We haven’t had one of those in a long time!
DS is now an early entry kindergartner at his preschool and has already attended one of the fortnightly pull-outs (yes, I know – at least after Christmas, there will be a daily ten minute pre-literacy program). Of course he whined in the morning he didn’t want to go, of course he came home loving it in the afternoon. We have to work on his confidence before we send him to first. And his self-regulation – as soon as fall rolls around and pre-school starts, his explosions were back as well. It’s not as bad as it was, but I am still expecting things to get worse until Christmas and better slowly in spring. At least this time we are prepared.
He has started reading words and it is so hard having to sit on my hands and not dive right into practicing reading with him the way I would with a first grader, so I can tell the first-grade teachers with a straight face I haven’t “worked ahead” with him – teaching reading is SO their prerogative. Well they can still work on directionality - I gather that knowing text goes from left to right and from the top down is a required end-of-K skill, but we seem to have things upside down. DS read “lo-co-mo-tive. Steeeee-ammm.” “I think the caption’s supposed to say steam locomotive”. “Oh. So that word at the top goes first?” I love asynchrony!
With maths and science I guess we can just give up on slowing things down. The other day, DH read “Pippi Longstocking goes to school” to him and DS excitedly pounced on Pippi’s complaint about the teacher just saying 8+4 equals 12, so how can 5+7 equals 12, too? “It’s so easy, Pippi just needs to take away 1 from the 5 to make it 4 and put it with the 7 to make 8 and she’ll see it’s 12 too!” and proceeded to keep doing this all the way to 12+0. “See? It’s easy!”
One day he asks me out of the blue: “Can photons blast away other little particles?” Um, I have no clue about particle physics, please ask your father who does, I said, as I proceeded to put away his socks. DS didn’t want to wait - suddenly he yells: “no they can’t –look, I’ve figured out an experiment!” I turn around and he is shining his flashlight onto a dusty surface: “Look, the dust is not moving!” I have no idea whether this is a proper experimental result in particle physics but I thought the idea was so neat I had to aks DH whether he’d put him up to this, but he hadn’t.
DD, is showing other strengths – she likes to feed herself with a fork, something DS is still working on!
We thought she was going to be the resilient, social one but after a great first week at daycare, she appears to be crying every day. I start work in November – I know it’s much too early to tell but we may have to think about alternatives. I’ll just have to face that my kids may simply be too sensitive to adjust to things the way other kids do. DS didn’t.