Whenever my ex-husband and I went to court over custody for our children I wasn't in a stable living environment and didn't have a steady job. I chose to forego the "custody battle" and agree that they could live with him primarily. It was not only a stable environment for them, but one they could (and have) thrive(d) in. I especially don't get to see them as much now because my husband and I moved to be closer to his family, which puts me a few extra hours away from my two oldest.
Anyways, I always hate having to say to people (whatever the situation may be) that my other two children don't live with me primarily. I feel this need to explain the entire situation even though I know I don't have to. I feel like people automatically assume I was a terrible mother because most of the time it seems the kids live mostly with their mom unless she has done something to not deserve custody.
Has anyone else ever gone through feeling like this? I just feel so...terrible...when I'm put into a situation of explaining myself.
Hope this is the right forum to post this in, I didn't see another place it would have fit any better.