Daughter is 16, thinks we're too strict with her time. She likes to hang with band friends after school. Sometimes they walk to the 7-11 or the hamburger place. Band has practice twice a week at 5pm. So to her it makes sense to just stay at school rather than come home for 2 hours and go back. I'm a little uncomfortable with this, but it sure is convenient for me. It also means I don't see her for a little more than 12 hours on band days.
She has to call and ask me, each time she stays after school. She has been doing so, but she says NONE of her friends have to do this, they ALL have complete freedom and don't have to call their parents to ask permission to go to the 7-11 or even to just stay after school. Dh and I think this is really unlikely. But maybe we're wrong?
Dh and I are both really uneasy about her just being out at loose ends, no agenda. We're both concerned that this is an invitation for trouble. Dh grumbles that it's because he remembers what he was like at that age. I'm concerned that she'll get in a car crowded with teens and die in a car crash.
She'll be 17 at the end of January. She isn't particularly a risk taker. Her grades are good, actually better than they've been in years. She's been an easy kid so far. By the way, school is walking distance.
She also insists that no one has to even inform their parents where they are. Again, I think this is really unlikely. Regardless, I'd be willing to change the policy so that she doesn't have to ask, she just needs to let me know where she's going to be.
So my question is, does your 15, 16, 17 y.o. need to ask you for permission to stay after school and hang with friends?
Do you know where your teen is most of the time?