Hi there, I'm hoping someone else has gone through the same thing and has some advice.
My DS is 3.5 years old. He's a late bloomer potty-wise. We waited for him to show interest and be excited about potty learning (yay, Wiggles underwear! Thomas underwear! treats!) but he never did, so we started him with a bit of a push at the beginning of September. He's supposed to start Kindy (Aussie preschool) in February and must be totally self-sufficient by then.
He's almost fully pee trained. He prefers to use his potty rather than the toilet right now ("too scary!") so we go with that and are gradually enticing him to sit on the toilet and feel comfortable there (he was on it for about five minutes yesterday, so that's progress). He's fairly consistent at home...realizes when he needs to go, and rarely has accidents anymore. Out and about he might have one because he gets distracted playing or he doesn't like to use the public toilets.
The big issue is his bowel movements. He will not do them on the potty. He managed once so far in seven weeks...we caught him midway through and plopped him on there. But otherwise, if he gets a chance, he runs away and does it somewhere in hiding and of course it's a mess to clean out of underwear. His schedule is unpredictable and especially since we've been potty learning, he's taken to holding it in now so a couple of days might pass with no action whereas he used to be a twice a day guy when he wore diapers.
We talked it out until we're blue in the face. He says he "likes" pooping in his pants. He says he doesn't want to use the potty or the toilet ("it'll get dirty!") even though we assure him it's fine and we'll clean everything. I've had exasperating times where he'll have just used the potty to pee, pulls his pants up, wanders off to play in his room or outside and I run to check and he's already had a poop in his underwear.
Does anyone have any advice or suggestions? I feel like we're running out of time to get a handle on this for preschool and he'll have to stay home next year. I'm at the end of my rope. I never had to deal with anything like this with my older child.
Edited to add: I just realized that this probably should go in the Ages and Stages/Childhood Years section, so feel free to move mods. Thanks.
Edited by japonica - 10/24/11 at 4:50am