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IVF Graduates thread!! - Page 79post #1561 of 268111/9/12 at 1:34pmpost #1562 of 268111/9/12 at 2:04pm
It's A BOY!!!!!!!!!! He looks healthy and is measuring 2 days ahead right now, which i think is good. I have another ultrasound in 5 wks to check growth again just b/c I'm hypothyroid and also to look at my cervix length again, but we are really excited and so thankful that he looks healthy!!!!post #1563 of 268111/9/12 at 2:57pmThread Starter
Yay A healthy little boy!!!! does he have a name? do you have any pics to share? Love all the abby pics!
Hope I cnat believe you are so close to the end. I hope you get some relief.
My back was horrible on the third trimester. And now is starting to hurt again since my 2 like to be held all the time.
Tenzi I hope you catch an egg the old fashion way :)
Rena How are the babes any new pics hint hint!
AFM We are finally Homeowners for the first time ever! we won't be moving for a while but we're still happy to have a home.post #1564 of 268111/10/12 at 6:19pm
Keria - We have not officially picked a name, but i have a list that we are trying to pin down. DH kinda half gives his opinion on if he doesn't like a name that I throw out there and I keep joking w/ him that he needs to come up w/ a name. We will probably keep the name quiet until the little man is born too. I do have a couple pics, but they are not very good at all. I was really bummed b/c we went to one of the newer buildings for our ultrasound and got put in this really small room w/ just a portable u/s unit so the pic aren't that great, but i'll try to post the "package" shot and a side profile, but like I said, they are kinda blurry and not that great. I hope in 5 wks when i go back we get to be in the regular room w/ the good machine that gives really good pictures.
Okay the first pic is the little guy w/ his knees bent up and you can see that he is a "boy" in the middle of both legs. The 2nd pic is a side profile but isn't that clear due to the crappy u/s machine. Bummer!!!!post #1565 of 268111/10/12 at 6:21pmpost #1566 of 268111/11/12 at 5:24amThread Starter
Oh that sucks about the old machine my obs office also had a "bad" room but I always asked the nurses for the good one. He is a cutie though!. Are you getting a 3d done?
We did open up a new store a couple of weeks ago I forgot to mention that.
Here is our new store
And we hired a tiny salesman :)post #1567 of 268111/11/12 at 11:04pm
Blue, wow, a boy!!! Ahhhh, I'm so happy for you to have had great news from the u/s, even though the pics aren't the best that they could be, he looks perfect in there! I was trying to see if I could tell what are his knees and what everything else is, but I'm really bad at deciphering u/s pics. Did you figure out about the OB, will you stay with the same one or switch to someone who will be around more? (Or did I miss one of your posts in which you mentioned this?) ha ha, love all the pics of Abby too.
Keria, congratulations on the new home! The pics of the store are great-- so much going on for you right now. Do you have a nanny?
AFM, I'm just too darn tired to see what I posted last... so maybe I said this already?... But the clinic called me to say my lab results were back, and my prolactin levels were high. From bf'ing. So I wait a bit and then b/w done again. DD starts solids in less than a month, so that should help to bring it down. Who knows when I will get a 2nd PPAF, but hopefully my cycles won't be too wonky for too long, and then we'll just coast along ttc'ing the natural way for awhile. Blue, in answer to your question,when it comes to taking Clomid my RE is okay with me bf'ing if it was once in the morning and once at night type of thing. I've done some research into what Thomas Hale says about it, and also with Mother Risk-- there doesn't seem to be much to it, given the frequency and the baby's age by the time it's down to twice a day, the metabolic side of things with the molecule size/type and the ability to pass through, etc. I haven't thought much past what she has said, because it's so early on... and to be quite honest, I'm so darn tired all the time, it's not like there's much going on with DH and I anyway. I think we'll be doing more coasting thand ttc'ing for awhile...post #1568 of 268111/12/12 at 4:51am
Keira - congrats on owning a home! and a cute new store too! wow!
Blue - YAY for a boy!!! Love the abby photos!!
