IVF Graduates thread!! - Page 8

[BellyBean]

Bungalow, congratulations!!!!  I think twin boys sound fantastic!!!!  I have a friend with twin boys and they are like little best buds!  If all goes well tomorrow (for me) we will both be announcing some fun news tomorrow!!  Congratulations again :)

Keria, great news about your little ones.  I can't imagine what it's like to have 2 babies in there, I loved feeling/watching DD move!

Deborah, thanks for the ideas!  I am willing to try pretty much anything and the footbaths sound relaxing too!

AFM, I wrote on the other thread too, but I think I have terrible heartburn right now.  I say "think" because I have never had it before.  I am hoping it is a good sign for tomorrow's ultrasound...I don't think I can wait another second, but it is still about 24 hours out.  DH is going to try to join me, but his job is really demanding so I am not sure if he'll be able to get away.  It doesn't bother me if he can't make it, it might be kind of fun to have a secret I get to tell him :)  Please everyone think good thoughts for me tomorrow, I am scared to death!

Edited by BellyBean - 11/22/11 at 2:22pm

[Kewpie80]

congrats bungalow mama!  My SIL and friend both have boy twins and they are SO cute together cause they are like best buds!  

[blueyezz4]

Bungalowmama - Yeah for two boys!!!! Love it!!!  I actually love baby boy clothes and the fun little boy hats that are so cute!!! That is crazy though that they thought for so long that one was a girl and now it's not!! Are you going to share names or is that a secret?  If so do tell!!!  Congrats again!!

Belly - all of those symptoms emotional, BB's getting bigger all sound like great pregnancy symptoms to me and also like things are moving along great in there!!!  Can't wait to hear tomorrow.  Maybe you answered my question on the other thread but what time is your appt?  I'll be stalking!  Sending lots of positive healthy vibes your way and praying all goes great!!

Keria - glad to hear your little ones are moving around like gang busters!!!  Such a weird feeling but fun too!

Kewpie - how are you?

Renavoo - hope you make it through the night tonight.  I used to eat a piece of peanut butter toast or a bowl of cereal right before going to bed and that would help me get through the night. Hope all is well!!

[TenzinsMama]

Hi everyone, I've been reading when I can, just not posting... My DS came down with a nasty cold virus and then I caught it, so all week the two of us have been sick.  It's been really hard, and I've gotten a bit down wondering if I am going to manage having a new baby with a 22 month old.  He's been really clingy and I feel totally stretched to the limit. 

On top of this, we were out at my parents' place with our dogs, because our vet is out near where they live and they had their annual checkups... Well, something terrible happened on Friday afternoon, my parent's dog, Jake--13.5 years old--(which I'm really close to, since I spent some time living with my folks and then when I wasn't, I was there practically every weekend) was just running a little bit and his leg went out under him... we went to the vet and got him some Metacam for the pain/inflammation, thinking he had sprained it, but by Saturday morning he wasn't weight-bearing and so we thought we would take him to the vet along with our dogs for their appointment.  Well, Jake went in first and after that we didn't even bother with our dogs, because the news was so bad... xrays showed a broken elbow, and a cancerous tumor in the same area (osteosarcoma).  So, it was a very heartbreaking weekend, my DH helped my dad dig a grave on their acreage, we came home Sunday evening and that is when I had to say good-bye to him for the last time.  This afternoon the vet went to my parent's place and Jake was euthanized. 

We're huge animal lovers, my whole life we have always had pets of all kinds, and even if I never had a pet I believe that all life is sacred and so I am just feeling incredibly sad and depressed that things like this have to happen at all. 

Anyway, I've been thinking of you and hoping for more good news from each of you!  I'll do personals next time... I've had a lot I wanted to write but I just couldn't get myself up to it.  I'm sorry if I've burdened anybody with my sadness... Everyone has their troubles, and we get through it... I must admit, it feels really therapeutic to write it out.  I hope I have some good news to share when we go to our midwife appointment on Friday.  Right now, I haven't been worrying too much about things, because of everything else...

[blueyezz4]

Tenzi - I'm sooooooooooooooooooooooo sorry to hear that!!!  Our dog Jake that we just lost last April at the age of 12.5 had the exact same thing (bone cancer in his front shoulder) and we had to put him down b/c he was having seizures and it was really getting bad.  That is so hard and I was just reading your post with tears in my eyes!  So hard to lose a pet b/c they are our babies too!!  Anyways, i just couldn't not post and send you lots of hugs and tell you how sorry I am!!!    You can do this with a new baby and all, I think right now there is so much going on in your life that you are doubting yourself and your abilities!!!  Deep breath and know it will get better!!!! 

