This is such new ground for me.
We have a sitter who comes to our home about 25 hours a week. She keeps my 2 boys (plus my first grader after school, he rides the bus home) fed and alive. That's about the extent of the work she does.
At first she was great, but she's been going downhill rapidly as of late. It has gotten to the point that she's late at least half of the time, she's not cleaning up messes during the day, and I'm almost positive that she's putting my 2 year old in front of Netflix all day. She's not very nurturing (she sends my 1 year old to the door to watch me leave every day and he just cries and cries, breaks my heart) and my dh has caught her in a lie before (my ds3 was sitting in a poopy diaper that she said he "just did," dh said that judging from the redness on his bottom that this was absolutely not true).
She's also been harassing us for a pay raise. She's been with us for 7 months and has already gotten a 15% raise. Now she wants another 30%. We told her that we just can't afford to pay her more right now, which is the God's honest truth. When she saw that we got football tickets on facebook (which were given to us for free, the trip to watch the game won't cost us anything either b/c we'll stay with MIL and eat her food, LOL), she sent me a text telling me how offended she was b/c we said we couldn't pay her more but we're going to a football game and we were going shopping (for winter clothes for the kids, which she knew is why we were going) over the weekend. I mean, this text went on and on; it was so long her phone broke it up into 5 different messages. Then she's asked about a raise 2 times this week already. I know they are struggling financially right now, but we aren't in a position to bail her out, especially when her work is borderline unacceptable.
Anyway, we were going to sit down with her and tell her that this is what we pay, period. But I put my feelers out on care.com and got some good response, so if I can find an acceptable replacement I want to let her go. I'm a softie, though. And a conflict avoider. So I just don't know how to go about this. Dh does a lot of hiring and firing at work, so I plan to let him do a lot of the talking, but I'm expecting some vile feedback. I wouldn't be surprised if she blows my phone up with texts or goes beserk on my facebook page (although I do plan to unfriend/block her very soon, like tomorrow).
Any tips for doing firing? I feel terrible about it all even though I know I shouldn't.