Laura-Belle: How scary! Did they determine the cause of the bleeding? I think I was in maternity jeans pretty early last year but it wasn't obvious to others. My dad saw me throughout my retrieval and transfer and was amazed when he saw my belly. Those were in the first and second weeks of December, so not long ago.
Laura, so good to see your name here! I am so sorry you had to go through that, it must have been terrifying. Did they ever figure out what caused it? I had spotting a lot in the first trimester, but luckily nothing since. Hopefully the scary part is done for you and you can spend the rest of your pregnancy in peace! Good luck at the anatomy scan, mine is on the 25th. I can't wait to hear all about it!
Tenzin, you're right, I think your DD gets so much from your DS that she doesn't feel any neglect at all. The blessing of having a sibling will last her way longer than breastfeeding will! And how incredible that your DH can pitch in with formula so you're not totally overwhelmed.
Deborah, I think at 6 weeks it's probably just massive bloat, but that doesn't make it any less of a bump. I was also in maternity pants pretty early, I had to wear a bella band almost immediately because my stomach was SO bloated. I think I look less pregnant now than I did then! In any case, who cares what it's from, it's because you're pregnant, and that's an incredible thing!
Aura- I disagree. I had originally thought it was bloat until I saw the picture. I have a friend with a similar story to mine who had the same experience. It never went down for her. Remember that we get bigger faster with each pregnancy because our bodies remember what pregnancy is and I was pregnant for 22 weeks with twins. Additionally, I am very short. I showed you the comparison pictures. I'm not sure I shared what I looked like just a couple months ago. So, here's me at Halloween.Wide, but definitely not distinctly round.
Aura- I forget, is this your first pregnancy?
Vegan: I feel those worries about having a healthy baby starting to creep in. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, its always nice to know that your not alone:) Its also nice to hear that #2 is easier, how far apart are your kids? This is #2 for me as well.
renavoo: I agree, I feel so grateful and I am so hopeful that everyone who has to deal with infertility gets to experience all of the weird and wonderful emotions that we are so fortunate to get to deal with. Your babies are adorable!!
Shesaid: how are you feeling? Did you have your US yet? I'm waking up to pee all the time too, even if I am napping I have to wake up to pee.
Blue: Wow, that sounds like a serious home renovation project. Good thing you guys started early! I hope it all turns out perfect!
Hope: So funny that even at the point you are at it still is hard to believe:) Thinking of you of hope for a smooth birth!
Tenzins: I'm sorry that BF is so difficult with your DD. I never figured out how to bf my daughter, she never latched properly and we just couldn't seem to get it right. So I ended up pumping and giving her bottles for a few months. Once I went back to work it was just too much for me to keep up with so I stopped when she was about 4 months and she was on formula from that point on. I felt incredibly guilty, and worried that she would have allergies, or be constantly sick and a million other things. But, she was fine, totally fine and I was sane. You have to find what works for you as a family but also what works for you as a person. Good luck, it is so hard to find balance.
Kewpie: Happy birthday to your babies, so stinking cute:)
Aura: You will be feeling them more and more as the weeks go by. It such a special, strange feeling, I can't wait to be there!
Deborah: You look great, you know your body...try not to let what other people say impact how you feel. I'm feeling like I have a bump too even though I know the baby is only the size of a grape in there, something is happening for sure.
Laura: how scary, I'm glad to hear that everything is ok. A girlfriend of mine had excessive red bleeding right around 12 weeks or so. Her doc said it was likely the placenta attaching and it was not a problem. She now has a beautiful, healthy baby girl. Good luck with your anatomy scan!
Thanks for the warm welcome ladies and for your insight into adjusting to pregnancy from infertility. I finally stopped Crinone last week, yay!!, and I also graduated from my RE so I think those two things are helping me feel this is really happening:) I am 10 weeks and have my first apt. with my ob tomorrow. I think the nausea is settling down a bit. It is no longer constant, just waves:) Still exhausted though.
