IVF Graduates thread!! - Page 6

[Kewpie80]

Keria - Thanks! His mouth seems to look like mine, which I got from my grandmother.  We think he got my husband's cheekbones.  Ugh to mancolds!  I have opinions about those, but I better keep it to myself 

Bell;y - I'm so looking forward to your beta today!  c'mon big numbers!!

Tenzin - How funny! You mentioned all the things I'm currently fretting over!  We're planning to cloth diaper, but I have zero experience with them.  DH has has some, but only with flats.  I have a friend who brought by a hamper FULL of various ones and very few are the same.  So, I guess I'll get to try a zillion types.  Some of the diapers are HUGE.  I don't think it would be possible to put any sort of pants over them.  They make bumgenius look tiny if that's any indication.  I'll take a picture of them if I can remember.  I am making a bunch of flats to use in the early weeks and I plan to sew at least a few AIOs for when we go out.  

We're also looking into carriers right now.  We spent a bunch of time looking at them last night.  We're leaning towards a Boba (used to be sleepy wrap) cause their organic ones are made in Colorado.  Their "classic" are supposed to be made in China.  The problem is, we couldn't figure out which were the classic and which were organic and buying from the US is definitely important.  I'm hoping our little ones like to be carried in something like that.  I'm not sure how I will carry them both up and down our 3 flights of stairs otherwise. The wraps seem so much less bulky than the structured ones.  

We actually bought an Arm's Reach co-sleeper last year when we were expecting our first.  We got it on an after Thankgiving sale and even got free shipping.  I got it at either diapers.com or babyearth.com.  We got the wooden sleigh type.  I hope you can find a great deal somewhere and be able to get one.  They are so pricey! The sheets are expensive too.  At amazon, they are $18.  Ugh! I bought one set and I'm tempted to use it as a template and just sew some more.  I'm a little hesitant to make my own things for sleeping things though... I have a friend who has the arms reach sleeping hammock.  Her baby has reflux and he can't sleep flat and it really seems to help.  She got hers on craigslist.  

Renavoo - Yay for graduating!  I felt a little scared to be graduated.  -not sure why...

[TenzinsMama]

The cloth diapers I was mentioning that I love so much are pocket-style Bum Genius...

Renavoo, cloth diapers can be really absorbent, and the pocket-style allows you to put in an extra insert for nighttime.  We do a wash every 2 or 3 days, and we start out with a soak, then a wash and double rinse.  With a breastfed-only baby, the poo stains come out quickly by simply putting them where the sun can hit them.  Once they are on solids, it takes a lot longer to come out that way... we haven't investigated whether there is a different detergent we could use (there are only certain types that are recommended for cloth diapers; we use Claudia's Choice but I think Rockin' Green is another one)-- we're still relying on the sun.  We didn't use cloth diapers right away when DS was born because of the meconium being so sticky and staining.  DS has never had a rash, but sometimes we use a cream on his bottom as a preventive thing-- in that case, we use those disposable strips that come on a roll-- so it doesn't stain the diaper.  I have noticed that our water bill is higher from all the washing, but I definitely feel better with having him in cloth.  Oh gosh, your work shedule sounds daunting.  I know how tired I've been with a singleton!  Do make sure you are getting enough rest, it's too bad that it's the busy time of year at your workplace.  What are you going to do, just plough through things until you tell him in a few weeks?  What would happen if you told him sooner rather than later?  I guess so much depend on the guy himself, and your work climate... When I was working, I was at a Children's Hospital, so it was very family-friendly and I had a woman boss who was devoted to her two young girls, so if I was still there I know it would be easy for me to share that news early on with her.  In fact, she used to tell me that if I was going to have children, I better "get on it!".  Ha ha.  When I went to Africa on my own to meet up with a group once I was there, she told me, "Don't get yourself killed!".  She was great.  Ah, now I'm getting all sentimental thinking about my time there... darn pregnancy hormones!  ha ha

[Keria]

The computer ate my reply :(

Anyways

We got some really cheap diapers on ebay they were 10 for 36$ so we got 20 of them they are one size so we'll use disposable until they fit in them and we'll probably just use them at home.

