Yes , we do rewards ,which is not working , we do punishments , which is not working either when he's misbehave at school . We used to make him write as a punishment , but then i thought that wouldn't be a good thing , cos then he would grow to hate writings .. So we tried rewarding him , i have a star system , when he's doing well excellent behaviour at school then he gets 2 stars , and when he reaches 5 stars he can get something a toy for example or a book whatever , and his long term goal is to get DS , so we set up 50 stars , when he reaches 50 stars then he gets a DS . I am not trying to set my goal for him to excellent everyday at school , i know it's kinda impossible for now , so when he only gets 1 warning , moving his bee only once i still give him 1 star , but when he gets 2 warnings ( losing 5 minutes recess ) i would not reward him anything . He doesn't get to play games or watch tv either , so on the days where he gets yellow or red ( losing all recess ), all he can do at home would be just reading or drawing or writing stories .. whatever between those 3 activities . At school his teacher is working on self monitoring system , such as raising hands before saying anything , keeping handa and feet to himself , he does well when she's doing 1 behaviour / week , but when she started doing 3-4 behaviours at a time per week , it's not working so well . He gets rewards when he reaches his behaviour goals .
Now the teacher said if he's being disruptive in class , talking too much etc , she would have to move him to the class next door , he would still be doing the same work , but he will have to be moved ,as his punishment / time out . She's only been doing this 2 times and he hates it . His teacher said maybe right now since all the rewards isn't working , maybe she's going to go the other way , the negative enforcement . He would be embarrass having to sit in the other classroom as his time out , but then again to me , he's going to be called trouble maker and bad kid by everybody .
As far as letting him working on something else after he's done with his job , i asked his teacher if she wouldn't mind if i send him to school with a book that he could work on while waiting . She said she doesn't mind . I really don't mind buying him books that he needs , and i told her that , so i bought the book for him and i will be sending the book with him , so when he gets free time instead of bugging other kids and being disruptive , i hope he can work on it .
You are right about losing the time , that's how i feel , he already spent almost 2 months not gaining anything from school . I am working with him at home still, working on some challenging stuff . So that his ability doesn't stop right here , i want him to progress , as long as he is willing and able to learn new stuff .. why should i stop him from doing that . Even if it means i have to do it with him at home , i really don't mind . I just wish the school would do something quick .. now , the school said nov 1st , my son can start going to the 2nd grade reading class , i guess it's because nov 1st is the start of 2nd quarter . Now we have to wait 2 more weeks .. wait and see .. again ..