I was wondering if anyone has used sibling sperm donations. I will be the birth mother, and my partners brother will be the donor. I have lots of concerns about both the good and bad consequences by going about it this way.
I have tried insemination with frozen sperm twice. Both came up negative. My concern is that I may be wasting my money on this expensive sperm, when I could get it for a more reasonable price or even free like the rest of the world does. The freezing and thawing process of the sperm tends to kill them off and they only have a life span of 24 hours. Fresh sperm can live up to 4 days in the tubes waiting for the egg. So we started to look at our options.
We wanted to use her brother before we began this process but we considered how that would affect the child later on, when we revealed that Uncle James was suddenly Daddy James. Although James wouldn't be apart of the childs life in this matter, that is the basic understanding of a child or teen mind frame when revealing their true routes. Where he will be in the childs life as Uncle, we were also worried that it would affect their relationship.
James has a wife, and 2 kids. We talked to both him and his wife and they said that they were both willing to help us out. He also said he would take the $300 that we offered (for an unlimited supply) to help justify that he was SELLING his sperm, instead of just 'knocking me up'. He also agreed he would not over-step his boundary and resume the role as Uncle only.
Going this way will also allow my partner to be related to the child aswell. She is willing to love he/she however they become part of our family but it is an added bonus to have them be blood related to her. We have asked the advice from my parents, and hers, and they have also agreed that this is the best way to go, to allow us BOTH to have that special bond of being related.
Has anyone else have done this? If so, how are you planning on informing the child about their true routes? Please, any input will be appriciated!!