For sleeping we plan to side car one of the cribs and keep the other crib at their nursery/our office. For the carrier we got a beco I love it so far can't wait to try it with the babes.

Belly can't wait for your results today I'm sure they'll be perfect. Our twins would be "due" at the end of feb I think they'll be born sometime in the middle. I have a feeling we are going to have to evict them at 38 weeks they seem to too comfy in there.

Rena Yay for graduating, how many weeks are you? I ate tons on my first trimester it was the only thing that kept the nausea away.

I finally went out and got DH some cold medicine he refused to take anything before and just whines all day. I'm  really hoping I don't catch it.

[BellyBean]

About cloth diapers.  We totally love them.  We used disposables for the first week or so mainly cause i didn't want to stain my diapers :)  Then we used FuzziBunz x-small for the first 3 months, then switched to one size after that (till she potty trained at 20 months!)  I actually found the one size trimmer than mediums and only slightly bigger than a small.  They can be a little bulky on a newborn, but they grow so fast it can be hard to justify buying the xs or smalls!  Diaper laundry is/was actually my favorite type of laundry since there isn't any folding :)  I washed every other day in Rockin Green, Eco Nuts, or Allens (all cloth diaper detergents).  Like Tenzi said, breastfed poo is water soluble so it comes off really easy and we never had any problems when we changed to solid foods either because normally the poop was solid too and got dumped in the potty before washing.  Fuzzibunz are also pocket diapers so you can change the number/fabric of insert depending on use (like at night).  So easy, cute, cheap, environmentally friendly, and no chemicals on baby's bums (my DD has very sensitive skin).  It might be harder with twins (we went through about 15/day in the beginning - DD peed often but only a little at a time), but I do have one friend IRL that did prefolds and covers with twins.

I love my Ergo.  I am not sure where it's made, so that might not work for some.  I got the organic green Ergo and have loved it.  I also like that it has a pocket, so I could fit a diaper, a few wipes, and my small wallet for a quick trip to the grocery store :)  I have also heard great things about the Boba!  Although I haven't tried one myself.  I did buy a Moby on clearance that I am super excited to try this time around.  I was a little intimidated by all the wrapping, but I am sure I can handle it and I have friends that swear by it (especially with tiny twins)

Kewpie, My girlfriend and I were talking about the arms reach co-sleeper at work the other day (she doesn't know I am pg).  We both have really high beds so we didn't know if the sleeper would work. Do you know if it adjusts up and down?  Or how tall it is?  I guess I could probably look it up online, so don't worry if you don't know the answer off the top of your head!  We both used craddles/bassinets with our firsts, but it is a pain to get out of bed to get them...although I made DH hand DD to me for a long time :)  We also had the "in bed" co sleeper that we used for the first 6 weeks or so...till she got too tall for it. 

Renavoo, I love that we are only 2 weeks apart!!!

In case you didn't see on the other thread, my beta was still good today (4713), so I am still on for my u/s next wednesday...ugh it feels like a lifetime away!!!

Edited by BellyBean - 11/16/11 at 1:22pm

[Kewpie80]

belly - yup, the one we have adjusts from 18" to 30." From where I'm sitting, it looks like the wheels are attached to a pole that slides up and down within the legs and there seems to be a lock to lock it at the height you want. 

