DS, 5 and in K, is pretty bright I guess, not quite gifted probably but a bit ahead especially in math. They put him in the "high reading group" and just now it seems they formed a high math group. He's been breezing through the counting and comparing worksheets and such very quickly and the teacher up til now has asked them to color or sometimes go play a game if they finish early. At home he adds and subtracts for fun and counts to 100, at school he's asked to color a certain amount (1-10) of objects or trace numbers. I can't help but feel this high math group is a bluff to try and prove these kids aren't ahead at all and she isn't wasting their time on the regular curriculum. She handed out papers of new assignments (not too difficult but new procedures) and didn't tell them the instructions, he said he couldn't do it and she wrote it was too hard for him and sent it home rather than telling him how and encouraging him. At home I read him what it said to do (the instructions were beyond his reading level) and he got through it on his own just fine. My son swears up and down they never told him what the assignment was and that if he asks for instructions they tell him to hush and do it himself. He lost part of his recess time for not following directions and doing his work. I don't want him giving up just because he doesn't feel like doing things, he's good at this stuff and it's actually still below what I've seen him do. I know he's just 5 but he thrives on challenges and structure and the worksheet format works for him, if allowed to play without structure he does well for a while but his behavior gets pretty bad after a while. If given lots of easy busywork, he does ok but gets bored and talks to other kids. He does have trouble listening to directions if he gets it in his head he already knows something or that the speaker is wrong.
I wonder, what do I need to tell my son? How might I help the teacher meet his needs? We plan to homeschool next school year, if I could afford a curriculum yet I'd go ahead and pull him out after winter break. School has been great to teach him schoolwork habits and that he can already read small words (he refused to believe it before), and to find what clicks with him, but there's a lot that isn't working too.