I have a happy report to make, we did the chart idea at bedtime and at 4 days in, he is really getting it, liking it and bedtimes have been SO SO SOOOOOOOO much better! DH has been very happy with the results as well (which is good since he is the one doing bedtime for both "big" kids since the baby was born). I am so happy for all the suggestions. Thanks again so much!
Great! Glad it helped. :)