Oh, I'm sorry! That's really tough.
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Hah, bet you never thought you'd hear the hospital was a calmer environment?! My MW actually has a birthing center we could go to, but due to third stage complications with my last birth my dh wanted to check out OBs this time. My MW recommended this doc to me and I think he's a really good fit for us. I'm content with our decision.
I really don't want to 'go' anywhere, yk? I LOVE birthing at home; it's just not for us at this stage in our lives. And to be honest, calling the sitter (my oldest dd) and driving away sounds pretty darn good to me right now!
I've been thinking about this too. Our closest family is over 3 hours away and DS doesn't know them too well since they only moved into that area a couple months ago, before that they were in Brussels. My parents are going to come out, but it will likely be after the birth, if it's before then things are set. At the moment though, I'm going to ask someone at our church that watched DS once before and he seems pretty comfortable with her. I just hope she will say yes, I'll ask this weekend. The thing is, DH might be in training so she'd have to watch him until I come home from the hospital and I'm not sure if that will work. I hope so. I'm going to try and get out of the hospital as soon as possible. Thinking about that is a little overwhelming though since DH might not be around to help. Maybe my aunt can come out though after I get released to help out until my parents get out here.
i have been showing my son youtube videos of natural home births to see his reaction. he loves them! wants to watch over and over. he'll be just turning 3 when this baby is born. i think i'll have a doula to be there until my mom/and or / husband can come. then just see what he's comfy with, if he wants to stay great if not thats fine.
Originally I was going to send my 4 years old son to stay with friends for the birth but then I was watching home birth videos with him and it amazed me that every time he heard newborn's first cry he would start laughing happily:)
I've discussed him being present at birth with my midwife. She says that usually siblings stay by mama's head, kiss mama well and once the baby is born they start bonding immediately. Now I think it would be plain wrong to rob him of experience and miss on opportunity for him to start bonding with his younger brother/sister. My son is the part of the family and I strongly believe he should not be excluded from such an important and joyful event.
I had the same predicament. I am almost 37 weeks with baby #3 and i did not want to leave my other two (4&2) alone while i give birth. We decided to have a home birth, that way my mom and brother can be in a different part of the house with my two year old while i give birth (my 4 year old wants to see the birth). Not sure if that will help but that is what we decided. Maybe you can find someone who lives closer to come to your house? Good luck though... i'm sure it will all work out!