Originally Posted by Jaimee
I never understand why care providers would even attempt to predict anything about when babies will be born. You just never know and telling a woman (especially a first timer) that the baby will come early is like a jinx that it won't and then you're sitting there anxious about why baby isn't here yet. My cousin had that happen to her just recently. Her mw told her she thought the baby would come a bit early and her labor would be quite quick. The baby was over 2 weeks late and she labored for a long time and ended up with a c-section. It's just not mentally helpful! Silly quizzes are one thing, but we trust our care providers!
Agree! I knew of someone recently who was told by her doc that she'd have her baby "within the week".... she was only 37 weeks! WHY would you tell a first time mom she is going to have her baby early? Chances are you're completely wrong She did have her baby close to the due date, but my gosh those last weeks must have been much more agonizing than they needed to be. I think they are trying to keep the mom hopeful but it really has the opposite effect.
I was a WRECK the last few weeks of my first pregnancy. Society puts SO much emphasis on the "due date" that it was hard, though I tried, to get that "deadline" out of my head. I ended up being induced 10 days post date.
This time we took the approach of thinking of November as our "due month". We're due right smack in the middle so it seems reasonable to assume he'll come *sometime* in November. When people ask when we are due, that is literally what we tell them- Sometime in November. We've gotten some confused looks, but you know what, I am MUCH more relaxed than I was with #1. It's still early, but I can tell that I already have the mindset that I don't mind if I am late. I know I'll probably be uncomfortable but I feel optimistic so far. It's almost as if I just feel like I'll be pregnant for a good long while still and that's okay. It's hard to explain, I just really don't care when baby comes. Late, early, on time, whatever he wants.
Part of that might also be the fact that I know what those sleepless nights are like, and while I am so excited to meet our baby I also know that it's hard at first and it will be such a transition for DS1 as well. So he can stay in if he wants :-)
One last thing: It bugs me when I see pregnancy announcements from friends that say something like "expecting baby X on December 2, 2011!" I wanna scream, "Oh honey, don't set yourself up like that"..... All that is going to lead to is a late baby, a frustrated mama, and likely an unnecessary induction (like mine.) Booo.
(Sorry that was long. Must have hit a nerve )