[BellyBean]

Kewpie, thanks!  I need to go measure my bed now :)

Keira, I love that you think you'll have to evict the twins!!!!  That sounds so funny :) 

[Kewpie80]

I'm feeling really angry tonight for no good reason.  This is the second time I've felt like this this week.  grrrr

[TenzinsMama]

Belly, that's great about the beta!!  I cannot wait for your u/s on Wednesday, I hope the time goes by as fast as it can for you!  What is your due date?  I think I'm going to see about the Ergo, I have a friend who swears by it, too.  I can always sell my BabyHawk if I like the Ergo better.  I didn't get one at first, because I thought the straps and hip thingy would bother me... I do have a carrier that works the same way as a Moby Wrap, it's like a double sling and you just move them in a certain way to get the wrap effect (starts with a 'K', I can't remember the name).  I bought it on sale after DS was too heavy for that material/kind.  The wraps are so comfy for them when they are small, my friends have told me.  I'd like to check out the FuzziBunz, too, if you like them so much.  Nothing like hearing this stuff from other moms!  Oh, and the Boba looks really good I think, too-- was it in the mothering newsletterthat I saw they have a giveaway for them?  Isn't that amazing how even having a bassinette beside your bed can still be a pain, when you have to be the one to get up and get the baby?  DS had some issues with reflex in the early days, so he was waking a lot and needing to be held, so it was exhausting.  I'm so keen to get something else, like the co-sleeper or hammock.

Renavoo, when is your due date?

Kewpie, thanks for the info about the co-sleeper-- you always have such good info and the names of the websites that you share.  Hopefully as the night progresses your mood lifts... it's frustrating when moods get like that, when there doesn't seem to be a reason.  Pregnancy... it's kinda crazy what our bodies do, heh? 

Have to run... must clean up the house while I have a window of opportunity before DH and DS come back from groceries.  I'm hoping they come back with some boneless, hot flavored chicken wings from Tony Roma's.  Ack, the money we've been spending on eating out lately... I just don't feel like eating what we have at home very much.

[BellyBean]

Kewpie, I am sorry you are angry/upset.  I know it's really frustrating for me when I find myself in a "mood" for no reason and I can't shake it.  Try to take it easy on yourself though, you are giving up so much on bedrest that you need extra love and support.

Keira, how is the house hunting going?  A lot of exciting stuff for you guys!!!!!  I have a girlfriend IRL that got a bunch of inexpensive diapers on ebay (I think BabyLand) and she loves them!!

Tenzi, As of now, my due date is 7/15/12.  I love my one size fuzzibunz.  The reason I love them so much is the way they adjust.  They use elastic adjustments around the legs and waist (like maternity/kids pants) so they are always really snug around the legs/no blow outs and it's like a custom fit because of how many settings there are.  So you set them and then don't have to change any settings until the baby grows and you want to make it a little bigger (several months in between).  Since they adjust inside the diaper, they don't snap down the front like other one size diapers so there is no bunching in the front or snap marks on thighs.  They just came out with the "elite" one size, which completely hides the adjustment inside the pocket (it was partially outside before, so easier to get to, but the elastic would curl in the wash sometimes and pop out and need tucked back in).  I'll probably end up selling my ridiculously huge stash and go with the new style.

Oh and for everyone, I don't know if you know about diaperswappers.com but that is an AWESOME place to buy/sell new and used cloth diapers!  That's how I tried lots of different brands without spending a fortune and where I have sold all of our diapers when they come out with new styles or colors :) I might be addicted!  Even so, we have probably saved at least $2500 on diapering our DD!

Also, most of the cloth diaper stores will be having black friday sales, they are already talking them up on facebook, so whatever I buy new will probably be on black friday.  I don't like to buy anything diaper related unless it's around 20% off with free shipping.  I have been around enough to know that those deals pop up a few times a year and to only buy at that point :)  Never pay full price!  Then worse case you can sell them if you don't like them and not loose much/if any money :)  I have actually made money trying new diapers and selling them a few times!!

Edited by BellyBean - 11/16/11 at 6:52pm

[renavoo]

Hi Ladies, i love reading about your purchases!! it gives me a list of stuff i need to go look into when it's time. I was thinking I would start shopping around 14 weeks or so. I don't want to wait too long but i definitely want to try to wait at least until I'm into the second trimester. I'm definitely keeping my eyes on the cloth diapers!!

