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I am 32 years old and my husband and I gave been TTC via insemination ( private donor) for 5 months. I wait til my First pos OPK then I call my donor and I drive 1hour away do the insemination, sit with my legs propped for 20 minutes then drive home. I repeat that for every day I get a Pos OPK,which us usually cycle day 12 & 13. I find that I usually see the egg white CM prior to my positive OPK's. But I test when I notice this and my OPKs are negative. I am willing to try anything. My hubby and I have been together 12 years. There is nothing more we want than to have a baby, but it just seems so trying sometimes..anyone have any awesome tips they recommend for inseminations. I use Preseed with insemination. What about Instead cups or diaphragms anyone heard of these being successful? Help!! We've done one IUI and 3 at home inseminations. joy.gif
post #2 of 8

Hi there! We have a 2 mom family so we used a known donor to conceive our daughter and are currently using the same donor to hopefully conceive #2. It sounds like you have the process down pat! Is your donor able to start a bit earlier? When TTC DD I would start insem'ing as soon as I got ewcm....and I would usually O 2 - 4 days later. Do you temp so you can see when you O compared to when ewcm shows up? Are you insem'ing as close to the cervix as possible? Also, having an orgasm after insem'ing has proved to be helpful because it causes the cervix to "dip" and may come into closer contact with the semen/sperm. I've never used an instead cup after but I've heard it can be helpful.

 

The only other thing I would suggest is having your donor's sperm checked out. I'm assuming you've had basic testing and are fine?

 

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Do you temp so you can see when you O compared to when ewcm shows up?

 

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post #4 of 8
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Omg thank you for your thoughts on this. Although I have not endured as much as some women I feel like this process is so trying. Trying to pinpoint everything. OPKs temps ewcm. I'm like sheesh. Of course after 8 years of marriage we decided TTC only to find out hubby has azospermia. Im like I guess a drink and a wild night isn't gonna solve this.lol
We have not had the donor checked out because he has 4 kids so we figured he was all good.. He is usually pretty flexible so I can usually say this is when I expect to O and we keep these days as" possible visits" and I call the morning of the pos OPK. I may start earlier when I notice ewcm. I feel like I'm inseminating close. But I guess I'm not completely sure. I have not temped but it's something I'm going to start ASAP. How long would you say it took b4 u git a BFP. Do you inseminate more than once a cycle. I have been checked and all looks good. Thank you.
post #5 of 8
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Im going to start temping. My AP should be in 2 days so I will start As soon as I buy a basal thermometer.
post #6 of 8

As I mentioned in your other thread, I would guess that the OPK's are not lining up correctly with O.  So charting is definitely the way to go to find out!  In case you need some guidance getting going with charting, I had this already typed out for another post...

 

Start as soon as you can since the first day of red blood is cycle day 1.  Pick up a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler at the library (or buy it).  You don't need to read it cover to cover to get started, but it really is an excellent resource.

 

You can pick up a basal body thermometer (BBT) at your local drug store.  Some are better than others.  I prefer ones that take longer than 30 seconds (they seem more accurate to me) and can hold two temperatures in memory (this is especially handy when you wake up, temp, and go back to sleep- you can look at and record the temp later).  The Walgreens thermometer gets generally bad reviews.  BD gets good reviews. 

 

When temping you want to focus on a few things: taking it at the same time each morning (within 30 minutes); taking it after a solid block of sleep (3 hours is usually recommended); and making sure that you don't get out of bed, sit up, drink water, or fall asleep before or while temping.  So basically you just wake up, roll over, temp, and go back to sleep or get up. 

 

Some women are really sensitive to changes in sleep patterns or ambient temperature (like if your room is hot one morning and not the next or you wake up snuggled under a warm blanket and the next are out of the covers).  But other women find that they can see their pattern despite numerous night wakings, not getting a 3 hour block of sleep prior to temping, or environmental changes.  Other things that can affect temp- pretty much the same things that can delay ovulation: travel, stress, diet changes, injury, illness, and strenuous exercise.

 

Next, cervical fluid (CF) is something you can observe throughout the day- whenever you feel it, whenever you see it (while wiping, on your panties), etc.  Here is my general guide to CF:

 

Dry: you'll feel dry all day and there is nothing on your panties

Sticky: you'll generally feel dry and there will be a bit of staining- usually yellow- on your panties.  It might be a bit crumbly or clumpy.

Creamy: generally you'll feel a little wet, lotiony in texture, could be slippery when you wipe, often it will stand up on your panties

Wet: you'll feel wet and your panties will likely be wet- maybe even soak through, may look like skim milk (I rarely get this)

Eggwhite: you might actually feel it slipping out of you throughout the day and it might fall out of you while using the bathroom, stretchy- it may stretch from you to the TP for several inches- and usually clear or yellow tinted, often quite profuse

 

Temp and CF are the two basic fertility signs you need to chart.  There are other signs you can record like cervical position (CP), but it's not necessary unless your temps and CF are not showing a clear pattern.

 

So what you're going to see is a group of low temps from the start of AF, which is cycle day 1 (CD 1) until the day after ovulation (O) when you should see a spike in temp or steady climb to a higher group of temps.  The days between O and AF are called your luteal phase (LP).  Generally it is said that you need at least 10 days to sustain a pregnancy.  The average length is 12-14 days.  Your LP will not vary much- usually just by one or two days cycle to cycle.  But your O day could vary considerably.  So when you see O on your chart you can then predict when AF should show based on your average LP length.  If you go 3 days past your longest LP length then that is an excellent sign of pregnancy.  If you get 18 high temps after O that is 99% accurate- just like an HPT.

 

Likewise your CF will go from dry just after AF to sticky, to creamy, to EW as O approaches.  You may or may not go through all the different types of CF prior to O or you could skip from dry to creamy or dry to EW.  You might have many days of creamy and one or two of EW or you might have 3 or 4 days of EW with hardly any creamy.  It all depends on the woman and that particular cycle.  But after O you will dry up.  It could be instantaneous- like the day of the spike you're dry.  Or it could decrease slower- EW to creamy to stick to dry.  But usually you will dry up within a few days and then may or may not experience a few more days of creamy or even wet/EW later in your LP, just prior to AF.

 

Anyway, that should get you started!  Post if you have questions and use www.fertilityfriend.com to share your chart!  Good luck!

post #7 of 8
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So helpful!! And I signed up for fertility friend prior to finding this website. Thank you. Just bought My basal thermometer after I read these reccomendations.. But shoot Walgreens was the only place open.. I'll try and see how it works out. CD 1 should be here within the next day or so so I'll start temping 2moro. Wish me luck!
Thanks again.
post #8 of 8

Good luck!

 

I got pregnant the first 3 times we tried (1 chemical and 2 m/c) and then got pregnant with DD 3 cycles later....so I guess it was lucky #7.

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