Tenzins - I haven't heard about the upswing in fertility before perimentopause (yea, I can't spell that word), but I hope you are right. It kinda makes sense that a womans body would do that. I have also heard that women are very fertile when AF returns for a few months after being pregnant
Aura - glad you survived the storm and the days without power.post #1569 of 268111/12/12 at 7:59pmpost #1570 of 268111/13/12 at 4:20amThread Starter
Tenzin No nanny, DH does help a lot with them thank god. We padded and put a gate around an area in the back room in the new store so we hang out there when we need to. Still some days it feels like I bit more than I could chew specially now with the holidays. Natural pregnancies after IVF seem pretty common, something about pregnancy fixes you or something. I hope it happens for you.
Rcr Nice to see you I still lurk on the other thread and I'm rooting for you.post #1571 of 268111/13/12 at 3:29pm
Keria: What a fun store!! I love baby stuff.
Blue: Congrats on your son! I loved the Abby pics. I'm so stoked for you!!
Hope: You're almost done! I felt like you about not wanting to wish away the end of preg bc I knew it was my last - yet so uncomfortable.
Speaking of knowing it's your last - part of me still doesn't feel done. I know realistically, it's unlikely we would ever decide to go thru IVF again - and I can't imagine putting myself thru that emotional turmoil again. But I can't help fantasize. Though I would so be ok never having to go through labor again! LOL.
Sorry I've been MIA. I read on my phone but hardly ever have time to sit at the computer and type. Baby is asleep in the ergo right now. Anyway, I am enjoyign every moment with Aria. She is really becoming a little person now - really focusing on things and cooing at them and has tons of smiles for me these days (she is 6 weeks old). :-) We are STILL getting the nursing sorted out. She actually had her tongue tie revised for the 3rd time today with a different doc than the first 2 times! Today they also fixed a lip tie. I do think this time finally did the trick! If not, we are done messing with it for sure. I have still been pumping after every freaking feed bc she still couldn't get all the milk out. But I've nursed her 1x since the procedure earlier and she got 2x as much milk out as she normally does in the same amount of time (I have a rented scale to check). So hopefilly pumping will soon be a thing of the past!
Cindypost #1572 of 268111/13/12 at 4:02pm
Vegan, poor little Aria, having all the troubles with the tongue tie. What is a lip tie, and how do they fix that? That must be hard on you too, to see her have to get those things done. I hope that all of that is over and done with now, and she can nurse well. How do you prounounce Aria's name? I love the spelling of it, and either way I find myself saying it, it's pretty... I suppose that as time goes on, you will be more at peace with it being your last, if it truly is going to be that? I know it's hard, when you have that beautiful baby in your arms... I can get pretty sad when I think about not being able to have another one, after deciding that we will try for one more.
AFM, I'm just trying to figure out the deal on my prolactin levels, which the RE's office phoned me about-- the nurse said it was high, but didn't give me a number. I have no idea how high it is, but I did find an interesting chart on Kelly.mom that shows levels corresponding with the time of pregnancy and months of lactation. It really drops once the baby is 6 months old. I'm just glad that the levels are low enough for me for me to be able to have a first PPAF already. I must say, now that I'm back to cycling, I realize how much I dislike the hormonal shifts. I wonder if they are worse for the first few PPAFs and then settle down back to what they were pre-pregnancy? I was pretty grumpy today!post #1573 of 268111/13/12 at 6:45pmpost #1574 of 268111/13/12 at 7:26pm
Vegan - Oh my!! I hope this last surgery fixed the issue. Do they have to put her out each time, I'd assume???
Tenzi - i hope you get your levels figured out. How confusing!!! About the u/s if you look in the middle of the black you see what looks like might be a fist kinda w/ white knuckles and if you look right below there you can see his boy parts w/ a little white tip kinda. About my OB i guess she had a lot of vacation time that she needed to use up and just happens that she has taken them in the last few and next couple weeks a day here and there but all is fine. I told her i was nervous I was going to have to find another ob but all is well.
Keria - your store looks great!! Love your new little salesman!!! LOL I'm a sucker for baby clothes so it's good i don't live close. LOL
Hope - how are you doing???
Hi to everyone else!!!
