I'm not sure if this is entirely a gifted kid thing, but it happens in school and not so much at home (or it isn't problematic at home)... so here goes.
My kid attends a public montessori school and is in 5th grade. He is 10 years-old. Today when I was picking him up the teacher asked me to come in tomorrow to discuss his "attitude."
So I asked him if he knew what she was talking about, and he mentioned getting into an argument with a girl at recess. Basically, she called him stupid, and he called her stupid back. She went and told the teacher, and he got in trouble (a lecture about being rude, etc.) *but* he never mentioned that she called him a name, etc.
Not that it excuses his behavior, but it puts it into perspective, yk?
Last year a lot of this went on... the girls are kind of "clicky" and certain kids in particular are *very* bossy and mean to the boys, but it is all under the radar. Some of the girls are more sophisticated then the boys and do stuff like this... call a name, etc. by does the same thing, and then the girl tattles, and the boy gets in trouble.
And I asked him why he didn't mention it, and he just said it doesn't matter--they guys always get in trouble, no matter what.
So--he is 10, and does have attitude sometimes. He can be argumentative, sarcastic, negative. Pre-teen stuff. But I just ask him to adjust his attitude, and he usually does. Its like he doesn't realize he is acting rude, impolite, etc.
Edit to add, I don't know if this is what the teacher is going to talk to me about, or something else. I hate these meetings because I don't know what I am walking into. ... but that is all my son could share...
Any advice? Does anyone know if attitude is a bigger issue with gifted kids?