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the kids don't want to be confined to one room, and i don't want to be running after them monitoring them. 

but i also don't want to spend an hour of my time picking up room after room after they leave...i think i just need for the mess to not happen in the first place. a 7 year old should already know better than to trash someone else's house. as should a 5 year old.


If you don't want to confine their play area and also don't want to set up some cleaning guidelines, then things will stay the way they are and you'll be stuck with a massive clean-up after every playdate with this family. Venting here that they're messy is fine, and I'm sure it's frustrating to be faced with a huge mess when they leave, but unless you implement some changes in the way you handle the situation with them, nothing will change. 

 


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i mean, she doesn't have to set aside time to clean toilets, bathtubs, kitchen floors, vacuum, dust, clean the oven or the fridge, etc. -- the housekeepers do that on a regular basis. for me, though, those tasks are *huge* time sucks and when i have to instead put my energy and focus on picking up rooms that got torn apart -- rooms i had in relative order before the friends come by... i guess it just psychologically exhausts me.

 

I know what you mean, and I find myself feeling jealous of friends who have housekeepers too sometimes, but it's not necessarily the root of the problem here. Plenty of my friends with housekeepers are still very conscientious about helping clean up before leaving my house, just like some of my friends who clean their own homes tend to be messy guests when they visit me. 

post #22 of 23

When we have friends like that over, I try to intervene when they are going to another room.  I say they have to pick up the room they are in before they move on and trash another room.  They are more motivated to clean when there is another room looming to play in than at the end of the play date.

post #23 of 23

i would ask them to all clean up. that is what i would do but usually the mother would encourage her child to help clean. at least that is what i have my kids do when they are at other peoples homes.

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