rcr - isn't avoiding shots the best? Aside from the rhogam I haven't had a shot all pregnancy! I've only had a couple blood tests, barely any ultrasounds, and nobody but my husband sees my vagina anymore. It's wonderful! I am so not missing treatments.
tracyamber - I'll be looking forward to when you can join us.
suzie - oh no! Silly cat. I wonder what was up with that. Hopefully no more pooping outside the box. So glad you had a great night's sleep.
AFM - had my rhogam shot today. I was really nervous (I have anxiety when it comes to new medication), but having Dh with me helped. I had it done in the assessment room of the birthing floor of the hospital I'm giving birth at so I got to meet some of the nurses (oh my goodness they are so wonderful and fun! They kept cracking jokes the whole time and were so sweet), and see a tiny bit of the facilities. We waited in the most comfortable chairs ever. I almost fell asleep. Dh got a bit freaked out because there was a woman in labour there vocalizing through her pain and he asked if I would do that too.
I've found that even though I'm so far along I'm still having some trouble adjusting to being pregnant after fertility treatments and dealing with certain comments that I get. We were not quiet about our journey with infertility, and while I'm glad we weren't because some friends had thanked me for being open and helping them understand what people struggling with infertility may deal with more, in a way I think that backfired. Way back in the fall I started writing a blog post about what not to say to people dealing with infertility, but I never posted it because I found so many other great posts dealing with the same topic. Reading them and writing mine out felt really good and helped a lot. Right now I'm putting together a post on what not to say to someone who is pregnant after infertility, hoping it'll do the same. No idea if I'll ever actually post it. So far I've written out a few comments I've gotten personally and reflected on them. I won't copy and paste the entire thing, but here are the comments I've gotten..
"Why are you complaining/upset/emotional? You should be grateful you finally got pregnant." - this is the one I've gotten the most. I really don't complain much, but you know those days and when people ask, well they get the truth on those days.
"I told you if you were patient it would happen!" - Or maybe it had to do with all the treatments?
"You're pregnant? Let's hang out!" - I've gotten this from many facebook friends that I haven't really talked to in years. Suddenly I'm relevant!
"Is your baby going to be normal even though your doctor made it outside your body?" - yup.
"Why do you still care about infertility? You're pregnant now!" - got this in a PM on facebook after posting something on mothers day in honour of those struggling with infertility.
"Are you scared something will happen to your baby after you paid so much money to have it?" - are you serious?
I thought if any of you were interested, you could share some of the comments you've gotten. If you wouldn't mind me including them in my post, let me know. If it'll make you feel worse instead of better, please don't feel like you have to share. I know we all deal differently.