My two year old is night weaned except right before bed and our routine looks something like this:
- mommy milk while cuddling in bed and I tell her while we are going to lie down that we will have a little mommy milk and then she will go sleep in her baby bed and mommy will have to go downstairs to go potty"
- after mommy milk I say okay and she gets up out of the bed and holding hands we walk out of the bed room and to the place she likes to sleep (not something I encouraged just where she likes to go, it is a nook at the top of our stairs so I have a blanket for cushion she sleeps on that)
- I tell her "I love you good night" and go down stairs. Usually this has been great for the past few weeks. But tonight...
She is screaming and crying for me and saying "Mommy milk", crying out for "Daddy" and "mommy" and then she starts crying out "wash hands I want to wash a hands please" so I went up because I hate to her her cry and then she freaks because I offer to wash hands in a bathroom upstair and she only wants to come downstairs. I offer mommy milk and to redo our bedtime sleep thing but she wants nothing to do with it and wants to come down and watch her yoga DVD and wash hands in the bathroom downstairs.
The thing is if I bring her down it will be midnight before she goes up. She will run around and make messes which is okay during the day I am not more concerned with my house than the ability for my daughter to play and learn and explore but I am pregnant and wiped out at the end of the day. Plus my fiancé works late and I just can't do it at night past 7pm.
I left her up there the second time because while angry bc I said she wasn't going downstairs she started pushing me and stepping on my belly.
Please tell me I am not the worst mom ever for leaving her upstairs freaking screaming and crying "wash hands downstairs" "peace on the tv please, mommy" and "mommy, i want you to come here...come here mama" after she pushed me or at all when I know she has a potty accessible to her(she pottys on her own), has eaten enough, and done everything we need for bed, and is really tired.
Or share sympathy or share wisdom experience and supportive advice.
Thanks in advance!