I am counting on not feeling relaxed enough to go into labor if it's during the day. I would not have enough people close by to help . . I'd need someone for the kids and someone to drive me to the hospital. If the person has kids, they would not fit in one car w/ours, so I'd need two people. May have to call a cab, but like you, hoping this will be a nighttime/early morning thing.
DD1: Don't know when I was actually in labor with her-- I would say real cx I could feel started at maybe 1 or 2 p.m. and she was born at almost 4 p.m. It was a weird scenario, though-- bleeding tremendously, couldn't feel baby move, so I was in the hospital by about 10 a.m. for them to check on the baby. Did not feel cx but they said I was having them at that point. 7 days early. DH had left for work, but not that far. Was with me the whole time in hospital, when I had cx I could feel.
DD2: Little cramping started at 10 p.m., bloody show by midnight, real cx at about 3 a.m., and she was born by almost 6 a.m. 11 days early. (I was charting.) My husband was home, mom was nearby.
DD3: Cramping in the a.m. Regular cx about 4 or 5 p.m., went to the hospital by about 7 p.m., born at 8 p.m. 14 full days early (I was charting). Real cx did not start until after my mom was here to help with kids.
DD4: Woke up at 6:30 a.m. (a SUNDAY, which so great) with cx, water broke at 7:30 a.m., and baby born by 8:30 a.m. Born maybe 4 days early. Everyone was home, but mom did not come quickly so had to have friend watch kids while we went to the hospital.
A homebirth would make this a lot easier.