I hope my nausea lets up in a few weeks. I've vomited so many times already and it's still pretty early.
Hi everyone. Sorry it has been a bit since I have had the energy to check in.
Deborah-You look great and it sounds like everything is going well, so don't worry about what others say. I am long in the torso so for my first pregnancy I had the opposite problem of never looking pregnant enough. I didn't have the nice round belly until the third trimester, so I just got taken for fat/wide. I am definitely showing more belly already with this one. Most of mine is pudge at the moment since I have been staying at home more resting. I also have to eat little bits all the time to keep the nausea at bay. Hopefully you will start feeling better soon. This week is the first time I am starting to feel better with occasional rather than constant nausea and more energy as well.
Laura-So glad that things are looking better for you now. What you went through sounds really scary, so nice to have you back. I hope the anatomy scan goes fantastic.
Buckets-Nice to make the transition to the OB. Are you using the same OB as last time? I am doing OB with my RE, since he does both. I switched to a different OB in the third trimester last time so that I could have a water birth and the only birth center in town. I will probably do the same again this time, although I may switch a bit sooner after the anatomy scan. My current OB is closer, but the waiting time at appointments can be long. So while Ihave to travel further to the other OB it may end up being a quicker appointment since I never waited more than 5-10 minutes to see him.
Blue-Good luck with all the home renovations.
Hope-Can't wait to hear the good news! I hope everything goes smoothly for you.
Tenzins-Sorry to hear things have been rough with the BF. Hopefully it is a phase and things will smooth out for you soon. I felt guilty when I night weaned DD, but she was making me crazy and I was started to get cracked nipples which made nursing painful as well. Cutting back actually made the nursing relationship better since my body was able to heal and I started getting better sleep. So when we did nurse I was happier and pain free, which made me a better mom. You do what you have to do, because when you are not happy it is hard to be the best mom possible. I already know I will have to do things different with this babe, since I will have an energetic two year old running around the house.
Shesaidboom-DD is turning two next week, I it seems I was only getting full night sleeps for a few months before we got our BFP. I am up several times a night now to pee as well and sleeping is already uncomfortable. Totally worth it, but I dream of the day a few years from now when I will start getting full nights sleeps again.
Splashingpuddles-Welcome. I became more open about IVF about half way through the pregnancy with DD. Once I could feel her moving and it became more real I didn't feel the need to keep it a secret. I am a fairly private person, so I rarely go into the details of it with people unless there is some connection there that makes me want to share more. If you want to move the conversation along quickly I would just glance over the conception or just say it was a challenging time for you and go right into talking about how excited you are about the pregnancy. Most people should get the hint and follow the conversation to something you are more comfortable talking about. I did that a lot during the TTC phase this fall with people. Since I am involved in a playgroup with DD that has many different parents, lots of people knew that we were TTC and had used IVF last time. I did not want to keep everyone updated with the details of the process so went with the we loved to be pregnant soon and are working on it.
AFM-We had first regular check-up last week. Baby had a nice strong heartbeat. We do our Nuchal screening ultrasound this week. We can't wait to get a first real look at the baby. I am starting to feel better which is good, since I have to put together a small birthday party for DD who is turning two. She loves birthday parties, so it is all she has been talking about for several weeks.
Bucket: My kids are 3 yrs 8 mos apart. If I were super fertile and got prego when weity started trying, they would be exactly 2 yrs apart! I am NOT glad we went thru the traumas of infertility, but I am really glad we ended up with a big spacing. This age dif has been great so far. My older DD can get herself her milk, take herself potty and sometimes even dress herself. She still needs a lot from me, but it is nothing like a 2 yr old needs. She also understands so much about why I can't always do things for her right away. I just hope my girls are still close when they are older - but I see other girls spaced the same and they do play well together. And my husband is closer to his brother that is 4 yr younger than the one that is 17 mos younger. He says he fought too much with the closer one.
Laura: So good to hear from you. I can't imagine how scary that was! I am so glad everything looks good! Will you be finding out the gender at your anatomy scan?
