Originally Posted by crazykittymomma
We tried night weaning...ended with her nursing more. :/ Plus, the way she is, I'm pretty sure anything I actually accomplish will be regressed when baby comes.
As for DH sleeping with her...haha...yeah, she won't put up with that. There must be a boob in her face for her to fall asleep. I have created a boobie monster!
I really don't mind them both being there and both being attached, I'm just trying to figure out how I'm going to make it work.
This is us too. And actually, DD had been sleeping through the night (most nights) in her own bed, in her own room. Night weaning never worked for us, I couldn't take the heartbreaking screaming that was the result, but she took to her own bed very well, at the time. Until 2 weeks ago, when she started a major regression. She started coming into our bed earlier and earlier, until she was pretty much in our bed all night, and back to nursing every couple of hours. Then she got croup, and I've been sleeping with her to keep an ear on her breathing, so I don't know what's going to happen with that. She's also experiencing a potty regression, having more accidents in a day then she did her first week of underwear! I'm so nervous about when the baby comes, will there be MORE regression? DD also needs the boob to sleep, and it has always taken me 30-90 minutes to put her down at night. And she won't take nighttime parenting from DH, no way, no how (more screaming.) This has been my biggest concern.
Anyway, I'm afraid I'm not much help, but I thought I'd let you know that I'm out here, going through the same thing.
As far as our sleeping arrangements go, we have a queen-sized bed, and have sidecarred a crib to one side for the baby. The sidecar is level with the bed, so I can actually lie right next to baby, and snuggle if that's what the baby needs, but the baby has their own firm mattress that doesn't get indented by my weight (I'm overweight.) I don't nurse a newborn side-lying because I have very large, squishy, smothery boobs, and I am way more likely to fall asleep lying down than in my nursing chair. So I won't be nursing two in bed until baby is at least 5 or 6 months old. But I do imagine that I will be taking turns nursing DD sidelying from the left (the only side she nurses on) and baby in the chair. Oh, that sounds terrible.
Some things we are toying with, that I am skeptical about: having DH in with DD in her double bed in her room. Bringing in a single mattress for the floor on the other side of the bed from the sidecar. I personally think in either of these cases, DD will just get out of bed, and climb in next to me looking for "mama milk" as usual.
At the moment we're not going to try nightweaning again, because I am almost 39 weeks, and baby could come anytime. If we tried nightweaning we'd be up half the night with a screaming toddler, and I need to be rested for labour. I'm hoping that once the baby comes there will be a tangible reason for DD to sleep elsewhere, and save the night milk for baby, or whatever, since DD really is quite reasonable for a 2.5 year old. This wish could backfire, of course, but we're just going to wait and see how it all works out.
Good luck to you, I hope you get some useful advice!