself being the kind of Mama I never thought I would be. DS1 is only 16 months, not quite fully walking, and not quite able to make himself understood when he is talking. It can get very frustrating for both of us, especially when I'm nursing DS2, as that is when DS1 demands the most attention. I've already had to do a kind of "time out" thing with him, and I never wanted to be that kind of Mom. But when he is biting electrical cables that he had to dig out from under a sofa, while I'm in the middle of nursing DS2 I have no choice but to take him to his room and put in him is crib until DS2 is finished feeding. We live in a tiny apartment for now so he is only in the room next to us, but I feel really bad about leaving him in there. He also likes to play with kitchen items while I'm nursing, which is not always a good thing. I also find myself saying "No" to him way more than I should, and usually again because I'm nursing. When I feel myself start to lose it with him I try to remind myself that this is such a short time in their lives and I need to enjoy it for what it is.

 

Yesterday DS1 was being so sweet. DS2 was in his baby seat on the floor and DS1 went over to him and laid his head on DS2's belly to give him a hug. For a few seconds it was a precious sight. But then DS1 tried to grab DS2's ear and pull it and I had to pull him away, which ended with both of them crying. I know DS1 was just trying to play with his little brother, which is sweet, but he is too little himself to fully understand that his little brother is too little to play like that. Instead of saying "No" about touching his little brother I've decided to try and teach him what it means to be gentle instead. Gentle is our new most used word.

 

As for leaking, I use 2 cloth nursing pads at a time in each side. I do leak the most when I'm feeding on the other side, but I also leak throughout the day too. It also seems to be getting worse rather than better. I really do hope it stops soon and I'm not one of those Mamas who leak the entire time they nurse.

 

DS2 is 5 weeks today and has been in 3-6 month clothes for almost a week now. He really looks and feels like he is about 3 or 4 months old, so much bigger and chunkier than his older brother was at that age. I keep joking that they'll be in the same size clothes in about 6 months. Fortunately almost all of the clothes we have were either gifts or hand-me-downs from friends with slightly older boys. We haven't bought much at all for DS1, and now when we do we consider it bought for both of them as DS2 will wear everything eventually. These small sizes last such a short time that a lot of items only get worn once before its too small, so at this rate we could have several boys and still never have to buy baby clothes, as the clothes are never going to wear out.

 

post #16 of 89

I always have to buy clothes. I never get any hand me downs, ever. Craig's List isn't very active in my area so I try to buy cheap. At a local co-signment shop or Wal-Mart/Target. I'm going to Target this weekend so I'm trying to figure out what I could possibly need for the next month, it is 60 miles away so we go only once a month! I only have 1 older boy and he was born in April so the seasons and sizes are not matching up currently. DS1 is a shortie and DS2 is long so I'm hoping we'll start hitting DS1's winter clothes soon.

 

 

The only good thing about baby being up for the day before 5am is that it is 6:30 now and I have a pumpkin cake baked and cooling already. I know what I will feed the kids this morning! 

 

 

 

I'm in a similar boat regarding toddlers. DS1 is 2.5y but has a significant general language delay so he seems like he is barely 2. I meet 20 month olds that are more mature then he is. We have entered the phase of frustration tantrums constantly. Honestly, I'm surprised it didn't happen sooner considering how little he can communicate but it didn't, and now everything is even harder. I can't carry a 26 lb thrashing, kicking toddler with a baby on me. And the baby is never not on me. I have another velco baby here. He *might* sit in his bouncy for 5 minutes a couple times a day if he is in a really good mood. The second I put him down otherwise his little face crumples instantly. If I timed car trips just right I used to be able to make one trip back in or home without screaming, now it is never. He is screams every single second he is in the car. I was up on a chair yesterday cleaning out closets with baby strapped on napping away since that is the only way he sleeps or breathes for that matter. 

post #17 of 89

NAK - it never ends.