Belly, I'm so excited for you! Great beta!! haha i'll be curious to see if you have twins in there too :o) I myself can't wait for your us :o) Can next week get here ALREADY!?

Keria, haha aren't men babies when they get a cold!? i mean, here we are, having a baby or multiple babies growing INSIDE of us and sniffles takes down the big man :o) I always found that very amusing. Be careful though and I hope you don't get sick!! Yesterday, at 2am, i decided to add some nuts to my milk diet to stave off the hunger. So, i got to sleep till around 5:30 today! yah! I'm still going to be exhausted tonight though...i'll be working around 12 hours today. sigh. Oh well, at least tomorrow is Friday!

Kewpie, It's natural to feel upset. I hope that DH is a calming presence. Is he home this week? You're being amazing and doing things that would drive most people batty. The bedrest is hard!! but just wait until your babies are in your arms...I bet that the anger will just fly away and you'll just feel wonder and love. I can't wait for that for you!!!

Tenzin, how are you feeling?

AFM, tomorrow i see the OB. I had a little more spotting yesterday :o( but I'm wondering how much of it is actually the endometrin usage vs actually something from the uterus. I was feeling a little sore yesterday and so i stopped using the applicator in hopes that it helped relieve the bleeding. We will see how it goes today.

Anyway, I hope that everyone is doing well. i have to start getting ready for my day so I just wanted to say that I was thinking of all of you!!

[Kewpie80]

I figured out why I was angry last night.  I was overly hot and my bedroom was messy.  We've been running the A/C, but it wasn't cutting it.  Thankfully a cold front came through during the night and it's cooled down.  I took a cold bath and DH and I tidied up the bedroom when he finally got home and I felt much better after that.  I keep telling myself that I'm NOT a neat freak like my dad, but I think I'm in denial.  If things are even slightly messy, I get anxious.  Thankfully toys don't seem to bother me, just paper and general clutter.

Belly - Thanks for the info about diaperswappers!  I've never heard of it.  I'll check it out in a minute.

renavoo - Next week is DH's vacation.  He came home really late last night which probably also contributed to my mood.  Sorry to hear about the spotting! :( Nothing worse than seeing that.  I wish blood that meant bad things was a different color so we could relax when it's just cervix (cervical?) blood or something...

[blueyezz4]

Renavoo - great heartbeat numbers!!!!!  So exciting!!!  I used to drink lots of water and i would keep pretzel sticks in little baggies in my purse, in my desk, in the car, and on my nightstand to snack on all the time especially when i was feeling nauseous.  I really think the water helped a ton too though.  I used to get annoyed b/c I'd eat a big dinner and then like 30mins later I'd feel nauseous again and have to have something else to eat. As long as I would eat then I'd feel much better.  Good luck.  At least you haven't started gaining weight yet.  You need a ticker so I can remember how many weeks you are now!! Fill me in!!

Keria - hope your DH gets over his "man cold"  I had to laugh at that.  When my DH has a cold sometimes I just wish I had it instead b/c he can be so miserable.  Hope you don't get it.

Belly - so excited for your u/s next week.  What time is it at?

Tenzi - hope you are doing well.

Kewpie - glad you figured out what was bothering you yesterday and that the cold front moved in to cool you down.  Glad DH helped you get the room cleaned up some.  I always feel much better when my house is clean and if not it is like a weight on my shoulders sometimes.

Bungalowmama - i sure hope that the nausea lets up and you don't have to have it the whole time.  They do say the more you have the healthier the babes are though, or so i have heard if that makes you feel any better, I don't know.

Okay, back to just stalking you all.    Hope everyone is well!!!!

[Keria]

Rena that sucks about the spotting grr. When are you stopping the progesterone?

Kewpie  Dh  gets mad at me if I'm picking up stuff or bending down to try to organize things but he won't do it either and the mess is driving me crazy. I should tale a pic of my place that would make you feel better lol

Belly Great Beta! one more week until u/s right? Those are the diapers we got they are super cute and cheap. House hunting is mostly on hold until after the holidays. People here already got their christmas bonuses so our business has been super busy. I don't know how we are going to do it next year with two babies to take care of.

