I work at an awesome indie, local mom-owned, kid-friendly coffee shop. The owner/my boss is a relatively new, yet very supportive and wonderful, friend of mine. I can bring baby to work with me. Awesome, right?
I've been nursing at the coffee shop for months. At first it was covered, but as I got more comfortable with nursing in public, and seeing that I was actually breaking some ground in our city by exposing people to NIP, I've started NIP uncovered.
I never asked her how she felt about it/if she'd be ok with me doing it in the shop while at work. I just did it. Been working there for a month.
The other day I was in there hanging out, drinking green tea and eating a scone. I wasn't on the clock. There was a group of kids with an extracurricular activity meeting, and their parent chaperones. One of the 2 chaperones was a mother who breastfed both her children, a girl and a boy - she informed me of this before:
I started nursing DD. My friend/boss came up to me and asked me in a low voice to please cover up, and mumbled something about some parents looking over here or something to that effect (I didn't hear it clearly). I was stunned and didn't know what to say or do.
I've been so proud of myself and so involved about my new-found mission in life: to pave the way for other moms to be able to NIP in this city where I feel bottle-feeding is prevalent. I'd never been asked to cover before - but now I was being asked, and not by a cop or a bus driver or a restaurant manager - by my friend with the kid-friendly coffee shop!
I went ahead and covered because I didn't want her to lose business. A bit later I asked her discreetly if one of the parents had been offended by my NIP. She said she wasn't sure. She said one of the little boys hanging out was looking at me out of curiosity, which caused the parents to look at what he was looking at. And she said, "you know how little boys can be". Then she said something like, "it's not so much that I care, but more that I'm just not even sure how I feel about it myself".
She has a 5-year-old boy who hangs out at the coffeeshop when not in school. We're right by a school, so kids come in there all the time.
Could this be a lactivism opportunity?
I don't want to lose my job or the friendship that I have with her.
I know that nursing should be about the baby and me and not anyone else's comfort and convenience, but I feel my activism is being challenged because I don't want to hurt her feelings or be pushy about mine.
At the same time, if she can come around to see the awesomeness and righteousness of NIP, wouldn't it be great? Also, if it's a kid-friendly coffee shop... it seems like it should really be BF supportive, right?
In our state, we have the right to BF in public and private, anywhere that a woman can be, public or private. How does NIP uncovered play into this?