AFM - Well, I was really bummed yesterday b/c my OB told me that I really shouldn't be traveling for Thanksgiving. We were suppose drive to NC to meet up with the whole family (my side) and my brother is flying in from London as well. My OB is very cautious, so in some ways i just wanted to blow it off and go. I even called my high risk dr b/c he is more laid back and he said that he would not go against my primary OB's opinion. I then called my OB's office back just for some clarification and was waiting for a call back from the receptionist and didn't, but then at like 10:15pm my phone rang w/ a blocked number and it was my OB calling me from her house. She is so sweet and works way too much. She expressed her concern and how we are getting close to the time where we went into labor last time and she just wants me to be extra cautious. She kinda left it in my hands, but stressed that she didn't really approve of it basically. So DH and I talked after i had made my decision to stay home and he felt the same way too.... just that we have waited 7yrs to get here and spent so much money trying and it is not worth the risk at this point in time. So that is the story. Thanksgiving w/o my family , but I still have lots to be thankful for, for sure!!!!!post #1575 of 268111/13/12 at 7:41pm
Blue: Sorry you are missing your family but I think it's nice your OB is willing to be so concerned - and to call you at home. Best to be safe! We are not going to be around family either. Extended family invited us for a late t-day dinner on sunday so we'll do that. Not going to be around family for x-mas this yr either bc we don't want to travel with a new baby. As for Aria's procedures - no, they never put her under. The first 2 times the doc clipped her tongue with a scalpel or scissors of some sort. He used a topical numbing cream and it was over in 2 seconds. This time the dentist numbed her with the shot kind of novocaine and used a laser to cut. It took a bit longer than the quick snip but I'd say the entire ordeal took like 5-10 minutes. I have been giving her tylenol but I don't think she's in too much pain - she's still super smiley this afternoon. But after the first 2 times she was whimpering a bit when she'd go to nurse - not acting like she was in pain otherwise though. Thankfully! I hate that I've had to put her thru this so many times!!! Poor baby.
RCR: So if this time doesn't work, have you decided to not try donor egg either? I am hoping with everything in me that this cycle brings you your baby!!!!
Tenzin: I take a med to help my milk supply that increases prolactin levels - I love that it keeps PPAF away! :-) It's like birth control. Oh and yes, Aria is most likely our last. I think even if we didn't have infertility, two would be the prudent choice for us. But I know DH and i both sort of waffled on the idea of a third bc we both come from families with 3 kids. Sort of sucks that that decision was taken from us bc of infertility - but I suppose it's for the best and we should just thank our lucky stars we have the two that we do! At least I don't think I will feel that ache and emptiness over wanting a 3rd that I felt while trying for Aria. I still can't believe I am lucky enough to have her here.
Cindypost #1576 of 268111/14/12 at 9:54am
blue - YEAH!!!! Congrats on a healthy boy!!!
Keria - Yeah for becoming homeowners! Keeping my fingers crossed that the move will get to happen soon :-)
Vegan - I've wondered how I'll feel after this one is done, so I understand where you're coming from!!
Tenzin - I think you're prolactin levels even out more around 6 months because that's typically when you add in solids, so the baby is nursing less. If you have your cycle back it's possible to get pregnant, so I'm keeping the hope for you!!! I think my hormonal shifts were ugly for the first few cycle's back... I used to joke that it was making up for lost time LOL.
blue - I'm sorry you can't travel for the holidays :-( Like you said - better safe than sorry after everything you've been through. It was so sweet for her to call you at home!!! Maybe it'll be nice - just a small thing you and DH before adding in the baby.
AFM - Doing well, just trying to keep a balance between moving and sitting (in all different ways) to help with the back pain. Pregnancy wise, all is looking well. Went for my 32 week check up, so now I start going every 2 weeks. I feel in a bit of shock at how fast time is flying. We finally started looking at a baby name book a couple of days ago, but we have no idea on names yet. We'll make a short list since we don't know what we're having, but we still have to get to that point! The nursery is STILL set up as a spare bedroom, so we have to get that changed over too. I need to have DH go to our storage trailor and pull out all the newborn and 0 - 3 month clothes so that I can start washing them. Yikes!!! DD hasn't been sleeping well still, but we are trying the pillow thing, which I think maybe helping some. I think she senses some changes are coming. We also realized on Monday that (even though I swear I kept checking and didn't see ANYTHING) her top 2 year molars have just broken through, so I'm thinking that plays a part too. We gave her advil the last 2 nights and she slept better than she has been.
