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[LiLStar]

Still totally stumped on a name?! I feel so PICKY! There are loads of names that I can think of or dh puts on his list that I love, in general. Like, if a friend named their baby that I'd say "oh thats beautiful, love it!" but when it comes to the reality of naming the baby in my belly there's not much that feels right. We don't know what it is so we have 2 names to choose! Although we have strong girl vibes and I'm *trying really hard* to not be overconfident but its really difficult to humor a boy name! Max was our 2nd choice for River and its still a contender this time, so we're mostly focusing on girl names. I literally lie awake every night trying to think of other names I could put on my girl list and come up empty. I've spent hours on nymbler! My top pick is Malia.. I *think* dh's top pick is Cora. Its hard to gauge his true opinion on Malia because since he knows its my fave, if he hated it he wouldn't just SAY SO. I hate having to dig his opinion out of him. But, I really don't want to force a name on him if he hates it. Too nice? :D hehe. Our name picking "score" is he picked Allie's name.. like from before she was conceived I always knew he wanted a little girl named Allie. I chose spelling, what it was short for (Allison), and middle name. River was pretty much my choice, and I let him have his way with the middle. Oh.. and I'm pretty set on a middle name if we have a girl. Unless we come up with another name we love that it totally clashes with. dh can pretty much sit down on some baby name site and produce a list of 20 names he likes. I might get like 5 (in 5x as much time) but most of them I'll pretty much be sort of "I like it.. but I don't know if its *my baby's* name" And I'll whittle his name list down to 3 that I could tolerate. 

Come to think of it, its not that I'm stumped, its that I'm set in my ways! The ONLY name that feels *really really* right for this baby is Malia. I just don't want to throw a tantrum to get my way because its dh's kid too. I like Cora, and it could be cute with my middle name choice (Cora Mae) but i just dont know if its "the one". I could compromise Melina which I think dh likes better and Lina is a cute nickname but then it would permanently disqualify Malia for any future kids..hmm... Some other names that I "almost like" but don't seem quite right are Miranda, Arwen, Arianna, Adrianna, Skye (too weird with River), Charlotte (3yo niece who we live by)..ehh.. can't remember what else. I really want to be able to have this kid named by the time s/he's born. River took us a few days. I want to be able to call up family to announce the birth and include a name in the announcement.

[Code Name Mama]

We're stumped on a boy's name. We finally settled on a girl's name this week, but I have searched through every source I can think of for a boy's name (I'm set on having an Irish/Gaelic name), and there's only two possible contenders - neither of which I love.
And also for a boy, we are going to use a family name from my side (our son's middle name is from DH's side), and I just don't have a lot to work with. I've just emailed my mom begging her to help me think of more possibilities.
It is hard work naming a baby!!

[Jaimee]

You're so not the only one!  We have the girl name picked, but not even an inkling of an idea for a boy.  None at all.  So basically unless this baby is a girl, it will be nameless for a while.  We simply have got nothing!

If you're set on Malia and he likes Cora, why not just have those two on the table for a girl and if it is a girl, wait and see if they feel right when you look at her?  Those names have very different feels to them- Malia is soft and 3 syllables so it feels more musical.  Cora is short and harder, stronger feeling.  I imagine that you could sort of feel it out when you see her. What about boy names?

[tnrose]

No, you're not the only one!  I have a name picked out, but I don't know that it's because I LOVE it so much as I can't find anything else I like better.

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I like Arianna and Skye (what about Skyler, using Skye as a  nickname, if you're worried about it sounding strange with River?  Although IMO, I think they sound great together!).  River was my top choice for a boy's name before I found out I was having a girl, so I love River!  I think Malia is pretty also, but would hate for your DH to decide too late that he doesn't like it!  Since he's not fighting you on it, maybe you could have Malia and one other name picked out as a "backup," then when she's born if DH doesn't think Malia suits her, you have something to fall back on?

Edited by tnrose - 11/19/11 at 2:47pm

[KayPea]

We are having the same dilemma. Only, we haven't settled on names for either sex. Last time we whittled a larger list down to 2 or 3 names, then waited to meet our baby before deciding which one fit the best. But our lists are literally dozens of names long that are mostly made up of names I like, but nothing that I love. I guess for a boy I'm still favouring our boy choice for DD, but I don't know if DH is 100% behind it, since he keeps suggesting other names. 

Sunday is our deadline though, and Sunday night we are having our NameFest. It's time to hash it all out. 

[rhombus]

I'm in the same boat!

We have a girl name we're about 98% on, but nothing for a boy. It took me days to name my almost 6-yr old son after he was born, and even though there are SO MANY NAMES in the world, I kind of feel like we picked the only thing we could agree on with him, and if this is another boy, we'll be in a real pickle. Part of the trouble is that I have so many weird "rules" about names. It doesn't actually leave a large pool of contenders.

I've had girl vibes all along, though. If I'm right, that sure would simplify matters.

