Originally Posted by Vermillion
I definitely want to prepare for a severe pre-e situation. Hoping like crazy it doesn't come to that, but always better to hope for the best while preparing for the worst, especially with a condition that is so unpredictable! I think that's the worst part... just not being able to get solid answers on likely scenarios, because nobody knows how it might go!
That was the most frustrating thing for me - the uncertainty, because every case is different. At one point my OB said she was going to try to get me to 37 weeks, and I didn't even WANT that because my BPs were so crazy and with my headache I felt like a ticking time bomb! It's definitely a balancing act. I have a good friend who is a Maternal-Fetal Medicine specialist 3000 miles away from me, and she said she would have delivered me at 29 weeks when my headache and visual disturbances cropped up, considering my history. And she definitely didn't want me home on bedrest because she felt I should be constantly monitored. My OB felt differently, and there were times that I went to triage with BPs of 170/90 on Labetalol and got sent home!
I hope your situation is stable-ish enough that you can stay baking until 37 weeks, but I'm glad you are in good hands and preparing yourself mentally for an early delivery. Another tip is to see if you can get a tour of the NICU, because if the first time you visit one is when you are visiting your own baby, it can be incredibly overwhelming and distressing.
With my first, he was taken to the NICU right away because he was a 32 weeker and needed lots of help. I had been on mag. sulfate for 2 days already, and wasn't allowed to visit him until he was over a day old because my blood pressure was still very high (200/110) and he was so tiny that the docs knew seeing him would only make that worse. It was very upsetting, but I was so out of it from the mag. that it was probably for the best. I was on mag. for 4 more days and got to visit him when I was up to it, and the nurses were great about bringing me a pump. He was in the NICU for 6 weeks and on expressed breastmilk the whole time, and transitioned to exclusive breastfeeding after a couple of months at home.
With my daughter, she was doing pretty well at birth and actually got to come up to the room with me after I got out of c-section recovery. I got to nurse her and snuggle for a while, but when my husband had to go pick up our son at school, I let the nurse take her to the nursery because I was on mag. sulfate still and didn't trust myself being alone with such a tiny baby. Unfortunately she had magnesium sulfate toxicity and started vomiting after she was sent to the nursery, and had some oxygen desaturations, so she was sent to the NICU. She was pretty floppy and it took a few days to get that out of her system before she could start taking feedings. Then it was the typical preemie jaundice and learning how to eat - but again, 10 days was nothing compared to the 42 days my son was there!
Hang in there and keep us posted! You and your baby are in my thoughts!