Aura: I can't believe you're almost half done! Crazy how time flies when it's not your own pregnancy. :-)
Blue: I get so happy when I realize how far long you are! 27 weeks now right? Yay!!! I totally get what your husband said about the stress before each scan!
Deborah: I started to show super soon with #2. I do think for me it was bloat, not my uterus bc it did seem to come and go a bit. Like I would be super huge by the evening but wake up with not much of a bump in the morning. That didn't stop happening until the 2nd trimester. But people started asking me if I was pregnant by like 8 weeks. And my uterus did actually measure ahead furhter along when they started measuring, a lot of time with #2 - I think that is normal. Enjoy that bump! :-)
Tenzin: I'm sorry you're having a harder time w/nursing. I sort of wish my DD would take a bottle but right now she won't and we haven't been trying hard to get her to take one. It just seems so much easier to just nurse rather than have to pump. But I really want to be able to go to a yoga class or out on a date w/DH. Maybe we'll try tonight. Every night I think "of we should try" and then life is just so busy w/2 kids and baths and bedtime, etc that I totally forget about it.
AFM: My little one is snoring away in the ergo on my chest while I type. So snuggly! We booked a trip to Hawaii for a week at the end of next month. She'll be shy of 5 mos old. I hope we aren't setting ourselves up for disaster. LOL. We're renting a condo with a king bed so we all fit and a kitchen. I just remember we went on a family trip to colorado when DD1 was 5 mos and we had fun but we got very little sleep! I feel like sleep is totally different this time though bc I am cosleeping. Last time we were *trying* to get her to sleep in the arms reach cosleeper that the rental house has (used as a sleeper on it's own, not attached to the bed). I recall dh spending ages trying to get her to go down for the night. Right now I am having a hard time nursing DD2 down and being able to get up a leave - last night was like the 2nd time ever I've beeen successful. I'm hoping to have that figured out by the time we go though bc I'd love to be able to spend evenings with my husband again - especially on vacation. But the night waking is no big deal this time bc I just go back to sleep while I'm nursing.
Cindy
Thanks all. Aura- I hope you didn't take offense at my response. AFM- Today was a rough day physically. Started off constipated. Ate an avocado which fixed that problem but then proceeded to lose some of it. This on top of being tired and in tons of pain from the PIO shots made it so hard to be appreciative. It looks like I may be having an allergic reaction. Hoping they will switch me to the suppositories.I am, of course, appreciative but it was hard to focus on that today.
Tks. And yes, we did find out gender.
(And my guess was right.) The bad news is that I have a placenta previa. They will recheck it at about 30 weeks and probably at least once after that if it hasn't improved, but If it doesn't, I will be having a scheduled C-section. Joy. 
They didn't seem too optimistic because of where it was placed.
Laura, that must have been so scary for you to have gone through, with all the bleeding. I'm glad that it has stopped and baby is doing great-- a BOY! Yay!! I, too, had placenta previa, but I did not have any bleeding. A friend of mine had a similar episode of bleeding profusely as you did, and other than that she and baby were fine throughout the rest of the pregnancy. She had a vaginal delivery. I don't know how far away from the os the placenta was in her case, but in my case, I had complete previa. I had a few u/s as the pregnancy progressed, and it didn't move much in the beginning but towards the end it moved a lot-- but then slowed down. In the end, it was 0 cm from the os, and I had two maternal vessels that were situated close to the cervix in such a way that they would not let me have trial of labour-- I had to have a scheduled c-section. So much of the time, the placenta does move-- why are they thinking that yours won't move enough? If you ever want to private message me about anything, please feel free-- I researched things quite a bit, and I found that having that 'scheduled c-section' hanging over me to have quite an effect on me-- and there are things I know now that I wished I would have known about then... I may be a resource in some way, if you ever need it. At any rate, ((HUGS)) to you for having to go through that episode, and for having the previa. I really, really hope it moves!!!!
