Hi Ladies! So I know that this is TERRIBLY annoying - I usually try to start out with a basic understanding of a topic before I start crying out for help, but please bear with me...
The short - I suspect that my 14 month old might have a wheat or gluten intolerance/allergy of some sort or another. Most of the info I find on the subject is directed at adults, and a great deal of it is conflicting. I really have NO IDEA where to start.
A little bit of background - fourth baby, normal pregnancy, wonderful homebirth. No issues with breastfeeding. She was colicky from the first night, though, crying for probably 6-8 of her first 12 hours. Four months of intense colic, another four of (slightly less-intense) colic, and another four very irritable months. Since around her first birthday she is a little more mellow, but evening screaming bouts lasting 1-3 hours still happen 2-4x/week. She started solids (eating her choosing from our plates) around 7 months. The consistency of her stools remained more or less the same despite the solids, but took on a particularly offensive smell. Growth: She was born 7lb11oz, and gradually dropped off the charts, but my other three children have all been remarkably small as well. Her percentiles are comparable to #3's at the same age. At her 1 year WIC appointment, due to concern over her weight (below the 3rd percentile), the suggestion to "add extra carbs" to her diet was made. I dismissed the recommendation, but (with bread on the brain) I began to notice that she never picked bread/cereal/crackers from my plate, and when offered these items she was refusing them, prompting the suspicion that this may be a wheat or gluten issue. Family history: my second child had a (suspected) dairy protein intolerance that he outgrew around the age of 3. Otherwise, to my knowledge, no family history.
As an experiment, around a month ago I began to "limit" wheat/gluten - ie if it *obviously* was a wheat product (bread, pasta, crackers) I kept it away from her. I was unable, at the time, to eliminate gluten entirely, nor do the research I would have liked to do at the time. In the past month I have observed the most solid stools she's ever had - these stools smell like "normal poop" (sorry...). We have slipped up a few times, while traveling, or when a sibling fed her their sandwiches. She has, on these occasions, reverted to her very very soft/slimy/stinky stools. I will be the first to admit though, that this is still just suspicion. We never fully eliminated wheat/gluten, and I have not been keeping a food diary, so it could very well be something entirely different. On the surface, though, my experiment has me convinced that I'm looking under the right rock.
I am working on gathering enough information/recipes etc to fully eliminate wheat for a time. I would also really like to gather some information, have an understanding of what we might be facing before I take her doctor and have her put through the ringer as far as tests go - some of the testing (scoping, specifically) would likely involve international travel which under any circumstance would be undesirable, but would currently border on impossible. So lay it on me ladies! Where do I start?!?!
Extraneous information - I know you ladies are kind and welcoming and would never judge, but I feel the need to defend myself for not noticing that something was wrong sooner, and not starting a full elimination and research sooner - I won't bore you with the details but my family has been put through the ringer in the past few months and many days we were just happy to have the time to put together any meal. I feel terrible that this has gone so long unnoticed and then so long ignored, but I'm really doing the best I can. <3