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Originally Posted by AbbieB View Post

We were given a snuggle nest before out first. Great for sleep training DH to stay out of the middle of the bed while I was pregnant, waste of money once the babe was born. I found that co sleeping while nursing had the babe wanting to be head at boob height in the bed, the snuggle nest was just an awkward piece of plastic that got in the way. I also thought the ridged base made it too tippy in our bed, as in every time someone moved DD would get rolled around, which did not happen when she was directly on the mattress.

 

We just put our bed back up on the frame after having it low for awhile. DD was sleeping on a twin mattress on the floor next to us and DS is still in the bed with us. We bought bunk beds for the kids and have it in our room next to us (DD is not comfortable in her own room yet, sigh.) DD is happy on her top bunk, and the plan is to transition DS onto the bottom bunk before the babe gets here. He's chosen to nap there, so so far so good. At night he likes to be super close, kind of a new thing, so I'm really hoping it does not turn into a Daddy on the bottom bunk for awhile after the babe gets here. No matter what, babe and I get the king this time around.

 

Before anyone judges us, we are used to musical beds in our family. I have slept in the guest bed with a babe, on a queen mattress on the floor with a toddler next to DH in a king waterbed on the floor, on a mattress on the floor with a babe, next to big sister in her own bed, on a twin mattress on the floor with the kids in bed with DH, on the couch with the kids on an air mattress, etc...  Some of the time all 4 of us were in the king together. DH has had our king size to himself for a good part of the last 8 years so this time around he knows he will be the one that gets to be moving beds to accommodate everyone getting a good night sleep. OK, maybe now you might want to judge us (ha ha ha).

 

 

 

 


hah, sounds like us. We have a huge room that we built as a 'boys dormitory,' but right now we have our king, a set of bunk beds and a twin bed in it. (We are in constant remodel mode.) We definitely play musical beds. Most often one of us and two littles end up in the king and the other w/the 21mo in a twin. It's seriously annoying sometimes, but the boys are just not ready to be pushed out. Maybe when we finish the basement remodel in the spring they'll be ready for their own beds/room.

 

post #22 of 32

Really happy to read this thread and see what has worked for other mamas/babes.

 

We have a king bed and will plan to have the baby in with us for quite a while - a year maybe? We're going to convert the upstairs storage closet (about 4' x 8') into a diapers/clothes/changing area as our bedroom doesn't really have much breathing room around the giant bed to keep any baby stuff. Eventually baby will move into the guest/tv room which we are hoping to preserve as such for as long as possible.

 

I'm trying to figure out whether we need some other sleeping place for baby - maybe a bassinet or something for the living room, which is on a different level than our bedroom. DP says we don't need anything and can just nap the baby on the couch, but that doesn't strike me as very safe.

 

I don't want to go overkill and acquire way too much stuff - I'm so glad DP has had a baby before and is very minimalistic about what we need. At the same time I don't want to be desperately needing something but too exhausted and overwhelmed to a) realize we need it or b) figure out where to get it at a reasonable price.

 

For the bedsharing, no-crib families, where have you slept the baby on its own? Still in the family bed? What if that were on a different floor? Is this where monitors come in handy?

post #23 of 32

 We have a bed rail on my side of the king bed. We've always done naps in our bed and haven't had any problems.

 

Our bedroom is downstairs (in the basement) and the kitchen/baths are upstairs. I just don't go upstairs if the baby is sleeping. A monitor would come in handy, but we just haven't bought one.

post #24 of 32

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I'm trying to figure out whether we need some other sleeping place for baby - maybe a bassinet or something for the living room, which is on a different level than our bedroom. DP says we don't need anything and can just nap the baby on the couch, but that doesn't strike me as very safe.


For the bedsharing, no-crib families, where have you slept the baby on its own? Still in the family bed? What if that were on a different floor? Is this where monitors come in handy?


I wasn't comfortable with DD being on a different floor until she was like 9 months old, so until then, if I was able to put her down for a nap without me it was usually in a bouncy chair, or on a little pallet on the floor.  Not sure how that will work with a toddler around now.  Probably the bouncy chair option.

 

After 9 months or so, I'd nap her in the family bed.  It was easiest to nurse her down there.  We did an inexpensive monitor, and still use it every night (mostly to listen to her talk herself to sleep at night).

 

 

Any other moms of toddlers have a good solution for bedsharing?  It sounds like the bed rail is pretty much it....

post #25 of 32

 We love our bed rail and haven't had any problems with it. I have stayed with friends that kept a bed rail on a super thick mattress. The mattress was so thick that the rail only stuck up a few inches. It seemed superfluous to me.

