I cosleep and nurse my 14MO daughter. I got an Arms Reach cosleeper when she got out of the NICU (6 weeks early) but that didn't last more than 2 weeks and she was in my bed.
My sex life has come to a screeching halt. We've probably had sex 5 times, maybe less since she's been born. He's not even sleeping in the bed anymore and says I'm just making it harder to get her into her own bed. I've only heard that from everyone I know. Personally, if I had to choose between my husband sleeping in my bed & my daughter, I'd choose my daughter, but I'm afraid doing that might mean the end of our marriage. We have other issues too, but I believe not having sex only makes them soooo much worse. Both of us already have issues with sex drive and this just makes it worse. At this point I think we both feel like we never need to have sex again but I feel like we NEED to even though I don't necessarily DESIRE it. We both struggle with depression, and I think that has a lot to do with our lack of libido. I put a twin mattress in our bedroom just so that we could do it there after she falls asleep but he doesn't seem to care. I'm not sure if this is an excuse or not.
I don't know what to do & I'm not sure if pushing her out of my bed is the answer... Help?