Hi Blue :)

DH is still sick and is driving me crazy. He says the cold pills I got him made his cold worse. He says he feels good for a while and then  he feels 10 times worst. I told him that means he should take another one but nope he is back to doing it his way. I feel bad for being mad at him for being sick but I'm huge  and my feet are so swollen and yet I  have to do 70% of the work because he refuses to take a damn pill.

[renavoo]

Keria, Ugh, it is pretty bad that he's behaving like this! I hope that he gets better soon. Maybe he just wants some coddling but don't get too close to him and get his germs!! haha you should see my place too...it's a huge mess. I'm just so tired when I get home that i don't want to clean. I think i need a housekeeper again! But DH wants to save money so I am giving him that but I am definitely not the domestic type, especially because of my job! I think that it's starting to bother me too though so maybe this weekend, since we're staying in, I'll do a little cleaning.

Kewpie, I think it was you who gave me the idea but I ate a peanut butter and jelly sandwich last night before bed. And i slept all the way through to 5:30am!! i was so excited! haha i'm still tired but hey, I had fewer awakenings than usual. My nausea this morning was almost nonexistent too! So hopefully i'm getting better. I'm so glad your mood is better! haha i frequently wish that I was warmer. i joke that i know pregnant women were supposed to feel hot all the time but I am always cold still. i think i'm warmer than I usually am but I'm still really sensitive to cold!

Blue, I cannot wait until your also here with stories about your pregnancy. I just want you to get pregnant so badly. You and DH deserve it!!! I'm 7 weeks 5 days. haha i really should get working on that ticker! maybe this weekend! Today, I see my OB. i really hope that she is nice because she fits all my criteria. She's close by, affiliated with my neighborhood hospital, and specializes in high risk births. So hopefully she is nice. My SIL went to another doctor at New York University hospital and the guy was an ass so I'm a little wary but I'll definitely doctor shop until I have a doctor I feel comfortable with!

I had a weird dream last night where my DH and I were camping while i was about 6 months pregnant. The odd thing is that we were camping on my mom's roof and we were causing some structural damage (haha concern about weight, maybe) hehe But I loved seeing myself 6 months pregnant. i was pretty large and I saw some stretch marks but I just didn't care because my babies were growing well. :o) Oh and work is continuing to get crazy so I decided to ask one of my coworkers (a lovely older woman) about what i should do. She said that I should really tell my boss early because this next month is crucial and he really should let me take it easy a little. Honestly, i don't think he will care but I will talk to him after thanksgiving. By that time, I will be starting week 9 so that will be closer to week 12 anyway. During the week of Dec 12th, it's going to be crazy. I have a huge client meeting on Monday and Tuesday, I have to fly to San Diego on Thursday and then rehearse for a meeting until late at night (in SD time!) and then fly back Thursday night to come home. It's going to be a week of long hours and stress because the trip to SD is also for another huge client presentation. I told DH last night that if my boss makes me go to dinner with clients on Monday of that week, I'm quitting my job. My boss frowns on us not going out with clients any time they are in town but seriously, i just want to relax when i can!! DH actually seemed relieved and said that he would totally support me quitting my job if it comes down to that. I think that the stress of my working such long hour is taking a toll on him too.

Sorry, I'm venting.

Anyway, YAH to it being Friday!!! (Kewpie, and yah to the start of your week with DH, uninterrupted!)

[Kewpie80]

Keria - I hope your DH gets better soon.  It seems pretty universal that guys have a hard time with feeling bad.  Can you imagine if they went through pregnancy and felt icky for months on end?  haha I think there'd be a lot fewer babies.

renavoo - I'm so glad the sandwich helped!  I eat one before bed every night and I still wake up occasionally wanting more food, but usually it does the trick.  There's something about PB&J that I just absolutely love lately and usually have one for breakfast as well.  lol  Wow, what a crazy dream!  I'd hate to have to fly all over like you do.  I'm not a good traveler... I stress way too much.

