Long and short of it - I love my sister to pieces, but her attitude is that the schools should teach the children and isn't the type to jump on a challenge with both feet. Now, me - I am all over everything to do with my child, but I recognize that situations differ, financially, socially, etc. although we are both single parents.
I'm the kind of mother that pulls up to a red light and asks: "what's that in Spanish" - "roja" - granted my 3 yo still admires me, so I get away with continual questions, etc. - she's the one who started counting the steps in Spanish at her school, now we do it daily as people laugh: uno, dos, tres, cuatro, cinco, .."
Her daughter is 9 - 4th grade, recently moved from mediocre school district to a very good one. I think during parent-teacher conference when my sister was deeply hurt/bolthered learned that her daughter is in the lower level of math and not as advanced at reading as she assumed. My attitude - fine, it is what it is - now what? What's the game plan? What can I do to help?
We have very different attitudes about homework - I think all children should have a small desk (or even part of kitchen table), and that the child has dedicated time and space to do what she needs and that will pre-empt any chores, eating, bathing ("as soon as you're done with your homework") and my sister sees homework as an intrusion to the evening when everything should have been learned at school.
I'll be visiting over the holidays - and want to use that time to help my niece raise her confidence, and re-engage her in the pursuit of learning.
Any ideas about math books for 4th graders? How to remotely engage her without being too intrusive? Maybe if I get her a couple of math workbooks that we start when I'm there, I'd be happy to spend 15-30 minutes several times a week to encourage her. She's at such a crucial age that I'd hate to see her lose her confidence.
Maybe a small desk/chair/lamp as a Christmas present so she has a learning area.
Any thoughts or suggestions appreciated.... I want to find a way to help my niece without being overbearing, know-it-all type. I don't know the answers, but hate the thought of a beautiful bright little girl lose her confidence
Or maybe it's just back off, but I'd love to see all of our children be confident and do their best.