[TenzinsMama]

Blue, thank you for sharing your story about your Jake... I'm so sorry you had to go through that, too.  It's not just that the dogs themselves are wonderful creatures because of their unconditional love and the joy that you feel around them, it's that they are there through all the good times and the bad times, right along your side... and they become such an important part of you, don't they.  My dogs, through all the years and the different ones I've had, have been with me during the times I have experienced love and loss... When you lose them, I feel like a little piece of your heart goes with them, too.  I talked with my dad today, and Jake left this world in a very loving and peaceful way-- at home, at my parent's side, with their other dog nestled in close to him.  Thanks for the hugs and kind words, it means a lot to me.  Give precious little Abby a big hug for me, okay?  I know she brings you lots of love, especially when the going gets rough...

[renavoo]

YAH Bungalow!! CONGRATS!!

[Kewpie80]

I just have a minutes cause I have an appt this morning, but I wanted to let Belly know I'm thinking of her today!  I can't wait to hear what you find out!

I catch up on everyone else when I get back.

[BellyBean]

Kewpie, thanks!!!

Tenzi, so sorry about your family dog.  I still miss my dog that we lost last year.  They are so important to us.

AFM, going crazy this morning.  My appointment isn't until this afternoon and I feel sick to my stomach waiting (well actually, I usually feel sick to my stomach!)  I can't wait to get off all this progesterone since I feel like that is causing the constant nausea!  I probably spent too much time on the google...there are so many instances of good news at the first u/s and then bad news by the second one.  I don't think I'll feel even a little "safe" until my 9 week appt with my OB.  I just really hope everything goes well today and we are started on the right path!  Even if I am worried for a few more weeks, it's totally worth it if I get good news today.  Sorry for being so negative...this last year has really changed me :(

[renavoo]

Tenzin, How did I miss your post? Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry about your parents' dog. I think that losing any loving family pet (Personally, I think of them as family members) is heart wrenching. I still haven't completely gotten over the loss of my dog almost 10 years ago!! They just are such amazing, loving creatures and our lives are so much better when we are able to have some in our families, even if they aren't ours. I love my mom's dog to pieces and luckily he's young but I'm worried about my mom and me when he gets older.

Belly, I'm totally with you!! I tried to do searches online and then I'd get scared and i'd have to stop. it's a scary world out there. But I know everything will be fine. By the way, I dropped my dose of progesterone (twice a day instead of three times a day) about a week or so ago and my nausea has gotten a little better (although if I ever get hungry, it's game over!) and the fatigue isn't quite as bad anymore. So definitely, it's something to look forward to!

I won't get tested for another month and I'm nervous too. I think I'll get a doppler this weekend just in case.

[BellyBean]

Well, the results are back..........TWINS!!  They are measuring a little small.  One is 6w0d and one is 6w1d...they should be 6w3d.  On the plus side we got to see and hear their heartbeats and they were both around 115.  The RE said that since they are small he wants me back in a week.  He said there was a chance we could loose 1 or both and they want to monitor them closely at this point. Oh my, I can't even tell you the emotions I am going through.  Honestly, I am really scared.  With my fresh cycle I was bummed we didn't get twins, but I have 3 friends IRL that have an older sibling and then a set of twins.  In all 3 cases the older siblings have really had a hard time with the adjustment and it makes my heart ache to think of my DD getting the short end of the stick.  I know I should be overjoyed right now, but instead I am just thinking of all the things that will be harder.  I feel bad that I am not as excited as I should be, ashamed really, after all I have gone through.

[renavoo]

Belly, CONGRATS! i know you're still reeling from the news and it is a shock but it will be ok! Every family is different and plenty of people have twins after another child and are fine! I hope that your babies continue to do well and im looking forwrd to the results next week!

[Kewpie80]

Belly - oh gosh!  I am so happy for you and my heart jumped for joy when I saw your post.  I seriously know how much of a shock it is.  Your RE is probably erring on the side of caution with the warning and wanting you to come back in a week, but I wouldn't let that scare you.  At this point the babies are SOOOOO tiny that the tiniest error in the measurement when they click can cause it to be a few days off.  Our babies were measuring behind in the beginning too and I was reassured by both my RE and OB in the early scans that even though they were measuring "behind" that didn't mean they actually were.  We're talking less than a millimeter can make a difference.  Try to relax!  The fact that you are sore in the boobs and have had all the other symptoms are good signs!