So, DH will have to work monday, but he promises that's the only day.  I'm not holding my breath though.  I'm glad he's so important at his job and it makes for good security, but I'm a little grumpy about it.  I'll take what I can get, though. Maybe I'll make monday a girlie day and watch chick flicks and eat foods that I love and DH hates.  Maybe I can convince a friend to come join me.... hmmm... I wish we all lived close enough to have a girl's night!  How fun would that be?

I drank a whole cup of coffee before the 3D this morning to keep Maisie moving.  This is my first cup of coffee since before the transfer and holy moley it worked.  SHe was SO active we had to be quick to catch images before she'd flail about again.  I'll post a couple good ones that we got of her here, but I made the whole Twinkie album public, so you should be able to see all the pictures from transfer day through today if you want to see them (thanks, Blue for the Twinkie name idea... such a cute name for them especially before we knew sexes) Man, she's got fat cheeks!  I love it!

https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.10150207986421091.311288.694466090&type=1

This next one is a face-front shot.  

She looks so much like a baby doll to me.

[Kewpie80]

Ok, posting one more cause it was just too cute!

[BellyBean]

Kewpie, I love the pictures!  Maisie is so beautiful!

Keria, I hope your DH is feeling better!!!  Ugh to sick men :)

Renavoo, like I said on the other thread, I think it's great you found someone to talk to about your boss and the pregnancy.  It's so different at every place of work.  For me, I'll probably wait a while, at least until next year.  I am trying to get a better part time job at the same company, so I kind of want that secure before saying anything, because it would have more benefits (like maternity!).  They are working on the HR stuff but it could take several months...but I already have to use a ponytail to loop through my jeans on "casual Friday", so I am not sure how quickly I'll start showing :)

AFM, my back started hurting really bad last night.  Thankfully the uterine cramping has mostly stopped so I wonder if it just moved to my back.  At first I totally freaked out because I read somewhere it was a sign of miscarriage, but so far no blood and I read other stories of women having back pain.  Anyone's back hurt so early?  It's just so weird because I don't remember any of this with my first pregnancy.  Also I am STARVING all the time! 

[renavoo]

Belly, ME TOO (starving, that is.) My back pain comes and goes but once in a while I do get back pain. I don't know why but I don't think it's a big issue. My RE just keeps saying that I just need to look for bright red bleeding. That is the biggest sign.

Kewpie, AWWWWW!! Maisie is adorable!!! I'm so glad you finally got a 3D image of her!!

AFM, i went to my ob today and i like her although DH thinks she's a bit young. Another doctor comes in and apparently, this is one of the doctors who specializes in high risk. We REALLY didn't like her. she was a negative nelly and really just did nothing to put our minds at ease. She kept talking about how ivf aims at giving us one baby so if one ends up miscarrying, it's still a good thing. DH and I looked at each other like, WHAT!? She can't possibly be saying this!! Apparently, the us technician called her in because we need a high risk doctor to check  our US. she insisted she saw something like a hematoma. While I'm glad that she was really about following through (the technician kept saying that it wasn't anything big because when the sonogram was active, there really wasn't a dark spot to suggest a lot of blood there). Anyway, so after she does the checking herself, this doctor gives us the "death stare" and tells us that multiples are high risk and therefore, the risk of miscarriage is high so we need to prepare ourselves, even though everything looks fine now. Afterwards, we asked my actual OB about it and she said that the records didn't show anything bad and she will talk to the other doctor but she said that often, even if there is a hematoma, it resolves on its own. She then said that they will just keep watch over it. I mean, THAT sounds right...we know there is a risk but gosh, the first doctor just made us so uncomfy!

Argh!

[deborahbgkelly]

I found out yesterday that I am an IVF graduate- due July 25, 2012

[Kewpie80]

Welcome, Deborah!