On a sad note :-( If you could all keep my family in your prayers.... I lost a close cousin last Thursday night to a drunk driver who rear ended her car at a stop light doing somewhere between 80 and 100 miles an hour. Her SO and 10 month old baby were in the car with her, she was in the back seat. She threw her body over her baby girl and helped to save her life, but lost her own. The car caught fire, and she was pronounced dead at the scene. Her SO and baby have both been released from the hospital, but have a lot of healing to do. She was only 36. It's been a rough week, with lots of tears. She was a genuinely good person inside and out, and was taken from this life by a man who should have already been in jail (5 prior DUI convictions, plus others for fraud and identity theft. No valid license in 20 years driving his employers truck, blew more than 3 times the legal limit, and showed no remorse when advised what happened). Oh yeah, and we lost this cousins mom, my Aunt, 12 years ago on Christmas Eve to a drunk driver. So that's made it extra rough.
Please hug your friends and family and remind them how much you love them all, as you never know when you won't have the opportunity to do so again.
With that being said - I love you all! Every last one of you has been such a great source of support for me through everything; getting pregnant, staying pregnant, dealing with my recent personal issues, etc. I can't imagine what I'd do without each of you!!!post #1577 of 268111/14/12 at 11:02ampost #1578 of 268111/14/12 at 9:07pm
Hope, the tragic loss of your cousin and the whole circumstance around the accident has brought tears to my eyes, too. It is heartbreaking. It also makes me angry that the person who did that has the history like he has, it's just crazy how these people make decisions like that and it costs other people's lives. Your cousins SO has so much healing to do now, and her poor little girl... oh my gosh. I'm giving my loved ones extra hugs tonight, and keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers. I'm glad this thread is here, offering support throughout all the things you've been through. I certainly am grateful for each one of you on here, too!!! It's huge.
And on the topic of family, Blue, I'm sorry that you aren't able to physically be with your family on Thanksgiving, but it sounds like you have thought it through carefully and are making the best decision for yourselves. Your OB sounds like such a caring woman!
Vegan, oh I know that ache and wanting, for baby #1 and then #2! Every time I look at my kids, I just feel so blessed. Right now the ache for #3 isn't the same in intensity, because I have them, but it's still pretty strong nonetheless. I didn't really have a family size in mind when we started trying, but three feels right for me. But if it's only two that I have, then that is what is meant to be. For now, every time DD outgrows an outfit, I put it away downstairs along with the clothes I had for DS. I'm hanging on to them, as I'm keeping the hope! I'm not sure how I would feel about a third if I had to have gone through the whole IVF process for one or both of my kids... It's a lot to go through. I just had the beginning part of it, so I was spared so much of what happens throughout it all.
Other AFM stuff: I had a pelvic u/s done today, as part of the fertility workup. At our clinic, everything has to be done within a year's time of doing anything with them. As I mentioned before, last week I had done the Day 3 bloodwork, and the HSG. Because of the high prolactin levels, I need to wait to get the bloodwork re-done when bf'ing has decreased, so the levels will be lowered. I have no idea when that will be. No use going to get the results of the other stuff right now, I figure. Might as well get it all in front of me when we are able to go ahead with something, if nothing happens in the meantime. I guess that if they saw something really wonky with the other tests, they would call me to come in. Also, I'm not sure if anybody remembers, but, there was that friendship of mine that dissolved at the end of my second trimester... the gal I was best friends with for 6 years who distanced herself from me because I suspect it was hard on her to be around me as I was pregnant and she wasn't (she had a m/c 3 months before my bfp). (For example, she couldn't even congratulate me when she saw me for the first time when I was 2.5 months. We had gone for a 2 hour lunch and me being pregnant? well it was like the elephant in the room.) Which I totally understood and accepted if that was what was happening (I would have done the same, if I had to process my grief and loss)-- the only thing is, she never talked about it with me, so I just figured she needed space and I gave it to her. Anyway, I told her that I didn't expect her to be at the birth like she was with DS (that had been the plan, for us to be at each others' births) and that since I was going to have a c/s anyway it was better for my parents to be involved (so they could look after DS-- he wouldn't have been comfortable