 

Had a couple of busy weeks and was not organized enough to post, so I was just reading along. We're still nursing non-stop and DS2 usually does not sleep for more than 30 minutes - on me not in bed. I always think it gets better when I manage to put him down for an hour or so, but after that we're back to the original pattern. Really not great, considering that I need to start writing again yesterday, and one-handed typing doesn't cut it for the volume at which I need to produce. 

 

Anton is getting really big even though we still have a few 0-3 months outfits that still fit, but it really depends on the brand. Some brands run really small and others tend to be much more ture to size. We also have to buy clothes here; hardly any hand-me downs since my parent-friends either have much older kids or kids the same age. DS1's clothes are still around, but he was a spring baby and so we have lots of summer clothes and the fall and winter clothes are too big (6+ mos). So, DS2 needs at least some outer layers b/c it is getting cold rapidly; it's been below freezing at night for the last few days.

 

DS1 is also becoming really jealous of DS2, and single-parenting for part of the week doesn't help. He wants to be carried or on my lap constantly, asks for attention all the time, and starts doing attention-grabbing things when that doesn't work - throwing things, hitting us, jumping on us, using crayons on the floor, etc. Today, he hit DS2 repeatedly with a glove. He also resists most routine actions, and puts up a fight or tantrum whenever he needs a new diaper, eat, get dressed, go to daycare, come back home, go to bed, etc. He's talking, but he's sometimes hard to understand, esp. when we're not sure in which language he's talking, and he is very frustrated by our inability to understand him. I try to stay calm, but it is wearing me down, b/c with a non-stop attached baby I cannot actually interfere with his behaviors as much as I need to. I say 'no' too often, yell more than I like, and I sometimes need to get physical to get him changed or dressed or in the car - nothing serious, but still. I feel very inadequate as a parent, but as my counselor reminded me, it's all about being a good enough parent b/c more is impossible.

post #18 of 89
Wow, I somehow missed this thread. I'll try to keep caught up from now on. We haven't decided yet about Boston, but we're leaning toward no. I don't want to be sick in my last weeks home with DD before I go back to work, and we both really don't want to have her get sick yet. sigh...and here comes the guilt. I'm not looking forward to telling my friend.
post #19 of 89

FischK, I just want to send you a hug2.gif as you sound like you've got your hands full.

 

I was doing pretty good at getting DS2 to take naps in his bassinet, which gave me some 1 on 1 time with DS1, then in the last few days DS2 won't stay asleep anywhere except on me during the day. I do put him down and let him cry for a few minutes if I need to see to DS1 (diaper changes, food, drinks, putting down for a nap) and I try to still interact with DS1 while holding DS2 up on my shoulder, but it isn't easy, and I often feel like I've become a terrible mother for DS1.

 

Sometimes you just have to do what works.

 

 

post #20 of 89

Homemade Sandwich Bread Recipe

 

(makes 2 loaves)

 

2 cups warm (hand hot) water

1/4 cup honey

1 1/2 tablespoon dried yeast

1 teaspoon salt

1/4 cup oil ( any kind, I use olive oil)

5 cups flour (I use 1/2 white bread flour & 1/2 wholewheat flour)

 

1. Dissolve honey in water, add yeast, mix and leave for 10-15 min. (should have a froth on top when ready)

2. Add salt & oil, then work in flour gradually until smooth (I add a cup at a time & use a wooden spoon to mix)

3. Cover with oil, then damp cloth over the bowl. Leave to rise for about an hour (find a warmish draft free spot, I use the stove top.)

4. Knock back (punch it a few times), work in oil with hands. Divide in 2 & place in loaf pans. Leave to rise for 30 minutes.

5. Bake at 350f for 30 min.

 

I usually double the recipe and then split in 3 for bigger loaves of bread. Once cold I slice them up and put most of it in the freezer so I only have to make bread once a week. I buy the white bread flour in 25lb sacks at Sam's Club, so this bread is very economical to make, and tastes really good too. You can adjust the sweetness of the bread by adding more or less honey without changing how well this bread will turn out.

 

This one is for Carrie, and anyone else looking for an easy to make bread recipe.

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