I am in a decision moment here and could use some opinions.
I am Brazilian, hubby American. We live in USA (very rural, no other Portuguese speaking person within hours...).
It was supposed to be easy: hubby speaks only English, I speak only Portuguese, baby learn both. Things were going well.
Hubby and I met an Ukrainian teenager through a mission and adopted her. So she arrived home when DD was 3 months. Problem was that she already spoke Russian and Ukrainian, and was brand new in English, so teaching her Portuguese was not an option when she came home. Also, I returned to work full time, so my time alone with DD when I could speak Portuguese only to her finished...
And my older daughter used to feel left out when I spoke to DD in Portuguese. So, I started talking English when older DD was in the house. But as consequence, my younger one lost all her Portuguese.
Now she is 20mo and other than few songs, can't understand or speak Portuguese. I am also pregnant again. expecting for Jan. So I thought of hiring a native nanny/au pair to live with us. That way, the two younger would hear Portuguese all day.
This is my "fear". Right now, our DD is in a day care that is fine. I don't love it, but is the best in the area. There is a spot for baby in there (saved). They have a waiting list. As I said before, we live in a rural area, with no other au pairs or international people. Not many partyign oportunities. So lets say I hire an au pair, she stays 3 months, hate the area and leave...
By that time I will have lost my spot in the day care and will have to find someone new (which scares me a lot). BUT if I stay in day care, chances are my girls will never learn Portuguese (which for my family in Brazil is a HUGE deal). Also I Would love to give the girls some more one on one attention (which does not happen in a day care with so many other kids)... BUT again, their day care is still very good. I'd say the best in the area.... Ideas? imput?