with her since she hadn't been around for months) and then she just got all snarky and stuff... I told her I had missed her, cared for her, wanted our friendship to endure, etc. but was met with a stone cold attitude and nothing was reciprocated-- she just got really defensive. This was all done through text, which was really stupid, but I was feeling that the pregnancy had been fragile from day one and I didn't have the emotional strength to even be on the phone talking about all of the stuff, hearing her voice and all... It was like a breakup, you know? Anyway, it still hurts to this day, and I just found out a couple of days ago through someone that she is 14 weeks pregnant. It makes me really sad to think about how things could be if they had stayed the same with our friendship. We could be sharing pregnancy stories, and in the spring we could be walking together with our babies. So many things. Like Hope points out, you don't know what life brings you, if you have the opportunity to say or do something tomorrow-- there's no guarantees there will be a tomorrow. So... I could send her a FB message privately right now, or I could comment on her page if she chooses to announce it on FB at some point. Or do nothing. The pull in different directions comes from part of me wanting to send her a little message wishing her a happy and healthy pregnancy, and telling her how happy I am at her news... and part of me says, screw it and that I shouldn't care anymore-- after all, she didn't contact me when DD was born and we were both safe and sound after all the complications there were. That's a pretty big message from her to me, saying that we are done. *sigh* I guess I'm hoping that she might be able to put herself in my shoes when it comes to certain things that I was going through, as I was able to have empathy for her with the m/c (I've had two, and then all the IF stuff to boot). I have been hoping all this time that if she got pregnant she would get a hold of me to share the news, and want to move forward. However, I don't really have much hope for that now, given how far along she is when she's announcing it to everyone else. DH says I need to let it all go... He points out that we had been leading different lives for the past two years with us becoming a family, me not working at the same place with her anymore, etc... that maybe the friendship would have found itself fizzled out anyway. Ugh, I thought I had healed from this... I even brought it up with a counsellor I had been seeing a few months ago when I was dealing with all the pregnancy issues. But I've spent the last couple of days spending precious energy thinking about it. Really-- if I send her a heartfelt congratulatory message, and she doesn't respond back with even a 'thanks'-- yikes-- I can't bear to think that there's a chance she would feel I wasn't worth even that, in her books. Oh well, enough about that. Look at me writing on and on about this! Any advice on how to let all of this go... to accept the loss, move on and focus on the friendships I have now? It's like I need something tangible. I still have this scrapbook she did for me a few years ago, telling me how much our friendship meant to her, with all kinds of pictures of us hanging out, and that we would be supporting each other throughout our lives no matter what life brings. Feels like such a lie. Life's too short for things to end the way they did.post #1579 of 268111/15/12 at 4:26pm
So much happening!!
Blue, congrats on finding out it's a boy!!! How exciting. And I love the photo with Abby, that is so freakin cute!!!
Hope, I'm so sorry for your loss. I bawled reading your post. My heart goes out to you and your family.
Vegan, so interesting about the tongue tie and the lip tie! I'm glad you're figuring it all out.
Keria, the store looks amazing! I'd buy anything from that tiny salesman of yours!
Tenzin, so sad about your friend. I know everyone handles IF differently, but all of my best friends have gotten pregnant and had babies while we were struggling with IVF, and even if I cried my eyes out privately, I would never let it affect my friendships. I am sure your friend was having a hard time, but to abandon you when you were in a fragile time as well... it just seems unfair to you. Friends should be there for you through the hard times, even more so than the easy times. It's obvious you still miss her, so I understand wanting to touch base... Just trust your gut. If you're meant to reunite, it will happen, and if not, it's her loss.
afm, my first OB appt is tomorrow morning. I have no idea what to expect. I am going to bring all my meds for her to see, and my list of questions that is a mile long. I just hope that she's fully equipped to handle this pregnancy, being twins and high risk. And I hope that I like her. I'm nervous! Tomorrow I stop my progesterone and estrogen supplementation, and I think I'm also a little nervous about that. I really hope these babies can make their own!post #1580 of 268111/15/12 at 5:56pm
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