Vireos, glad to hear the appointment went well. Exciting to see the baby at the next u/s! And I'm happy to hear that you are feeling less nauseous and more energetic. Thanks for the words of encouragement around the nursing. I agree, it is just so much better if I make some changes so that I'm happier and that I can enjoy the breastfeeding relationship more. I have read Dr. Sears, and one thing he says is that if something you are doing is ending up leaving you feel unhappy or resentful, then you have to make a change. This past week has been so much better, because of DH taking over some of the night feeds. And also, on the w/e, he does a couple so that allows me to be more present for DS and not feel like I'm being torn in different directions with all the different needs of everyone. How much of an age difference will there be between your two? With mine, it's 22 months.
Deborah, sorry to hear you had a rough day. It's a good thing that not all days are/will be like that... I hope you have a good sleep tonight and you wake up to have an exceptional day tomorrow!
Vegan, how fantastic that you are going away! Nah, it should be an easy time with your two. I always find that my kids are great when we travel (well, this last trip was DD's first, but DD has been on 3 now). We had the kitchen, laundry, two bedrooms... king size bed in ours, and DD slept like a log because of all the fresh air and being snuggled in the Ergo so much when we were out and about. (We've been co-sleeping up until this past week). She only just started being an all-night nurser, since having a virus before Christmas and going through separation anxiety (oh my gosh, I can't even leave the room during the day without her crying). I miss those blissful half-asleep night feeds, when she would nurse every 2 or 3 hours and then just go back to sleep cuddled in next to me... I TOTALLY get what you are saying about wanting to spend some evenings alone with DH... in Antigua, once the kids were in bed, we would get a second wind but we couldn't go anywhere-- and it seemed like the nicer restaurants opened late. We ended up watching a whole bunch of cooking TV shows-- the ones where they had all kinds of competitions to be called master chef and all that. We still enjoyed ourselves, though. Our alternative would have been to have asked my in-laws to come on holiday with us-- and that wasn't going to happen! I love them dearly, but to spend more than two days with them would be just too hard.
Bucket, yes, yes, yes, the worry about allergies and all that has definitely come into my head. Thanks for sharing your experience. It`s so true, a person has to find what works for not only the family but for herself. Sanity is a good thing to have, I don't want to be sleep deprived and be a grumpy partner and mother, and above all, I don't want to be holding DD and have her pick up on negative vibes from me during the times when I'm finding her pats and kneads to be painful and annoying even. (When she is doing this, she also often squirms around and goes on and off repeatedly to see what's going on.) That's just the thing, she doesn't do it all the time... most of the time she's quietly nursing happily. I know that part of it is feeling 'touched out', which is something I know other mothers feel from time to time, too. And it's worse during certain times of my cycle. Since DH has taken on some of the night feeds this past week, I don't feel like that as much, and I have enjoyed nursing even with all the patting/kneading going on-- I still have to remember to make sure I have fabric between my side and her fingers! Anyway... Hey, I'm really glad that you are feeling better! No more Crinone, and the graduation from your RE!
Aura, have you been having fun thinking of names?
Hi to everyone else I have missed this time around!
Oh, and on the topic of vacations with baby, check out this website: http://www.travelswithbaby.com/blog/ask-shelly-best-winter-weekend-getaway-with-a-baby-in-northern-california/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+TravelsWithBabyTips+%28Travels+with+Baby+Tips%29
I really like her site, with all the tips she has for traveling with kids.
Thank you for all the well wishes. Today, I get to switch to Endometrin so hopefully I won't be in so much pain and I'm thinking that my nausea may have been exacerbated by pain. Unfortunately, 9 months later and someone asked me how the twins were doing. I didn't quite know how to respond and had the deer in the headlights look and she continued to push and say "the babies". That made me pretty sad having to tell someone again. My friend said, "I'm sorry" and "I've found she's not the brightest." and I said to my friend," that's why I don't want people guessing early about this pregnancy." My body has other plans, but it does make me very guarded. First ultrasound is Thursday. Today, if I'm up to it and my friend is up to it, we will go for a walk around 1 and I hope that will give me some stress relief. I watch her older kiddo regularly and got to hold and feed her new one (rainbow baby) the other day.