[jasmin85]

::Sigh:: we have NO idea either...the only name that DH wants is Maverick, and I just can't bring myself to do it.  I've gone back and forth trying to be OK with it, but it just doesn't feel right at all.  I have no idea of what to put up against it though, I don't have any ideas for a name...I'm hoping that when he comes we'll figure it out.  I don't remember it being this difficult with DD!

[Krystal323]

We don't have anything definite picked out for either gender!  

OT, but my 9yo is named Lilianna   She seems to think it's a cool name, hehe!

[willsmomm]

ank you!Thank you! This is such a stressor for me... so glad I'm not alone! We are having our fourth boy. Problem: I don't like boy names! We used three really important family names for the first three and we are officially tapped out. What do you do with that? No idea, clearly. Good luck to all of us!

[IwannaBanRN]

I'm still stumped on a name as well. For a while, I was stuck on Dante, then I realized that people would get confused about ethnicity when I would bring up the name and I don't want that following him all his life. Then I was thinking Leif and then people kept saying "Oh, Leif Erikson? The viking?" Now, I'm thinking Levi. Levi is a good name to me. I just need a good middle name. I was thinking something with an "A". This is what makes me so glad I don't have to consult with someone else about a name. lol I'm ultimately thinking "Levi Jaxson Wheeler". Does that sound good? I think it flows nicely and I love the spelling. :)

[birdhappy85]

Becky - I love the name Levi! It sounds great with your other kids' names. I love the middle name too, although I would lean more towards spelling it "Jaxon" instead of "Jaxson." But either works! I know a family with a son named Jaxon and the name has stuck with me as one of my faves ever since. It looked so cool as decorative hanging block letters in their nursery. Hmm, I'll have to keep that in mind if DH and I ever have a boy... I wonder if he'd go for it... Heh

[IwannaBanRN]

I thought that too at first, Joanie but then I was like, what if someone thought it was pronounced (jacks-UN) instead of (jack-son). So I just added the "S" for good measure. lol I have block letters painted for the kids' names in their room on the wall above their bed. Michael's is red and Casey's is brown. :) It'll be nice to just buy four letters for "Levi". lol And I think I might do his in dark blue.

[jbk21]

I would do Jaxon too, since the x is both the K and S sound so another S is redundant.  I don't think when you say it that it could be "Jacks-un" but that's just me.  I just say "jaxon" like Jackson.  

[IwannaBanRN]

Maybe it's just in my head, but when I see it without the "S" I just hear the name with a French accent and I don't like it. lol

[Jaimee]

Originally Posted by willsmomm 

Problem: I don't like boy names!

My problem, too.  There just seem to be so many more meaningful girl names.  Boy names seem so blah to me and if you get too unique they sound crazy or feminine. 

Becky, my dh really, really likes the name Leaf.  I keep telling him it's totally off the table b/c people will assume Leif and think Leif Erickson. 

I know I've asked this a million times, but maybe someone has come up with a brilliant solution by now...    Any suggestions for a boy name that is similar to Autumn both in meaning and spelling?  The only name I can come up with is Auburn, but despite the fact that it's supposed to be a unisex name, I think it's very much a girl name.

[jbk21]

Really?  Interesting!  I've seen the name a lot and have some friends who named their sons Jaxon, so I think it's catching on and would be pretty recognizable. 

[IwannaBanRN]

It might be recognizable, but like I said without the s, in my head I just hear a French accent thinking of the name.

[Abraisme]

I agree.  I just checked the ssn baby name website and Jaxon was #99 for popularity in 2010 (Jackson was #25 and Jaxson was #172) and it's rising fast.  I think that it will be plenty recognizable either way. 

Also, no matter what you name your kids, someone will probably mis-pronounce it. 
 

Originally Posted by jbk21 

Really?  Interesting!  I've seen the name a lot and have some friends who named their sons Jaxon, so I think it's catching on and would be pretty recognizable. 

[jbk21]

Yep- people don't mispronounce mine when they see it, but they sure can't spell it.  I don't know where anyone got the idea that Jacquelyn is spelled "Jacklyn".  Ugh.  

And then they shorten it to Jackie.  I hate that.  I introduce myself as Jacquelyn.  If I wanted to be called Jackie I'd say that.  
 

[birdhappy85]

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Originally Posted by Abraisme 

Also, no matter what you name your kids, someone will probably mis-pronounce it. 
 

Ugh this couldn't be more true! My given name is Joan and I can't believe that people can mispronounce it in so many crazy ways. No joke. I hear JoAnn and Jean a lot. And don't get me started on people mispronouncing Joanie. They have actually said JoAnnie to me! Oh and the worst, wait for it... wait for it... JOHNNY! Seriously? How do you get the male name Johnny out of Joanie?

I think we just have a lot of people in this world who don't know how to read names very well, lol. Not to be mean, but I swear it's true!