Hey everyone :)
I don't post on MDC often, but I knew this was one of those times where I could come here to be around some like-minded people and hopefully get some advice.
DH and I chose to not have our son circ'd. My first son, with my ex-husband, was circumcised because no matter what I did I couldn't convince my (now ex-) husband to not have it done and we eventually came to an agreement that we would have him circumcised on the condition that he would have delayed and separate vaccinations and some we wouldn't have done at all. I wasn't completely happy with the agreement, but back then I didn't really stick up for my beliefs the way that I should.
Anyways so, DH was completely ok with not having baby Owen circumcised, I was so happy to not have to fight over it! But now his parents make comments, and I don't really know how to handle it. They're not rude or anything, they just have a bad family experience with it...DH's grandfather apparently had it done later in life and there were some major complications. When we were at the hospital his dad asked if we were having it done and when we said "no" he said that there are higher risks of certain cancers and all this stuff...which I assured my husband there were not. Finally hubby asked the doctor about it and she, thankfully, set him straight and let him know that (her words), "It's baby plastic surgery and completely cosmetic with no medical benefits." Since then his mom has made a couple of comments, the most recent being, "I'm just saying that I never had either of my sons have this pee issue and they were circumcised." Basically...Owen has a habit of peeing everywhere during diaper changes. Like, on a regular basis to the point I almost expect it now.
Like I said, they aren't rude about it or anything...but I just suck at deflecting the comments. DH and I usually just ignore it and change the subject, but the comments just keep creeping up. I don't want to be super confrontational because his mom is very alpha-female and intimidates me (which isn't easy to do since I have a kind of "alpha female" personality as well), but I don't know what else to do but just tell them to stop...which they probably won't do.
...any advice? I'm sure someone here has had to deal with this before...