DS will be 5 in a few weeks and has recently started school and we are having some problems with his meltdowns in the classroom. Twice the teachers have ended up moving the class to another room till he calms down, on another occasion they removed him, though this ended with him lashing out at the staff. We had some problems in preschool too so this in not new, just the extra structure of school and his increasing strength are making it harder to remove him from the situation to calm down.
I would not be surprised to find him diagnosed with aspergers in a few years, of what I've been reading that best describes his issues. However the special needs team at the preschool felt that as he was starting to make progress it would be too early to say anything for sure one way or the other so we haven't pursued anything formal.
In terms of avoiding the meldowns I have some ideas I would like to discuss more with his teachers. For example before he started we discussed them setting up a picture chart of his routine for the day which I'm not sure they have done yet.
However I am completely at a loss as to what to do once he has reached the point of meltdown. Generally he screams and stomps/kicks and is very loud which is disturbing the other children. He also tends to lash out at anyone coming near him (hence them deciding to remove the other children) so I'm not sure how a calm down space in the classroom would work out.
He seems to need a fairly physical was of getting the tension out, I have wondered about some sort of stress ball but I fear it may just become a missile. When he was younger he liked "big angry jumps" on his little trampoline but he is outgrowing that.
We're having a meeting with the teachers sometime next week and I'm hoping they will have some ideas but I wondered if anyone had any strategies that have worked well for their children.