I will be rooting for your little ones to catch up or for accurate results next time... whichever is the actual situation.

[Kewpie80]

I totally hit sebmit before I was actually done... haha

I wanted to also say that my SIL has an older girl before her twins.  The girl was about 3 when they boys were born and everything worked out great.  As Renavoo said, every family is different and the fact that you are worried about this makes me think that you will probably make up for it because you are aware of the potential problem. 

[Kewpie80]

gahhhh! I forgot I was going to ask if you transferred 2 embies??? I was trying to remember and had it in my head that you transferred 1 and were thinking identicals...?  as you can tell, I've got big time fog brain going on today, so I'm probably remembering wrong.

AFM - We found out that Maisie has hair this morning and both are very close to passing over 4 pounds.  We couldn't tell if liam has hair or not, but maisie's was floating all over the place. :)

[BellyBean]

Kewpie, yes we transferred 2 embies (this time and every time).  I knew twins could happen, but I thought since we had 2 transferred so many times and ended up with nothing (or once with our DD), it was lower risk.  Also my betas were so close to DD's that I still thought it was only one, but if they are measuring behind maybe they implanted a day later and that caused my betas to be lower?  I am glad to hear it went well with your SIL, and all of her kids are well adjusted.  Oh, and my DD had hair in the womb too, in our later u/s she looked like Calvin from the cartoon :)

Thanks to everyone for being so kind.  DH came home early and we went out to dinner and talked about all the reasons we should be happy it's twins.  My DH always knows how to calm me down.  I had myself really worked up, but I am starting to feel much better about it.  DH and I decided we would definitely make time and go on special outings with all of our children independently.  Our moms are very supportive, so I hope they can help with the babies while I take DD to her gymnastics or dance classes we have been doing together.

Is everyone open about their treatments?  I am so private and I don't know what I'll say when I start getting lots of questions (from some friends, work colleagues, stangers, etc).  No one wonders anything when you just have 1 baby, but twins (and triplets) really bring out a lot of questions.  My friend IRL that did IVF is open about it, and I can't imagine getting all the questions and comments she gets.  DH says it's easier to keep the story straight if we just tell the truth, but it makes me anxious just thinking about it. 

[TenzinsMama]

Belly, what Kewpie and Renavoo posted sounds really reassuring... I know it takes awhile to process big news such as this, so don't be too hard on yourself.  I can't say anything from the perspective of the twins aspect, but, I know that even with having a singleton there are similar kind of worries about how the first-born will react.  The worries, which are totally normal, feel that much heavier on us when other stuff is going on-- and you've certainly had a lot of things going on this past year, and then recently the concern with the u/s and if things would be okay... so I would think that it can't be anything but overwhelming right now.  I'm really surprised that there is another set of twins now, with yours--- you are in good company here!

[TenzinsMama]

Belly, we cross-posted, so I just saw your post now-- glad to see that you are feeling better.  Your DH sounds wonderful.  YAY for calming, supportive partners!  And supportive moms, too!  Are you telling your families this weekend?

[renavoo]

Belly, I'm so glad you're feeling better! It's an amazing event and I know that as the pregnancy progresses, you're going to feel better and better about it. As Kewpie says, since you're aware, you'll definitely be able to prevent your DD from feeling left you. And she will probably take swimmingly to being able to help her mom take care of her siblings!

I didn't tell anyone in my family about IVF. admittedly, most of my friends are aware of me going through IVF (if I tell one friend, they all spread it along. We're high school or buddies from even earlier on so its par for course.) My DH is the same way but his friends and family know. But, work people will not be finding out that it's IVF. The thing is, I'm 35 so I was reading that older women are more prone to twins anyway. Also, DH has twins in his family (although of course, these aren't identical so I doubt that really matters) but most people who hear that dh has twins in his family calm down (my mom did...haha)

I can't wait for you to tell your family!! This is such exciting news :o)

Kewpie, yah for hair on Maisie! that's adorable! 4 pounds! she and her brother are almost ready to come out and give you and your DH a hug!

Tenzin and Keria, how are you two doing?

[renavoo]

Oh and HAPPY THANKSGIVING to everyone who celebrates it!!