I'm looking for a little feedback about our experience this year at my daughter's new pre-school. My dd is 3 and I have some concerns about the way she is being treated by her teachers. The first month of school was difficult with my dd upset at pickup every day and her teachers saying it was a "tough" day when she got into the car. My dd had also a few times said she was put in time-out and that one of her teachers yelled at her and was mad at her. I was very upset about this and spoke with the director as well as the teachers and let them know my concerns.
They explained that they don't use time outs but that is the language they use for when a child needs to be removed from a situation. Things seemed to have gotten better since. However, at my parent teacher conference last week I was less than impressed by the level of preofessionalism of the teachers and some of their comments. For example when I was describing the difference between my husband's discipline style and mine one of the teachers said "well, yeah, that's his daughter but just wait until she is 15 out at the bars". During the meeting there was alot of emphasis put on how my dd does not want to do what the rest of the group is doing sometimes, ie. participating in circle time when she was enjoying playing with a toy or whatever. They were asking me what works at home to get her to do what I want her to. I gave them some ideas but explained that she does have a good bit of freedom at home. I left the meeting feeling like they were essentially trying to get my dd to "fall into line" and I understand that rules have to be followed, but I don't want my child to be perceived as a "difficult" kid.
Another focus for them has been her screaming. My dd has a high pitched scream that she will use to let someone know she is mad or to get attention. We have tried to work with her and I will send her up to her room if she wants to scream, but she continues to do it.
Last week another mother told me that she overheard one of the teachers use a "harsh tone" when correcting my dd for screaming. She explained that she would not want someone speaking to her child that way. She also heard the same teacher say "evie do we need a time out already?" I spoke with the director about these concerns and explained that I am now very unsure about my plans for next year. She told me that they had been having a challenging time with my dd and that there was another teacher now added to the classroom and that she had been "working with" evie. This was news to me, no one explained this to me. She also said that my dd screaming was "frightening to the other children". I am going to be looking at other schools for next year, but I am not sure whether this is me being overly sensitive or if this is not the right school for my daughter.