Tenzin: Thanks for the link to the site. I'm going to check it out this morning. :-) My oldest could not be in bed with me without being attached to my boob the entire time - until we night weaned her at 15 months. Then she *finally* learned to sleep next to me. This one does take herself off the boob eventually, but she is taking longer and longer to do it. Like usually I will nurse her and fall asleep and when I wake up she is not attached anymore. When she was more of a newborn she would take herself off as soon as she was done. Now I think she is spending more and more of the night attached to me since she is better at putting herself back on - it's slightly concerning as I don't want her to have to have a boob in her mouth the sleep, like my first kid did (though my first kid slept in a crib in her own room until about 3am when she would come into our bed - then we started cosleeping full time when she night weaned bc she was still waking 2-3x/night and we gave up).
Deborah: I hope you get some relief from the med change and enjoy your walk! I am so sorry you had to deal with telling someone about your loss. :-( That would definitely rattle me!! Yesterday we drove by the place where I had my u/s to confirm my baby had died when I had my miscarriage - I will never be able to go to that part of town without it bothering me and making me think of the son or daughter that isn't here. Hugs!
Cindy
I'm not feeling real well today, so I may postpone the walk. I just woke up again and don't really want to be up, but I need to eat and the furchildren are being pests. Laura-Belle: Glad they figured out the cause of the bleeding and the LO is okay.
Ughhh... I'm so behind!!!! Lets see... where to start!!!
Deborah - hope you get feeling better!! When's your next ultrasound?
Tenzi - I'll have to check out that site when i get a free min. Thanks for sharing!!!
Laura - so good to see your name again!! I was really worried about you!! Glad that the ultrasound went okay and that they found out why you are having the bleeding. Fingers crossed it goes away and all ends up well in the end so you can deliver the way you want.
Vegan - how do you like the Ergo?? I'm trying to work on a registry for showers and am always looking for suggestions on what i really need and what i don't need. Have you ever tried the baby bjorn? I got one of those for $6 at a baby sale and figured I can't go wrong for 6 bucks. Hope you get the sleeping thing figured out before vacation!!! Hawaii sounds fun! Never been there but would like to one day maybe.
Vireoes - what day is your scan?? Hope it goes well!! Keep us posted!
BOR - congrats on graduating!!!! How did your reg OB appt go??? Hope the nausea is letting up some as you get closer to 12 wks!!!
Kewpie - Happy B-day to your little ones!! I can't believe it has been a year!! Where does the time go!!
Renavoo - how is your little guy doing now w/ the cold? Hope that your princess didn't get it. Thinking of you!!!
Belly - how are you? Hope all is well.
Hope - thinking of you!!! Hope all is well!!
Aura - how are you doing?? I can't wait until you find out what you are having!!
Hi to everyone else i missed. I just was looking up on this page and trying to remember so i'm sure i missed some!! Sorry it is late and it's been a long day!!
AFM - We have our next ultrasound on Friday this week. It's either for a cervix check only or both a cervix and a growth check, won't know until we get there and the high risk dr. decides. Next week i have to start non-stress tests which are totally new to me and then i guess i have to start going every week there after. Those people are going to get tired of me. LOL I really over did today and am hoping that i can kinda lay low tomorrow. DH has been making good progress on the nursery and just has to paint trim and tomorrow the lady comes to measure for carpet. We ordered furniture but am waiting on an email telling us that it has shipped. Things are falling in place. That is it for me, as far as I can remember, but it is late and i'm tired so who knows what else i'm forgetting.
Blue- Our first ultrasound is this Thursday.
Congratulations Hope!
Hope - 
Congrats to you and your DH and big sister!!!! Can't wait to read your birth story and hear how everything went. Hope you are feeling okay and that the little guy is doing well!!!! So excited for you!!
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