 

How thick is your mattress?

post #26 of 32

We'll co sleep.  I do have a cradle I'll put near the bed just in case the baby doesn't do well with us moving around or is a light sleeper or just for naps even.  But co sleeping is what worked the best with DS and for me too, so we'll just do that. 

post #27 of 32

We have coslept with each of our kiddos:) We have a crib side-carred for our 18mos old right now, and he'll be staying there until he's ready to move into his room(shared by his 5.5yo and 3.5yo brother) probably around 2-3yo. The baby will sleep between us like the other 3 have done since birth:)

post #28 of 32

AbbieB- We know all about musical beds here! It goes in spurts here....last year it was brutal as my DH was moving from our 4.5yo's top bunk down to our 2.5yo's bottom bunk, and vice versa all night long....I was in our queen with a new baby so I stayed put. It's been great for awhile lately, though:) My 5.5yo is now sleeping totally through the night....what a relief! And our 3.5yo gets up maybe twice a week for snuggles or a drink in the middle of the night. My 18mos old is also sleeping from 8pm-730am...I have no idea how that happened. He's the only one of my kids that actually sleeps LOL. So....right now we are getting to sleep in our own beds most of the time! It's such a treat!!! I'm hoping it'll stay that way after the baby is Earthside:)

post #29 of 32

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Originally Posted by Itsasecret View Post

 We love our bed rail and haven't had any problems with it. I have stayed with friends that kept a bed rail on a super thick mattress. The mattress was so thick that the rail only stuck up a few inches. It seemed superfluous to me.

 

How thick is your mattress?


Oh, duh, I didn't think of that.  Ours is pretty thick.  I'll measure it when DD wakes up from nap.  But yeah, I can see how the rail wouldn't be that helpful on a thick one.

 

 

Funny thing that this whole line of thought brought to mind--when my brother was little (he's now 28), he rolled out of bed all the time, so my parents got him a rail (so maybe 1986?).  It was like 2 feet tall, four and a half feet long, and made of brass, with bars like a prison cell.  Funny. 

 

post #30 of 32

So who here has used the hammock type beds like Courtney is planning to use? They look really great to me, but so many things say they are unsafe. Now I know co-sleeping is also labeled by "the powers that be" to be unsafe so I hardly trust their judgment...I'd really like some real mom (crunchy world) type advice.

post #31 of 32

We are planning to co-sleep for as long as baby needs to.  I am planning to get a cosleeper or pack n' play, but I wouldn't be surprised if baby ends up in the bed with us.  

 

Those of you that have pets - does anyone cosleep with your child(ren) and a pet?  Our big dog sleeps in a crate, and our cats aren't allowed in our bedroom because of my allergies, but our small dog currently sleeps in our bed.  She is older and has never slept anywhere but with me.  We tried to crate train her when we last moved, but it was a miserable experience for all of us.  She generally sleeps at the foot of the bed without moving and would be on the opposite side of the bed from baby.  Is there any way this is a workable solution, or do we absolutely need to get the dog out of our room?  What if baby is in a cosleeper attached to the bed?

post #32 of 32
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Originally Posted by AbbieB View Post

Before anyone judges us, we are used to musical beds in our family. I have slept in the guest bed with a babe, on a queen mattress on the floor with a toddler next to DH in a king waterbed on the floor, on a mattress on the floor with a babe, next to big sister in her own bed, on a twin mattress on the floor with the kids in bed with DH, on the couch with the kids on an air mattress, etc...  Some of the time all 4 of us were in the king together. DH has had our king size to himself for a good part of the last 8 years so this time around he knows he will be the one that gets to be moving beds to accommodate everyone getting a good night sleep. OK, maybe now you might want to judge us (ha ha ha).

 

I think anyone who cosleeps understands this.  Right now we are in a one bedroom, so we all just squish on our king, but when we've been on holidays or other places with more beds DH is usually on the single matresses and I'm in the big bed with my boys.  Yet somehow we've managed to make number #3...  No judgement here!

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Originally Posted by CarlyVHT View Post
My sister said she would NEVER cosleep - until her daughter was born and insisted that SHE would never sleep at all unless it was next to Mommy ... preferably with a boob in her mouth :)

It's nice to hear about mom's who follow their mommy instincts rather than fear driven campaigns stating that cosleeping is always dangerous.  I have a dear friend who did the same, and she still laughs about how crazy she thought I was before she realized she would never get any sleep if she didn't cosleep.


 

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For the bedsharing, no-crib families, where have you slept the baby on its own? Still in the family bed? What if that were on a different floor? Is this where monitors come in handy?

I've always just put my babes in the middle of the bed, and sometimes used a monitor (if I remembered to turn it on).  My first fell off the bed two or three times and then never did it again; he would just wake up and yell for me from the side of the bed until he could get off on his own.  My second seemed to never figure out the side of the bed.  He still falls out regularly, although he stays asleep most of the time. Our bed is really low, and we don't have a bedside table, so there's little danger of him getting gashed or anything.  When my babes were really little (under 3 months) I did have a Moses basket that I liked because I could carry them around asleep from room to room.  After they outgrew that I felt they were old enough to be in our bed. Unfortunately our puppy chewed the basket to pieces in our last move, so I will either have to do without or find another if I want to do the same this time.
 

 

As for us, we are moving next week from a 1 bedroom basement suite, where we all sleep in a king (I've got a 4 and a 2 year old) to a two bedroom.  My plan is to set their room up and make a real big deal of it being their big boy room.  I have a double bed I will put them both in together, and if that doesn't work I will buy a trundle from IKEA and put one on that. Right now my 2 year old is actually better at sleeping on his own than my 4 year old, so I plan on having a single mattress on the floor of my room for middle of the night visits and telling them that they can sleep in our room, but not in our bed.  Once baby is here he/she will probably sleep in between DH and I.  Both my other babies have slept that way, but mostly curled up under my arm so they can nurse whenever they want.  I'm pretty good about just leaning over in my sleep and nursing from whatever breast I need to. 

 

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