Ok so my brother(18) is dating a girl who is very unclean. Does not wash hands after using bathroom, showers probably monthly, wears the same clothes for a week even if they are covered in dirt and who knows what else, very oily hair with flakes falling off everywhere, etc. It is very sad. She will not listen to small bits of encouragement to clean up, and I dont want to be rude and say "God you stink, go shower and change your clothes!", so, what do I say when she wants to hold the new baby? I wouldnt have a problem asking her to wash her hands, but I know she will just quickly run them under cold water and then contaminate my clean hand towel to dry them. Would it be too mean to just ask her to go home and shower and get clean clothes? I dont know if I even have the guts to do it lol.
Also thought about hand sanitizer, but that stuff scares me because it does not kill the MRSA and other antibiotic resistant bacteria, it just kills off all the other bad stuff and the good stuff and leaves only the MRSA. Then there is also the issue of the baby being held against her dirty clothes, wrists, and arms.
Maybe I am being ridiculous but I do not want to expose my baby to whatever might be on this girl! She goes to highschool, and she never washes her hands even after using the bathroom, two things that could cause a ton of bad germs to be on her hands, clothes, etc. I actually wipe off my couch after she sits on it when they come over, I dont even like her in my house at all but I dont want to be mean to her!